Do you think he is breaking up with me?

[Copperkitty007]

My relativly new BF and I (although we have known each other for almost a yr before dating) are having a few arguments. To me it is just us learning about each others quirks and how to communicate, not sure if he feels the same.

 

But today in e-mail he said he might stop by after work.

 

I responded by saying ok, i could make us dinner and he didnt respond. A little while later i called him (talking seems better than e-mail as we seem to have a lot of mis-understandings in e-mail) and asked if he was interested in dinner and he was not very clear. So i came out and asked him if he was coming to have a "hello nice to see you visit or something else" (meaning a difficult discussion - maybe a breakup) and he responded right away, "No its a hello nice to see you visit"

 

So do you think he really meant it and just wants to say hi or is he passing up dinner b/c he feels bad to have me make him dinner when he is going to break up with me?

 

Thanks

[PrincessPeach]

I think he probably feels similar to you, and may be wondering the same thing you are, but only about you instead of you about him. I'd guess his wanting to stop by would be to let you know in a non verbal way that he does feel the way you're feeling and hopes that you two are fine together.

 

Many times after these types of aguments I've found that both sides don't harbor any ill feeling toward one another and often try to do something smallish to make sure the other sort of knows he is in good standing.

[Copperkitty007]

thanks Princess, funny you say that b/c i then offered to him to maybe just come to him since he has been so stressed at work, just so i could make things easier. he seemed a bit shocked and said "thanks, i will let you know based on how late i have to work." i really care about him and hope that he can see that a few disagreements are jsut us working out the kinks . . .