cherryade Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Those of you who have read my first post know the deal: LDR, everything seemed ok, booked holiday with him, next day he cheats and chooses her over me. Pretty much NC since, and he hasn't made any effort to contact me. So today I've heard from a friend that he's actually using the flights I booked with MY money. I'm livid. It's a cheap airline so there's not a huge amount of money involved, and I'm not going to cancel them now just because I know he intends to use them (I hadn't before because I wouldn't get any money back anyway). But his arrogance amazes me. What a ****. On the plus side, I've heard that he's much more into the new girl than she is into him...
Geishawhelk Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I take it you are at least going to ask him for the money back. Judge Judy would say he has to pay it back.....
Author cherryade Posted November 19, 2008 Author Posted November 19, 2008 His opening line when he was dumping me was "is the holiday refundable? i'll give you the money" but obviously no sign of it, he doesn't even know how much it was. if i was talking to him i'd ask for it, but as i'm not it'll have to wait. he hasn't even checked the flights still exist! a lot of people would have cancelled them anyway. am i missing something? i hope he wasn't this much of an idiot the whole time we were together, cos that makes me a 1st class fool.
Author cherryade Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 So, yesterday was quite good because it gave me another excuse to be mad at him because he's clearly an idiot. But today I've taken a huge step backwards - my mobile started ringing at work, and it was a number with his country code but it wasn't his number. I ignored it, but they kept on trying. In the end had to answer cos I don't know anyone else out there and I was worried something had happened. But no, it was him. He wanted a favour! I was actually shaking afterwards from the shock of hearing his voice. I couldn't help him with the favour. Feel bad for answering the phone.
fishtaco Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Wow! What a loser. I'm sorry you had that experience. But sometimes when someone that is clearly being a douche or whore, it's actually easier to tell them to f-off and move on. You should have said you refused to help him with the favor instead of you couldn't help him. Sounded like you would have helped him if you could. It does make you feel like a fool though. Been there done that. I'm not sure about how to handle that. I thought I was stupid and beat myself over the head repeatedly (non literally) that I had fallen for this particular psycho drama queen many years ago. Obviously time heals everything, but I'm not sure if there's a good way of dealing with that.
Author cherryade Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 I don't know if I'd have helped him if I could. He only wanted me to forward him an email. But I didn't have it. It obviously hasn't occurred to him that I'd delete or thow away a load of stuff to do with him. He's that arrogant. But anyway, I probably would have helped him out, I'd like to think I'm the bigger person. But then there's a fine line between adult/civilised and doormat. I think he thinks I am a doormat. Maybe I was. Apparently he doesn't like the idea of me seeing someone else. Tough.
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