Unrequited love, what a demon!

[Lost-prince]

Well, putting it simply, I have a crush on a girl, who from my own observations isn't so interested in me yep bummer, but of course, that's only the tip of the ice-burg. I'm generally frustrated with me as a person, because it's only been unrequited crush after crush after crush, and I've wasted away three years of my life with these crushes, but never have I walked away with the hand of a fair maiden in my own.

 

See this current girl, for a start she's two years older than me, which I thought was the cut-off point. I thought perhaps she might have been interested in me. We were quite chummy, my mum said that the way she looked at me when we talked was quite promising.... and then later, it just went bad. I asked her out for coffee, she accepted, but when we did, she didn't seem the least interested, in fact she only spoke about her ex boyfriends.

 

The problem I have with unrequited love is how stupid I become. I read into things too much, one compliment and it becomes "she likes me!" one sign of disinterest and it's a "she hates me, she never wants to see me again!"

 

I also waste alot of energy liking these girls, and for every unsuccessful crush, my confidence lowers. Before I would complement a girl all I liked to charm her, but then I saw this didn't work, and just dropped it. This sounds bad, but I have so much to give, I'm very romantic. I see all these guys from college who seemingly have new girlfriends every week, and I think "what's your secret?".

 

I often think that perhaps I just tend to go for the wrong girls. Sometimes I think there must be something about my personality girls just don't like, and when they get to know me, any thought of me being BF material dies. But then. thing with my is, I'm quite choosy at the same time (not a good combination), I prefer girls who are quite natural. I don't like the kind of girl who cakes their faces with make-up, or just sluts simply.

 

And another problem with unrequited love.... I never win anything at the end. I think I've surpassed the "learn a lesson" boundary, in fact it's getting tedious now. I mean, if anyone can empathise, we compare ourselves to heroes, fighting for this one goal.... the one triumph we will never win. You want someone to sympathise. Sometimes you think that if this person knew how much pain you felt thinking about them all the time, that perhaps they'd like you magically. But that's a foolish thought, because it can never happen that way!

 

I think I'm mostly frustrated with the "Oh look, it's an unrequited crush again... whoopdedooo"

 

Oh well.... one day it'll pay off.... maybe

[UnamedSeven]

Wow. I definetly know how you feel. I wasted my time hoping for something between me and quite a few girls, but it never worked out in the end. I did this so much last year, that i don't even know how to stop since i'm so accustomed to doing it. Whats also really annoying is that, when i get a crush on someone, my heart thinks, "She's the one!!". After i get over the whole thing, over several months of fail, i instantly fall for someone else and it feels even stronger than the last time. Sorry, i'm kinda rambling..

 

Anyway, i always feel that feeling after a conversation between me and this one girl i have a crush on, my mind is thinking that she really hates me, or really likes me. This happens all the time. And i think back to the conversation later that day, and i think "what was i thinking??".

 

What i know, especially from experience, is that within just this past year, i've been completely ripped inside-out by people who i claimed to have loved. It seems like they are just coming and going without any care. I lived by a saying, that i now know is wrong. I know that time does not heal all wounds. It merely lowers the degree of pain by a lot, over time. But, thats it. If you feel such a great attraction to someone, the best thing may be for you to let go. Don't let it turn into anger against this person. I did that, and i cant look at some of my ex-crushes the same way anymore. I held/holding a grudge against them for not liking me and i can't go back to how i used to be

[Yamaha]

If you want to be a lover quit being a women's friend.

Stop taking the friends route to finding a gf and be the man you're supposed to be and do the asking if you want more than friendship.