Eng215 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Ok, Heres the scoop. We broke up 6 months ago... we went out for almost 2 years. I was 18 when we started and she was 16... It was a great relationship. It was both our first real serious relationship. Anyway, she broke it off telling me that we were going in two different directions. Anyway last week when i was working I get a text from her.. Note we havent talked "AT ALL" for 6 months. Her text was "Kevin did I leave my books in your dorm room"? A little weird but I responded by saying its Kyle.... She apoligised and said that Kevin and Kyle were right next to eachother on her phone and that she hit me by mistake... Ok fine no worries and I thought that that would be the end of it. O but it wasnt. She asked how I was and I followed suit. She gave me like a four page text on how she loves college and everything and at the end of the text out of no where she said "Kevin is great." Ok cool you found a bf congrats. So she asked me what I was doing, I told her and at the bottom I told her that I started dating a girl. (This is where it gets strange) She immediatly gets on the defensive. "Whos this girl and where did you meet her?" So I tell her and she responds by saying this "O, Im not dating Kevin he is just a friend I am single now". Ok that was strange but I just played it off without caring. We talked for about a hour more and then I told her that if she needed anything to call me anytime. So I was talking to one of my friends who is friends with her about it and even before I could get the story out he said's that he already knows about it. She came to him already and asked who my G/F was and if she was cuter that her? Now I dont know if she is jelous or if theirs something else going on in her mind... Any thoughts? Any help can be good. I havent spoken to her since then... Should i not respond to her and see if she cracks?
lofi_tokyo Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 It sounds to me like your ex sincerely meant to text Kevin, then accidentally texted you. But... I'm guessing she had wanted to hear from you in a while anyways, so she took the opportunity to scope ya out. She did not want to seem dull so she made college sound great... and as for the Kevin comment, I have no idea. Do you really have a new girlfriend? If you do I don't know if you should be looking for a second chance with your ex....? I don't really know if this is a second chance scenario anyways so much as a curious ex trying to figure out whats going on in your life. Its been six months, I'm sure shes been dying to contact you but has held out on not doing so - until now - which was caused by an honest mistake. I say... if you're dating someone new, who cares what your ex wants. If you lied and made the new GF up, then... keep watching your ex's moves... maybe she'll come back, but I kinda doubt it.
D-Lish Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 LOL! "Oops, mistake text"... is the oldest trick in the book. Of course she meant to make contact with you!!!!! I've (shamelessly) done such a thing before to get an ex's attention... My bet is that she wanted to chat with you and used the mistake text as an excuse. Even in my DRUNKEST state... I've never texted anyone "accidentallY"!!! LOL. Trust me- it's an old trick...
lofi_tokyo Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Haha well there ya go ;p I guess D-Lish knows better then me on this one! I only have one ex - the guy I just broke up with - so I really can't say I've been in a situation to use that tactic or not. That being said, I guess I have never "accidentally" texted someone either... ;p
Hersheys Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 LOL! "Oops, mistake text"... is the oldest trick in the book. Of course she meant to make contact with you!!!!! I've (shamelessly) done such a thing before to get an ex's attention... My bet is that she wanted to chat with you and used the mistake text as an excuse. Even in my DRUNKEST state... I've never texted anyone "accidentallY"!!! LOL. Trust me- it's an old trick... 100% true! There is no way that she sent you a text message by mistake. D-Lish is correct, that the text was meant to rouse you, to get you to react and respond to the text which of course will lead to back and forth texting between you two. If you want to let her now that you're still interested you can respond to her and continue the communication. If you are now dating a girl and have since moved on from your ex, it would be best to just ignore her texts. Responding to her would just boost her ego and gives her the assurance that you still care about her.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 LOL! "Oops, mistake text"... is the oldest trick in the book. Of course she meant to make contact with you!!!!! I've (shamelessly) done such a thing before to get an ex's attention... My bet is that she wanted to chat with you and used the mistake text as an excuse. Even in my DRUNKEST state... I've never texted anyone "accidentallY"!!! LOL. Trust me- it's an old trick... Really, I didn't know about such a trick. The only logical thing that I've done was delete my ex's number. Why on Earth would anybody keep their exes' #?
Author Eng215 Posted November 19, 2008 Author Posted November 19, 2008 Yea I thought that the mistake wasnt at all... I think that the holidays are coming and she does not have anyone to share it with and stuff like that. I still care about her. Yes I do have a g/f but its only been like a 3 week relationship... Guess Ill wait and see what she does.
Author Eng215 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Posted December 17, 2008 Hey everyone A little update and I need more advice on this one. It was two weeks after she contacted me so I decided to start the conversation. We talked for like 10 min (by text). I then told her that the holidays were coming up and if she needed a out from parents or other stuff then we could go get coffee or something... After that text, she never responded.. You think that she is just using me for attention and to boost her ego? like "O good he still cares about me"
JaneLane Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 . I don't think she was ever interested in getting you back. No offense, I'm sure you're a nice guy. But the fact that she became all "defensive" about your new girl interest isn't something to get rallied about. She could just be curious, wondering whether you traded up or down. Whether the new girl is getting treated better than she was. Whether you're telling the new girl the same things you told her. Or something. Most girls are curious by nature.
broken_hearted01 Posted December 17, 2008 Posted December 17, 2008 it sounds, to me, that she IS playing mind games and is taking yor kindness as a weakness. Don't give in to it and don't play along with her. Its best that you keep her on an aquatience level.
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