amaysngrace Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 "...psychologizing".......? what are you..the word police?
grogster Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 "...psychologizing".......? To speculate in psycholgical terms. To discount the post by ascribing psychological motives to the poster. Passive aggressive behavior, if I may psychologize.
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 If one woman prefers guys who are at least 6' 4" with a 10 inch tool, and could care less about his IQ, etc., that's her choice. She's not shallow. Rather, she has strong preferences in certain areas. Likewise, men who want model thin women with large breasts are not shallow. They simply prefer a physical type. When it comes to body preferences, individual differences rule. I wouldn't want it any other way. Sexual attraction is one area where we should not feel guilty for discriminating. Desire is not politically correct. "Shallow" is the epithet of those who don't make the cut. If all she's looking for is the superficial, then she'd better solely be seeking a short-term dalliance. Hoping that physical attraction can carry a long-term relationship or marriage, isn't realistic or terribly bright. Beyond that, I agree with you. People are attracted to what they're attracted to. There's no formula. But... If you're a whiner, in that you seek a specific superficial formula and then cry because there's no one out there for you, I have zero sympathy. Shaddup or change your formula.
You'reasian Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I've said it before, there is something so hot about a guy being just a little taller than you, when you hug and kiss, feeling closer to him because his face and chest are aligned with yours, yet he is still stronger than you! *melts* Shorter than me, though? I'm 5'4, and I can't see it. *shrugs* I'm a big fan of 5'10, if I could sketch out my ideal bf he would be that height. Would you be okay with 5'11"?
flc Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 If all she's looking for is the superficial, then she'd better solely be seeking a short-term dalliance. Hoping that physical attraction can carry a long-term relationship or marriage, isn't realistic or terribly bright. Agree, using physical attributes as one of many criteria when dating is not shallow, using a physical attribute as the sole criteria is.
grogster Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 If all she's looking for is the superficial, then she'd better solely be seeking a short-term dalliance. Hoping that physical attraction can carry a long-term relationship or marriage, isn't realistic or terribly bright. Beyond that, I agree with you. People are attracted to what they're attracted to. There's no formula. But... If you're a whiner, in that you seek a specific superficial formula and then cry because there's no one out there for you, I have zero sympathy. Shaddup or change your formula. I agree 100%. You're mostly describing self-deluded, young males. These guys have no clue about assortative mating, and they richly deserve their misery and loneliness.
BentSpine Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 On the other hand, I think most men who like to date/end up dating taller women are usually submissive. Then I know of one man who doesn't belong to 'most'.
Shygirl15 Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Then I know of one man who doesn't belong to 'most'. Good for you.
BentSpine Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 ADDED: I'm 5 feet 9½. As long as the height picky women aren't the overwhelming majority, can I say "To each his own". Who am I to judge the women for absolutely needing a tall man, when I myself absolutely need wide hips & smaller waist on the woman.
lovestruck818 Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I'm short ( 5'7") and if a women doesn't want to get to know me because of my height that is find with me. Life is to short to worry about why people want what they want so just move on and find that gal that appreciates you. They are out there!!!!!! I'd get to know ya....altho 5'7" is a little tall for me, lol. Can you be 5'5"?
D-Jam Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I still say it's ok to like what you like in terms of the physical...provided those with those physical features will like you in return and be the kinds of mates you want them to be. A 5'2" girl wanting a guy 6'3" or more is pointless if every guy she meets of that height doesn't want her and/or treats her badly when they do date. Meaning in her dating pool she has to choose either shorter guys who will be good mates to her, or taller guys who will disappoint her. "So how is that working out for you?"
Author Bells Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 People are attracted to what they're attracted to. There's no formula. Actually, I think they are attracted to some men that might be shorter, however, they are thinking they could do SO much better. So they ARE attracted to some guys, however, the grass is always greener, right?
Meet 4 Coffee Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I see it this way. You're either attracted or you're not. However, there can be times when you find yourself attracted to someone that is not your usual physical type. There is nothing wrong with preferences because you can't help what you are biologically attracted to.
