Trimmer Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 ...aaaaand...I'm spent. Well, you did say it was aerobic. ( <- this "eek" emoticon doubles as an "O-face.") Nobody could ever replace mommy (mommy always comes first) Eeeeeeew, ick, gross!
JohnnyBlaze Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 And why are the guys posting about women here when they have their own thread...? Huh...? For the same reason you girls jumped in on the guy's thread.
lino Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 - smokes - does drugs - bad temper - too old (I'm in my 20's) - has children - divorced - no job/goals - overweight - has a history of violence - disrespectful - has a history of cheating - racist I think my list is so reasonable! But having a hard time finding such a man. I've found him once but he crushed my heart. He was all of the above but lost feelings for me. My other EX is most of the above and I made too many excuses for him. I won't be doing that again. Most things depends on the situation - such as living with parents after 26 for example. I do! BUT if it means anything I put *myself* through college, racked up huge amount of student loans; I'm not married, no children, my parents NEED help financially as do I so I live with them and pay some small bills on top of my OWN bills. I lived on my own for 5 years. If I had parents to pay for college livng on my own right now would be so easy!! Does that make me not a good catch? Absolutely not, but if after HS they got a deadens job and never left home then yes deal breaker. There is a difference there. I think your list of deal-breakers is very reasonable and I hope things work out for you in finding someone who isn't any of those things Really? Why? In my experience, I've never seen this to be a good thing. Usually there is a good reason a girl has more male friends than female ones and it spells trouble for a relationship in my experience. Having said that, I'm more than happy to be another male friend to a girl like that, just not a serious partner
BlueHarvest Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 For the same reason you girls jumped in on the guy's thread. Preach it 'Brotha Blaze! Sorry I've read the thread. I think for alot of you women it'd probably be easier to list the attributes that AREN'T dealbreakers then for you. The list would probably be much shorter. I mean seriously...is this thread for real or are you women THAT picky? Not to offend, but it seems to me that maybe if you opened up your restrictions on guys you would date you wouldn't be here on these forums. Life is full of compromises, it's just learning to accept what you can and can't compromise. Just my 2 cents.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 And why are the guys posting about women here when they have their own thread...? Huh...? It would not matter where it was posted. Women can still go there, read, and post. So, why does it matter where it is posted? Plus, must of us guys aren't really expecting to find the woman of our dreams on here. That's what other websites are for.
madgun68 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 - Anyone over the age of 7 who still uses the word "peepee."
Trialbyfire Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Oh, and any guy who's been with a hooker. Not only is it a disease issue, it's also the mental and emotional issues that go along with it.
39388 Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 This is a spin off from JS's post. I think it's only fair that women get to discuss what's a deal breaker for them while dating. Clearly abusive, a-hole is a deal breaker for everyone (well most) so I won't bother listing the really obvious stuff. For me- -guy who cries -ugly -can't fix/do something simple like change the oil in his car or put together an ikea bookshelf Ok maybe not a huge deal breaker but a guy who can't do simple stuff with his hands is a HUGE turn off -too "sensitive" What an idiot. That's 4 for me. You forgot "too smart". Probably a worse deal breaker than being stupid. Most women clearly do not find "abusive a-hole" to be a deal breaker. They may say so but look at who they date.
39388 Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 1. Axe murderer 2. Not intelligent 3. No sense of humor 4. Acts like he has a cork up his b--t 5. Can't handle money 6. Can't make money 7. 5 or more years younger than me 8. No drive 9. Hot temper 10. Not generous 11. Overly judgemental 12. No social skills 13. Whiney 14. Weak 15. Lies 16. Low standards 17. Controlling 18. Nagging / Preachy 19. Self-righteous 20. Disrespectful 21. Consistently Unhappy I have more than one deal breaker, do they cancel out? I have 12,14, getting 13,21 in a hurry and I may have 9 before long.
2sure Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Cowboy boots . If you ride frequently and feel they are the best shoeware for riding - plain ones are OK - only while riding. Leather Motorcycle Jackets - when you do not ride a motorcycle. Actually, protective clothing of any kind while not engaged in an activity requiring protection is just really stupid. Why not just wear a helmet to the mall as well? Men who tell me how much their car costs. Or their house or their xwife. Name dropping is unattractive. Unless you have played in an NFL Super Bowl , the only jewelry you wear should be a watch.
wezol Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Just dropping in here to see if I could get some clarification or clarify something, I haven't read the ENTIRE 6 pages so I'm sorry if this has been addressed... Seems alot of ya'lls deal breakers are a guy crying, may I ask why? I understand if he is just a pansy, drama queen cries for nothing cause I want attention feel sorry for me kinda guy. BUT, on the flipside, I don't consider myself any of those and I have cried, infront of my fiance. For instance, when I hugged her for the first time in 6 months while on R&R from Afghanistan, I cried, and I know I will agian when I make it home for good in a few months. I have also cried to her on the phone, from the stresses and, well the stresses, of being here. I honestly don't know why though, I just did. There are always reasons why some men cry, but I guess I'm just wondering, do ya'll just strait up turn away if a man cries?
2sure Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 These kind of deal breakers come into play in the initial dating stage , like if a guy you've known a month cries because you gave him a mushy card or cries because you called him a jack ass during an argument. If the man you are about to marry cries when he returns from a war and hugs you - thats not just OK, its romantic and nearly hot. When a guy you are dating cries , its a deal breaker almost because we just dont know how to deal with it.
