libertygirl88 Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I have posted a couple times; my live in bf left about 4 months ago ( end of July), we had been together 2 1/2 years. He is 36 and I am 38 and my 3 daughters lived w us; they are 17, 10 and 8. When he left, we had been fighting for a few months prior; he had lost his job and my grandma passed away; we were just taking our stresses out on each other and then one night we had a bad argument and he left and never came back. I really don't believe he was planning it as we had just looked at houses to purchase with the girls the day before and had more showing planned. My counselor actually thinks that it was actually "scared" him. Who knows? But anyway, we have never quit having contact; mostly text. He says he believes that from the fighting, we destroyed the basis of any relationship which is friendship and we have to start by rebuilding "from the bottom up". He came the week of Halloween and carved pumpkins, came on Halloween to see the girls dressed up, brought the girls bday presents, is coming w me on Dec 6th to my daughter's concert. But if I question him "about us", he says that he is ready to start rebuilding slowly, whenever things get tough he runs and not to push him. We do live in a VERY small town and I know he isn't seeing anyone else... He says that is my choice to give him time or not, he's not "keeping me on a string"... I really thought he was my future.... I just don't know what to think.... Last night I was telling him (via text) how my oldest has been having a hard time and we are planning a time to actually get together and talk about it. Any thoughts??
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