Lizzie60 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I'd say all of the above and I will add: doesn't know how to treat a woman sexually = bad lover..
fral945 Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Quoted from Wikipedia: In Western civilization, Idealism is the philosophy which maintains that the ultimate nature of reality is ideal, or based upon ideas, values and essences and that the so-called external, or real world is inseparable from consciousness, perception, mind, intellect and reason in the sense of rigorous science. It is also a tradition in Western thought which represents things in an ideal form, or as they ought to be rather than as they really are, in the fields of ethics, morality, aesthetics, and value. Quoted from Mirriam-Webster's dictionary: Pragmatic - relating to matters of fact or practical affairs often to the exclusion of intellectual or artistic matters : practical as opposed to idealistic In short, an idealistic person is more concerned with the problems in the society than with getting that Guess purse at a discount price; will be excited about this eye-opening book he just read; will not bother to match the napkins with the plates; will not try to fit in at the expense of disowning his authencity; etc. It's a free-spirited, open-minded, unconventional person, who is focused on the "soft" factors in life, moreso than with the practical and material things; a person who is happier to make less money but love their job and change the world than to earn as much as possible regardless of the other factors; etc. I don't know whether to scratch my head or laugh, so I'll do both. You've got it completely backwards. Idealistic people are more concerned with problems in society? Really? I really think you don't understand the definition. There is nothing wrong with the definition, but your interpretation is completely warped. I don't know how anyone could be turned off by idealistic people. An idealist is not someone who will day-dream while their kids are being neglected or someone who will spend many hours in front of the abortion clinics screaming "Murdereeeeer!" This is even more confusing. So pragmatists are off in their own world while kids are being neglected?
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 -Poor hygiene -Unhealthily fat (meaning that a few extra pounds are okay...but I'd avoid obese) -judgmental -intolerant -rude (not just to me - to anybody...strangers, friends, family) -lies in any form to include omission -arrogant -non-chivalrous (I'm old-fashioned...I like doors being opened, man at least OFFERING to pay) -pessimistic -too serious
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 One more thing to the list: Internet stalkers!
Jake Barnes Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Ok, I'll stop. Oh good I thought that was directed at me
johan Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Oh good I thought that was directed at me It probably had something to do with that B4R guy. He's off his rocker.
Jake Barnes Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 It probably had something to do with that B4R guy. He's off his rocker. I think he was already eliminated in the first post on like 236 counts
SushiX Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 What is the point of this thread? Everyone has their own preference. I don't think anyone would want to go out with someone that's stinky, lazy, stupid, no friends, no life, broke. But the funny thing is they may think the same of you.
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 What is the point of this thread? Everyone has their own preference. I don't think anyone would want to go out with someone that's stinky, lazy, stupid, no friends, no life, broke. But the funny thing is they may think the same of you. Did you ask this question in the male dealbreaker thread? If not, go to it!
johan Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I don't think anyone would want to go out with someone that's stinky, lazy, stupid, no friends, no life, broke. I can prove that statement wrong 100 times within a mile of where I'm sitting.
