Bells Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 An interesting article.....this sounds pretty grim. Dating column: Women hypocrites for refusing to date short men I was really taken aback when even short, petite 5'2" about the "Heels" on her shoes. LOL What's up with that? These Single women actually count their SHOES as part of their height?
ShevLizzard Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Interesting read. I, like most women, would not date a shorter man. But then again... I wouldn't expect a man to date me for being overweight etc. Maybe I'm just shallow.
LittleDove Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I personally am not attracted to guys my height, 5'2. I tried, it just feels wrong, maybe because im so small. I wanna be on tippy toes when I kiss! They have to be a 'bit' taller than me, and thats not too tall!
ShevLizzard Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I wanna be on tippy toes when I kiss! Ditto.
Geishawhelk Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 At 4' 10" I couldn't possibly do anything else!!
fral945 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Interesting read. I, like most women, would not date a shorter man. But then again... I wouldn't expect a man to date me for being overweight etc. Maybe I'm just shallow. A better analogy for height in men would be breast size in women. Weight is controllable. Height and breast size aren't.
Jersey Shortie Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Well, height is out of your hands. Weight can go either way. Some women really can't control their weight and have a certain body type. Some women can and don't control their weight. I don't need to date someone 6 feet to be turned on by him. I have the hots for Seth Green (actor) and I think he is all of 5'4. Ironcially, I find this a funny article from you Fral, you are always talking about wanting a younger woman. That's not something a man or woman can control at all. Yet men hold it against us if we age.
carhill Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 This may sound odd, but when my wife wears shoes which make her taller, I find her more sexually attractive. I'm not talking about the type of shoes, but rather that she is taller. In marked contrast, generally, I don't find taller women more or less attractive than shorter women. By taller, I mean a woman my height (5'10" now that I'm older) and shorter (my wife is 5'1"). Anyway, on-topic, I think women should maintain and not feel the need to defend any personal dating preference they have. If that means a 6' woman doesn't find me dateable/attractive/whatever, I'm cool with that (or was when I was single, anyway). Bells, IIRC, you're not height-challenged....any personal relevance here?
grogster Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Over the years, I've asked women I know about the physical/appearance deal breaker in men. The overwhelming majority said lack of height relative to them. It wasn't baldness, flabbiness, obesity (although that was second) or many a male's (at leat here)favorite obsession, penis size. It turns out that many women are "size queens," but as to height. Height matters.
ShevLizzard Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Breast size is controlable. And what with padded bras you never know these days. Seth Green and Jimmy Carr both tickle my pickle and both smaller than myself. I guess I have to put up with this problem of height. I prefer a guy 6 foot plus [well when I was single] but I am 5 feet 8 inches. It leaves me the option of wearing heels that way.
grogster Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 My man is barely taller than me, but what a man! Fortunately he doesn't have the chip on his shoulder that often comes with the lack of height, and he is very nicely equipped. He's also very handy and intelligent, and quite motivated. If I had refused to date him based on his height, I would have missed out BIG time! That's the problem with strict adherence to appearance standards: one can over-exclude. Flexibility in all things--especially in matters of the Heart.
ShevLizzard Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 My friend has very small breasts... well had. She decided she'd rather be fat than flat. She's happy now. I guess men can appreciate plus size women in this day and age.
Humbleman Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Why is that people get uptight about other people's preferences? If women want a man who is taller than they are; then that is one of their requirements. I don't super-skinny or fat girls, I also don't like fake looking women and women with a chest as flat as an ironing board, they are just my preferences and I'll be damned if I let someone change them.
amaysngrace Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 A lot of men are insecure and self-conscious because they aren't 6'4''. I don't mind if a man isn't too tall, I'm on the short side of average, but if he can't accept it about himself I find that very unattractive.
O'Malley Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 It's useless to lose sleep over someone's else's arbitrary criteria. Plus the criteria usually changes over time and with experience, especially when you start to gain inches or lose them in different areas.
Author Bells Posted November 19, 2008 Author Posted November 19, 2008 Anyone actually read the article?
Shygirl15 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 On the other hand, I think most men who like to date/end up dating taller women are usually submissive.
amaysngrace Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Anyone actually read the article? yeah that's where I came up with the magical 6'4'' number. I know a few men who are very self-conscious of their height. It shows. They aren't comfortable being so short. You can tell. I think that is unattractive. More than being on the short size is. My exH is about 5'8'' or 5'9''. Maybe even 5'6'' or 5'7''? I don't know. He was taller than me. His height never even crossed my mind until I see my kids at school and realize they are shorter than most. Maybe women use this as a criteria for reproduction? The same way a man will notice and appreciate the shape of a woman's hips? Surely a woman cannot help the shape her hips come in. Surely she can't do a thing about the waist/hip ratio that matters to so many men. Some women are apple shaped rather than an hourglass. They hold weight there and can't ever have meat where they want it because they aren't built that way. So the same rules apply to men too. What is the point of this thread?
Lizzie60 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Nope.. my men have to be tall and fit.. and have a nice average or above-average one..
kashmir Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I gotta say this...I'm in between 6'1" and 6'2" and still growing, and I sometimes feel short, even though only about 1 out of every 25 guys is taller than me, and it's usually only by an inch. Then again, I do a sport where I'm surrounded by guys who are at least 6'4", so I'm the short guy on the team. I think being around them has influenced my perception of myself a lot, and I usually don't realize how tall I actually am. And I've seen plenty of short guys get girls over me. Honestly, even though women say they won't date a shorter guy, I don't think that holds water.
Trialbyfire Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Call me a hypocrite but I won't date a man under 5'2.5"!
Lizzie60 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I should add that I don't see why it would be any worst than overweight, balding guys looking for fit attractive women.. What up with THAT???
amaysngrace Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I should add that I don't see why it would be any worst than overweight, balding guys looking for fit attractive women.. What up with THAT??? Then they need a lot of money. Truckloads.
Shygirl15 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 And I've seen plenty of short guys get girls over me. Honestly, even though women say they won't date a shorter guy, I don't think that holds water. Right. It's a combination of so many other things, Kashmir, not just height. There are instances where I rejected a much taller guy and went out with someone shorter.
Lizzie60 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I gotta say this...I'm in between 6'1" and 6'2" and still growing, and I sometimes feel short, even though only about 1 out of every 25 guys is taller than me, and it's usually only by an inch. Then again, I do a sport where I'm surrounded by guys who are at least 6'4", so I'm the short guy on the team. I think being around them has influenced my perception of myself a lot, and I usually don't realize how tall I actually am. And I've seen plenty of short guys get girls over me. Honestly, even though women say they won't date a shorter guy, I don't think that holds water. Have you ever thought that it could be something else ... (not your height )
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