fromlonelytogreat Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 We work in the same profession, but I am effectively behind a few years. I am very ambitious and will continue to strive for success.
prettybaby Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Yes and I did. Ambition is attractive. I wouldn't want somebody who makes less AND is lazy.
ShevLizzard Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Yes. Money has nothing to do with a relationship. At least you are working.
Geishawhelk Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I'm with a partner who earns nothing at all at the moment. I am supporting him through University. It's not a problem for me, at all.
carhill Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Money has nothing to do with a relationship. The optimistic refrain of the young and unmarried I've never met a married woman who said that. Looking forward to it. I know it's a woman-centric thread but I couldn't let that one go....
lino Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I've never met any women who would form a relationship with a man who earns less than them.
Bells Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 We work in the same profession, but I am effectively behind a few years. I am very ambitious and will continue to strive for success. Yeah, but think about it....we're in a recession......some women are going to have to adapt.
ShevLizzard Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 The optimistic refrain of the young and unmarried Actually I have supported my last three partners through financial distress. Judging my opinion based on my age is rather naive. I didn't realise that this forum was not for young and unmarried people. Upon that note I feel you imply that a relationship is less relevant without the bond of marriage. Also I find it rather ironic it says "Supporting" beneath your name.
carhill Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Why do you date people? If you're not considering a relationship, what does their income matter? You pay for what you can; they pay for what they can. It says "supporting" under my name because I contribute financially to the operations of the forum. I make less than they do Looks like I found another fan
ShevLizzard Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 In my relationship we have a "what's yours is mine and mine is yours". We share everything, financial and other; equality. A price cannot be put on love.
2sure Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Years ago I was in a relationship with a guy who made less than me. It was not a problem for me until he started to take advantage and then just quit his job. Maybe because of that experience - but I never again considered a realtionship with a guy who made less.
manugeorge Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I've never met any women who would form a relationship with a man who earns less than them. well, nice to meet you:D He's a 7th grade teacher so I know for sure he will never rake in the big bucks, unless he wins the lottery. It doesn't bother me to contribute a little more than he does to our expenses. He's a hardworking man who chose a less glamorous profession just so he can contribute something positive to society. He loves his job and loves teaching those kids. What else can a girl ask for?
Shygirl15 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Unfortunately, no. It may be hard for me to do that. I wouldn't mind if he earns the same as myself, but lower than me would be a problem.
Lizzie60 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Nope.. not a chance.. I can't stand 'broke' people.. or people who lives from pay check to pay check.. He has to make as much or more.. not les.. That would be a deal breaker..
kashmir Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 What if the guy has a good and challenging job that he loves but doesn't make a very high salary? It seems like in the dating world, "successful" jobs are doctors, lawyers, and corporate jobs. What about guys like scientific researchers? While we may not make a ton of money for ourselves, we do very valuable work. I guarantee it's a lot more beneficial to humanity than someone in the corporate world who is just trying to make more money for himself.
Shygirl15 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 While we may not make a ton of money for ourselves, we do very valuable work. Nice, but... how does the valuable work play role in the relationship?
kashmir Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Just as big of a role as money should play. You're going to tell me that being with someone who makes a ton of money is better than being with someone who loves his job, makes less but still decent money, and is doing something really interesting and beneficial to humanity? My point is being successful shouldn't = making a lot of money.
Shygirl15 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 You're going to tell me that being with someone who makes a ton of money is better than being with someone who loves his job, and is doing something really interesting and beneficial to humanity? Definitely not. But someone who does both is the best. And this is the one I am willing to date.
kashmir Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Definitely not. But someone who does both is the best. And this is the one I am willing to date. Fair enough. Granted, I'm still an undergrad and obviously not making any money besides my part-time waiting job (and buying and selling stuff on ebay and craigslist to make a few hundred dollars here and there). Eventually though I'll probably be in the position of a researcher at some lab. Who knows, maybe it's better pay than I think it is (especially for some biotech companies).
Shygirl15 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 My point is being successful shouldn't = making a lot of money. The proof of success is making a decent living. I have never heard of a poor, successful person.
Shygirl15 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Scientific researchers I know make a very decent pay. I'm not sure why you think so low of that profession. I currently work closely with researchers, and they are the smartest people I know. Most make more than the average pay.
fral945 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 The proof of success is making a decent living. I have never heard of a poor, successful person. You obviously don't know many people then.
refurb Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Unfortunately, no. It may be hard for me to do that. I wouldn't mind if he earns the same as myself, but lower than me would be a problem. So a guy who spends his life comforting AIDS orphans in Africa just wouldn't cut the muster for you? Not good enough? RF
Treasa Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I graduated with a much more technical and marketable degree than my boyfriend did, and I work in my field for a very good company, so I definitely make a lot more. He does fine financially - I just happen to do better - and almost always insists on paying when we go out (I let him do so half the time). He's really good with his money, so it all works out.
Trialbyfire Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Historically, 99% of the guys I've dated made less than I do. That's okay, as long as they don't affect my lifestyle. Once it impacts on my lifestyle, no go. I will not support a man.
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