Jake Barnes Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 In reality Allina is turned on by my sensitive poetry about how much I hate animals
JohnnyBlaze Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Okay, I'll start now! (Get comfy, everyone. No, really, get comfy. There's a lot of catching up here...) -sounds ghetto/like a hick when he speaks Okay, immaturity moment here: was I the only one who, as soon as he read this (since I know only guys would ever admit to seeing it), suddenly pictured Eric Cartman singing "In the Ghetto" while walking up to Kenny's house? (video was removed due to broadcasting rights, but audio's still there) -writes poetry/too "sensitive" I can dig one or two poems, like the one Mikey K. favoured back in high school:Roses are red Violets are blue Some poems rhyme And some don't. I wish I could be like Mike (how's that for an 80's reference?? ) Is sexually closed-minded or conservative (feels "guilty" about masturbating, is conflicted about oral sex, etc). Doesn't want kids. First, feeling guilty about masturbating?? What kinda guys are you dating? Geez, jerking off is like an aerobic event; ya do it every morning! As to not wanting kids, I can understand that. Wanting kids is just sick! If I want a girl, she HAS to be legal age. At least, that's what the judge told me. (Just kidding...about the judge part, you pervs! ) Extremist/fundamentalist/misogynist Segregationalist White supremist Why was white supremacy mentioned separately? Are black supremists better? After all, I've known some brothers who had some racial convictions (mental convictions, not legal ones) that'd put David Duke to shame. 1. Axe murderer Now, is this specific to axes, or are we counting any sharp blade? Not to get picky or anything, but I'm just trying to figure if I still have a chance or not! Yup. I think it's sweet when you are witness to an otherwise stoic/together/composed man shed a tear (you know, when he remembers a specific part of his childhood, or mourns the loss of a friend). Guys who cry while watching chick flicks are the worst. I have a friend who bawled his eyes out during the Titanic. Agreed. If he just lost his parents or his kids, then okay; he's got a right to cry. If they're showing the re-run of Friends where his favourite couple break up and he so much as sniffles, then he needs both a laughing and a beating. The beating is for being such a whiny baby and crying because a fictional couple broke up on a scripted TV show. The laughing is for him having a favourite couple on Friends in the first place. And the Titanic thing reminds me of when I took my gf to see Romeo & Juliet with Leo DiCaprio, on opening night. I knew how it ended, she knew how it ended, but the 500 girls sitting next to us in the theatre apparently didn't (I'm sure I was one of 3, maybe 4 guys there - the rest of the packed theatre were ALL girls). Have you ever listened to 500 pre-teen girls, sobbing their butts off uncontrollably? They sound like 5,000,000. Almost 15 years later, and I still have the headache to prove it. The only consolation was that my gf wasn't having any of it. She completely mocked and insulted every one of those crying kids (some of who were her own age) for being such idiots and not catching on that they openly said at the very beginning of the movie that both characters would die. Unfortunately, I couldn't do it myself (a guy mocking girls? Yeah, that'd look good), but I took great pleasure in watching her do it. A Man Whore! Man Whore is such an insulting term! Man whores do it for the money. Some of us do it just for the sheer enjoyment of doing it; we prefer the term "man slut", thank you. Or he sobs hysterically while he makes you watch his son's birthing video. Once again, that's a beating. 5. "Tough" guy image 10. Doesn't read books; doesn't learn new things (through reading) regularly 12. Isn't too open, doesn't disclose more than necessary, and makes sure his answers sound good (makes me think they are not entirely truthful) 13. Loves to party 5. But the tough guy image is just a shell. I'm like a Tootsie Pop; underneath this tough exterior is a soft, sweet center. So start licking, and I'll let you know when you hit the spot! ...naw, you'll find that out on your own! 10. We read and learn all the time! Example, I just finished an intriguing article and learned something new. Miss November's bust size is 34C, she's Hawaiian, likes guys with shaved heads and is having trouble dating people now that she's a PMoM. ...I just happen to have a shaved head. (Actually, I just looked all that up. The latest addition to my "read it" list is Crime & Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky...although Grace Kim (Miss November) is very pretty.) 12. Geesh, you girls don't like it when we tell you everything up front, and you don't like it when we're mysterious. Make up our minds!! 13. That's a downside? No S-A-TUR-DAY-NIGHT - hey? Not even one? 1. Men who wear too much Diesel or Armani. Gross. There is only so much cheezy European fashion I can handle. 2. Men who wear WAY to much cologne. Well, I don't wear diesel, but occasionally when I'm working on the bike, I do get some gas on me. The smell does get a little overpowering at times. Is that okay? Thanks for the compliment Chugster! Yes, it's me. Have you seen my Sarah Palin impression? OH and little peepees, big ones..it's all good. I would ask to see the Palin impression, but I have two tattoos. - video games fanatic ( especially WoW; huge turn off) - Overly emotional ( a guy who cries more than me suddenly makes me the man in the relationship) - Tattoos and piercings extremist ( Travis Barker is not my cup of tea you get me?) - homophobic 1. So many people thought I was weird because I've never played WoW, or even seen it played, for that matter. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who isn't obsessed with that game. 2. See my above Friends and R&J comments. 3. Granted, I have two tats (one on the thigh and one on the bicep) and I do like tattoos...to a point. But that Travis Barker is overkill, even in my opinion. 4. I never understood how guys could be homophobic. I always thought gays were a good thing. If a guy is openly gay, he goes off and gets a boyfriend and they live happily ever after. If he has to be a closet gay, he gets a sham wife. Not only does this mean one less available girl for the rest of us, but since gays are usually MUCH more in tune with women, and much better dressers (from first hand observations), so not only do they get all the good looking women, but they raise the bar for the rest of us. Girl A is dating a good looking (closet gay) guy, so her friend Girl B wants the same. The problem is, the guys that are left are the straight B-List'ers, so we have to work that much harder right off the bat! I say let gays be gay! Give us straight guys a realistic chance again! You’ve listed possibly every man who exists on this planet, you do realize that don’t you? Funny, I was thinking the same thing. ...aaaaand...I'm spent.
