innocentbabe45 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I never thought those that got caught red-handed with it can actually feel remorse until the same exact thing happened with my cousin who's in a 4 year relationship with her boyfriend. It took place on their 1st year of their relationship. I am friends with the boyfriend as well and I got to say he is attractive, he should have had another girl but that is his choice. However, I know my limits and would never hit on him. Anyways the things happened a) She got caught up in a petting session it was rather at her house as he wanted to surprise her for Valentine's day b) He took her back, now what a nice guy c) He never got back at her, basically he doesn't believe on revenge and has long forgiven her but it sure was a lot of working out but she didn't mind at all. She kept telling me whatever time it takes for me to gain back his trust, I messed up big time and would basically cry her way about it when she reminded herself of her action. Needless to say I consider my cousin a very lucky girl as I know for sure my finace would have kick me out the door on the spot. Same goes for him. I would never be able to look him in the eyes esp. after what I saw. By the way the boyfriend plans on surprising her with a ring on New Year but shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, he made me promise not to tell her. Feel terrible for lying though.
Lucky_One Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Of course stories like this happen. She made a mistake, they were both upset about it, they worked on the issues and worked it out, and now they are talking about getting married. The "petting session" or whatever was 3 years ago. They have gotten past it. The question is - why haven't YOU gotten past it?
Woggle Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 He shouldn't have forgiven her but he did and it happens all the time. Men don't seem to have a spine these days.
Author innocentbabe45 Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 The question is - why haven't YOU gotten past it? No I was only asking. I never got mad at her, hey that's what cousins are there for, we're like sisters. But see if she would have told me earlier rather than after he discovering it, I would have cover up for her and make up a lie. I always used to like the guy, come to think about it we could have made a great match but oh well he only sees me as a friend. But that's just my thought, I will never tell her nor him about this off course. Actually lucky, she still doesn't know he wants to marry her, it's suppost to be a new year surprise, but this between me and him, our secret.
Author innocentbabe45 Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 He shouldn't have forgiven her but he did and it happens all the time. Men don't seem to have a spine these days. I know right, my fiance on the other hand made it clear from day one that he will not tolerate any type of cheating, not even if it was a drunken kiss. We're on the same page on this one. I guess some people can't forgive while others like me can't. They sure must be superman.
Woggle Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I know right, my fiance on the other hand made it clear from day one that he will not tolerate any type of cheating, not even if it was a drunken kiss. We're on the same page on this one. I guess some people can't forgive while others like me can't. They sure must be superman. Your fiance is a smart man.
Author innocentbabe45 Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 Makes wonder, if she cheated on her relationship, got caught and still got away with it then she can cheat also once they get marry makes no difference. But yes that's him, lucky I don't have a doormat.
samsungxoxo Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Makes wonder, if she cheated on her relationship, got caught and still got away with it then she can cheat also once they get marry makes no difference. But yes that's him, lucky I don't have a doormat. Off course she can cheat on him again in their marriage, he just made the stupidest making of giving her ''green light'', thus a free pass. Then again I heard some people actually learn from it and never do it again but that's just me. I wouldn't take that risk of being burned again if I was him.
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