Trialbyfire Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Another dealbreaker, men who pick on women. A complete turn-off.
purpledevil Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Lol, this list made me cry I'm broke (study allowance), unemployed because I'm studying, live with my parents because I'm studying, watch alot of tv because im broke because I'm studying, uneducated I guess because I'm studying therefore not educated yet. Oh and I cried when I read this list because I'm at home because I'm broke and unemployed PS This list made me laugh.
Author allina Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 Lol, this list made me cry I'm broke (study allowance), unemployed because I'm studying, live with my parents because I'm studying, watch alot of tv because im broke because I'm studying, uneducated I guess because I'm studying therefore not educated yet. Oh and I cried when I read this list because I'm at home because I'm broke and unemployed PS This list made me laugh. There is an exception to every rule you know
movingonandon Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Cowboy boots . If you ride frequently and feel they are the best shoeware for riding - plain ones are OK - only while riding. Leather Motorcycle Jackets - when you do not ride a motorcycle. Actually, protective clothing of any kind while not engaged in an activity requiring protection is just really stupid. Allright, I'll bite. If boots and jacket are a dealbreaker, that's only a reflection of not yet developed taste for proper vintage workwear/casual clothing:p:lmao:. There is no shoe more comfortable by the (roper type) plain cowboy boot, and there is no shoe that looks better with jeans As for the leather jackets: leather is a classic workwear item, exactly like the blue jeans (a protective clothing item by design, by the way). The people who built the factories and railroads in this country wore them, and most of them could not afford motorcycles. A better casual jacket for men is yet to be invented. (Too bad you can't see me in mine - you'd forget instantly about these, and all other "dealbreakers" :))
movingonandon Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 This thread makes it official - girls are completely insane (but in a sorta endearing way :lmao:) Don't worry, we lov'ya just the way you are . PS I'd like to see a thread devoted to the a lot more realistic scenario: "He's unreliable, has no money, wears boots, he's judgemental, he's no gentleman, etc., etc., etc., then why do i LOVE Him so much and why does he keep driving me craZeeay, gaah!?!?!!!!":laugh: Dealbreakers my azz... all you need is a guy that you're attracted to on a basic level - if you like him, then it doesn't matter what he does (and convercely, if you don't like him, it doesn't matter how perfectly he conforms to the list of non-deealbreakers :)).
BlueEyedGirl Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 in no particular order: Stupider than meShorter and or weighs less than meIs weak/doormat/needy/clingyIs passiveDoes not call when he says he willDoes not have sarcastic sense of humorIs too conservative/reserved/uptightIs cold, insensitive and doesn't show emotion when it would be appropriate and desirable to do soIs not sexual/ has sexual hang upsHas slept with another manHas nothing in life that he is passionate aboutIs still carrying a torch for someone elseHas frequented hookers on regular basis in the pastDoes not know how to value a girl who doesn't go around sleeping with guys unless she is in LTR (alternatively saying: "I would much rather have a girl that's experienced and been around so that the sex is better". To me how good sex is depends much more on the chemistry and connection between two people than experience, so this shows an incompatibility on a very basic level)Is not intuitive/ perceptiveIs shallow or has never been through any hardship in his lifePoor personal hygineHas a beard or lot of facial hairDesparate to have a girlfriend, ANY girlfriend and not me in particularFlirts with other women constantly, checks out other women A LOT right in front of me, comments on hot femalesDoes not give me complimentsIs tight with moneyIs not adventorousDoes not like animals/petsI could go on..
Citizen Erased Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 If he chews gum constantly. Irritating habit. If he smokes. If he is shorter than me (at 5'2 I don't think it's too much to expect for him to be taller). If he's clingy. If he's unintelligent. If he doesn't like cats and constantly makes sure everyone knows how manly he is because he doesn't like cats. and most importantly: If he doesn't like Muse (of course!) ...he is out!
Trimmer Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Does not know how to value a girl who doesn't go around sleeping with guys unless she is in LTR Took me a while to parse the triple-negative. And then, since this is a deal breaker, does that actually make it a meta-quadruple-negative?
39388 Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Just dropping in here to see if I could get some clarification or clarify something, I haven't read the ENTIRE 6 pages so I'm sorry if this has been addressed... Seems alot of ya'lls deal breakers are a guy crying, may I ask why? I understand if he is just a pansy, drama queen cries for nothing cause I want attention feel sorry for me kinda guy. BUT, on the flipside, I don't consider myself any of those and I have cried, infront of my fiance. For instance, when I hugged her for the first time in 6 months while on R&R from Afghanistan, I cried, and I know I will agian when I make it home for good in a few months. I have also cried to her on the phone, from the stresses and, well the stresses, of being here. I honestly don't know why though, I just did. There are always reasons why some men cry, but I guess I'm just wondering, do ya'll just strait up turn away if a man cries? Many women would rather be verbally abused than have a man cry. If you don't believe me, read through the threads on almost any dating site.
Capricciosa Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 in no particular order: Stupider than me I don't quite know what to make of the first line that implies you are stupid, and thus makes the rest of your list questionable. Maybe you want to reword? Less intelligent might be a better way to put it.
Trialbyfire Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 And did I mention misogyny? Add stupid to the misogyny and it's totally revolting.
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