Chinook Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Too short Too fat Too mouthy & bigoted Road rager Heavy breather / snorer when sleeping Substitute-Mom Searcher (his mom) Substiture-Mom Searcher (his kids mom) Smokers Heavy drinkers Gold diggers Lazy ass who can't work the washing machine or lawnmower despite being shown 20x Rude to friends and family (mine) Rude to me Abusive Gambler Sings in the shower Inconsiderate Poetry writer (cheese aversion here) Crying whiney baby Doesn't know a decent bottle of wine Can't appreciate my music even when I have to listen to his Listens to music to fall asleep to.... grr! Intolerant of others flaws
Chinook Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 And why are the guys posting about women here when they have their own thread...? Huh...?
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Substitute-Mom Searcher (his mom) Holy Dinah, I forgot that one! Looking for a replacement mommy to change his nappies! The ultimate deal breaker!
Jake Barnes Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Holy Dinah, I forgot that one! Looking for a replacement mommy to change his nappies! The ultimate deal breaker! Nobody could ever replace mommy (mommy always comes first)
Lizzie60 Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 And why are the guys posting about women here when they have their own thread...? Huh...? Yeeaaahhh.... High Five Chinook! Get the eff out of here you guys!!!
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Nobody could ever replace mommy (mommy always comes first) You're so unrepentant.
Chinook Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 oh I forgot one... ... takes over everything....
Trialbyfire Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Overly sensitive men with big egos. "You hewt my feewings...WAHHHHH..."
Author allina Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 Such very high standards! I'd be curious to know how many of you would/do actually follow through on them. I'd bet that none of you do. My SO does not possess any of the things I listed as deal breakers, he's a perfect match for me. I don't think my standards are unreasonable at all. Not only have I never had trouble finding men that don't have the deal breaking traits I listed, I've also met plenty of men that have great qualities in addition
samsungxoxo Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 1) Agressive that likes picking up fights 2) Is a yeller 3) Cheats and lies 4) Religious fanatic 5) Thats believes in no sex till marriage, boring 6) Talks about books and school the whole time 7) Alcoholic or into drugs 8) Has no job 9) Broken 10) Has a history of hitting one or more women in the past 11) Rarely talks and is too shy till the point I talk and talk and he doesn't 12) Lives with parents at age 26 and above 13) Jealous, checks your whereabouts frequently 14) Never drinks not even once in his life 15) Smokes a lot
CandyGirlXO Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 - smokes - does drugs - bad temper - too old (I'm in my 20's) - has children - divorced - no job/goals - overweight - has a history of violence - disrespectful - has a history of cheating - racist I think my list is so reasonable! But having a hard time finding such a man. I've found him once but he crushed my heart. He was all of the above but lost feelings for me. My other EX is most of the above and I made too many excuses for him. I won't be doing that again. Most things depends on the situation - such as living with parents after 26 for example. I do! BUT if it means anything I put *myself* through college, racked up huge amount of student loans; I'm not married, no children, my parents NEED help financially as do I so I live with them and pay some small bills on top of my OWN bills. I lived on my own for 5 years. If I had parents to pay for college livng on my own right now would be so easy!! Does that make me not a good catch? Absolutely not, but if after HS they got a deadens job and never left home then yes deal breaker. There is a difference there.
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