My mans being elusive....

[girlstar]

Ill try to keep this short and sweet....

So Ive been dating this guy for about a month and a half, we hang 3-4 times a week. He will usually call or text me once a day to say hi, the normal "thinking about you" stuff. Everything seems fine right?

 

Well about two weeks ago we had "the talk"and both agreed we want to pursue this relationship.

 

Then Friday happened...

We found ourselves getting into conversations about our past, family, friends and Ex's. I feel we both bonded and connected during this convo because we went through very simular situations, we lived, learned and can now look back and have no animosity.

It was all fine until I mentioned that my ex is getting married and I was invited to attend. He asked if I was going, and I replied that I was "mulling it over". His reply back was a chuckle and saying "I wont let you go and torture yourself".

End of that conversation... onto the next.....

 

Then, he mentions a previous conversation with his buddy about "Whos this *insert my name here* girl your DATING" <--- key work dating! we had "the talk" but were still dating? Whaaa?? For me dating is no way associated with exclusivity.

 

So now I feel a bit lost... Hes been oddly quiet, no daily fun flirty texts, he flaked on our plans Sunday, no phone calls. All out of the blue.

 

Ultimately what I would like to get at is

1. did I just sabotage us because I mentioned and ex's wedding?

2. Whats with me being refered to as the "girl hes dating"? when I should be "the girlfriend"...makes me feel like were not on the same page.

 

 

WOw...so much for being short and sweet

[kdark]

I think you are worrying too much about what "dating" means. His definition could very well be different than yours. I know if I said I was dating a girl it would imply it was exclusive. And guys never say to their guy friends they are "in a relationship" with a girl.

[kashmir]

I think you're over-reacting. First of all, he was quoting what his friend said. Secondly, the two terms aren't that different. Saying two people are "dating" is very general and can refer to a lot of things. I wouldn't worry about it.

[amymarieca]

You are over-analyzing the situation. You just have to take things as they come. I've even used the term "dating" after a guy had been my boyfriend for eight years. You are going to make yourself crazy with all these thoughts going on in your mind. It is hard, I know, but I am a woman too and I know how tempting it is to let these thoughts run through your mind. It is almost like instinct for us. I've learned though, after having my heart broken many many times, to not invest so much emotion into a person. It has been quite liberating for me and I don't get upset over things that I used to.