RecordProducer Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 He said he kind of understood an already TALL women (like 5'10") not dating a 5'8" man.....but a woman that's an average women ht..somtimes 5'2" only requiring to date a 6 foot tall man, is quite absurd. I also wouldn't date about 90% of the population because I am not attracted to them physically. But I am glad that you're not picky at all about height, weight, facial features, shape of body, etc. Because if you are picky, then who are you to tell me that my preferences are absurd and yours are not?
amaysngrace Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 My one sister married a man who is 6'11''. He is one of my favorite people but she almost didn't want to like him when they first started dating because he is too tall. She didn't like the idea of being noticed wherever they went and believe me people notice him. I think it turned her into an NPD because now she is an attention whore.
ipetree Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 For all this pickiness what are men getting in return? Your main selling point is easy to obtain these days. Especially by the tall successful men you seek. Think about it.. American feminist women are like the automobile companies. Men can get a well made sleak and sexy foreign model that performs better at half the cost, with a better guarantee. So you can be as picky as you like..
amaysngrace Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Men can get a well made sleak and sexy foreign model that performs better at half the cost, with a better guarantee. Wow...I think you just described recordproducer.
RecordProducer Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Wow...I think you just described recordproducer. Hahaha! You're funny. Half the price? You still need American gasoline to maintain the car. And the used-car dealer closed the shop, so no warranty. On a more serious note, both sexes are picky in their own ways. The pickier the more difficult to find a partner. Picky people pay their price for their high criteria. Those who claim that being picky about this or that is ridiculous are welcome to date those who want them. I think it's ridiculous how men complain that women don't want them because they lack looks, but they are talking about the women that THEY want. What about the women who love them the way they are? Oh, no, those women they don't want cuz they're not attractive enough.
Charles1978 Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I'm 6'1" and for some reason I always end up dating small girls. One of my ex's used to say that we "fit together" perfectly. At outdoor concerts, or during Mardi Gras parades on a cold night, it is nice when the top of their head only comes up to my chin. Good for hugs, and being close while stading up. It also makes for perfect spooning!
Humbleman Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Actually, I think they are attracted to some men that might be shorter, however, they are thinking they could do SO much better. So they ARE attracted to some guys, however, the grass is always greener, right? You sound bitter. I don't like very short women and I will always try and pursue a woman who is at most 3' shorter than me. I also like women who are 3' taller than me. I was attracted to a woman who was 5'2 and I didn't bother going for? Why? Because I didn't have to go for her, because I know there are hundreds of millions of other women in the world. You don't realize how easy the dating world is for men. Young men especially.
Author Bells Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 You sound bitter. I don't like very short women and I will always try and pursue a woman who is at most 3' shorter than me. I also like women who are 3' taller than me. I was attracted to a woman who was 5'2 and I didn't bother going for? Why? Because I didn't have to go for her, because I know there are hundreds of millions of other women in the world. You don't realize how easy the dating world is for men. Young men especially. Actually, it's easier for the women, not the men. Because men have to do the chasing, put up with being blown off and/or rejected, unreturned phone calls, etc, etc. Women have to just sit back and let the men ask them out.
Author Bells Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 I also wouldn't date about 90% of the population because I am not attracted to them physically. But I am glad that you're not picky at all about height, weight, facial features, shape of body, etc. Because if you are picky, then who are you to tell me that my preferences are absurd and yours are not? Okay, maybe more UNrealistic than absurd. The vibe I get from his clients is that even if they DID find a guy 6 feet or taller, marry him, she will wind up in a miserable marriage anyways, because she's seeking men out as some kind of "pedigree" as to real happiness.
Blackfrost Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I would have to admit that I might fall into this height snob thing as well. I'm 6'2" and have always had a general preference for women of about 5'8" or taller. For some reason I have always felt strange hanging around girls who were 5'5 or smaller (I know this might sound stupid) but its always made me feel like I'm taking advantage of some young girl (even if they are my exact age) - I have no idea why I've always felt like this - so I've always looked for taller girls.
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