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I think it's sweet when you are witness to an otherwise stoic/together/composed man shed a tear (you know, when he remembers a specific part of his childhood, or mourns the loss of a friend).

Or how about when he's recalling the births of his kids???

 

-has kids

Oops. Damn; never mind then.

 

I find it encouraging that none of you have listed bitterness, lots of baggage, or uncontrollable sweating as deal breakers.

... and it's probably a relief to some that thick back hair is still in play...

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Or how about when he's recalling the births of his kids???

 

Or he sobs hysterically while he makes you watch his son's birthing video.

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Chugster, that's nothing to joke about!

 

I did want to add tattos. Sorry for those who have them but it's just a personal preference. I could never/have never dated anyone with tattoos or piercings.

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Well say that then and don't generalize by saying poetry! =p

 

But I get what you mean.

 

Your hair is like a butterfly

Your eyes

They're like Venus

In the morrow's sky

;)

 

Well, I haven't met a man who wrote poetry that wasn't super depressing and lame! :p:laugh:

 

And it's more like

 

Your hair is like a butterfly

Of death

that stabs me in the heart

And watched me bleed tears

 

:sick::sick::lmao:

 

I find it encouraging that none of you have listed bitterness, lots of baggage, or uncontrollable sweating as deal breakers.

 

Well I believe I did say in my original post that there's no reason to list the super obvious stuff :cool:

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Chugster, that's nothing to joke about!

 

I did want to add tattos. Sorry for those who have them but it's just a personal preference. I could never/have never dated anyone with tattoos or piercings.

 

OK not joking then. Small peepee?

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Well, I haven't met a man who wrote poetry that wasn't super depressing and lame! :p:laugh:

 

And it's more like

 

Your hair is like a butterfly

Of death

that stabs me in the heart

And watched me bleed tears

 

:sick::sick::lmao:

 

You have to know that I just laughed my head off. :lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Emos everywhere are sending ill thoughts your way, allina.

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You have to know that I just laughed my head off. :lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

Emos everywhere are sending ill thoughts your way, allina.

 

Without women like allina breaking emo guys' hearts, they would have nothing to write about. :lmao:

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I'm also adding snoring to my list, I can sleep through a land mine but I have to wear ear plugs if someone snores. I will put my fingers up someone's nose if they snore too loud just to make it stop.

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OK not joking then. Small peepee?

 

:laugh: Ok, that's better.

 

As for the whole poetry thing...I have to agree. No offense to anyone and I'm just generalizing here but men who write poetry are usually the worst phonies and totally insincere. But that's only been MY experience, so don't anybody get all offended.

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Emos everywhere are sending ill thoughts your way, allina.

 

Without women like allina breaking emo guys' hearts, they would have nothing to write about. :lmao:

 

Aww I like some emo guys :laugh: Sometimes I jokingly call my SO emo because he wears emo glasses and plays the guitar :laugh:

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Apparently we're all turned off by rudeness in any form, so I won't list the group of faults that pertains to this trait.

 

I wouldn't call these traits turn-offs, but rather things that break the deal for me because of my personal needs and preferences:

(I assume we're talking about the first few dates, not when in a developed relationship)

 

1. A Small-talk guy, ie. discusses things, events, and facts rather than ideas, theories, and opinions that originate in his mind from his own analyses

 

2. Lack of enthusiasm and passion for life in general

 

3. Too serious, non-smiling

 

4. Focused on the material side of the world rather than on personal growth and introspection; pragmatic rather than idealistic

 

5. "Tough" guy image

 

6. Incompassionate, insensitive

 

7. Has trust issues by default

 

8. Conventional/traditional; follows social/religious norms and values rather than his own

 

9. Finds looks to be more important than the intellect

 

10. Doesn't read books; doesn't learn new things (through reading) regularly

 

11. Isn't super-romantic; lets things develop slowly; doesn't want to be exclusive since day one

 

12. Isn't too open, doesn't disclose more than necessary, and makes sure his answers sound good (makes me think they are not entirely truthful)

 

13. Loves to party

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The poem my boyfriend wrote for me:

 

There was a time when I felt nothing,

There was a time when I felt alone,

There was a time when the sun didn't shine,

There was a time when life had no color,

Then came...

Then came you,

My color was refreshed,

My eyes were renewed,

Time felt like something,

Time was entwined with another,

Time allowed the sun to shine,

And time and life had color,

And that feeling was good,

And has been good,

And has changed me forever.

Thank you!!

 

It doesn't really rhyme but I think it was sweet. I colored it with a red crayon and cut it out in the shape of a flower and cut out and colored a green stem with leaves and hung it on my bedroom wall with tape.

 

:love:

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There was a time when I felt nothing,

There was a time when I felt alone,

There was a time when the sun didn't shine,

There was a time when life had no color,

Then came...

Then came you,

My color was refreshed,

My eyes were renewed,

Time felt like something,

Time was entwined with another,

Time allowed the sun to shine,

And time and life had color,

And that feeling was good,

And has been good,

And has changed me forever.

Thank you!!

 

Nothing against your bf, but I'm betting Allina would puke out her stomach lining...

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The poem my boyfriend wrote for me:

 

There was a time when I felt nothing,

There was a time when I felt alone,

There was a time when the sun didn't shine,

There was a time when life had no color,

Then came...

Then came you,

My color was refreshed,

My eyes were renewed,

Time felt like something,

Time was entwined with another,

Time allowed the sun to shine,

And time and life had color,

And that feeling was good,

And has been good,

And has changed me forever.

Thank you!!

 

It doesn't really rhyme but I think it was sweet. I colored it with a red crayon and cut it out in the shape of a flower and cut out and colored a green stem with leaves and hung it on my bedroom wall with tape.

 

:love:

 

Emmmmo! Is his favorite movie Garden State? Does it make him cry?

Ok, I'm totally kidding, it's sweet.

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4. Focused on the material side of the world rather than on personal growth and introspection; pragmatic rather than idealistic

 

Can you elaborate on #4? :confused: I don't understand how the first sentence and the second correlate. I am more focused on personal growth and introspection but also pragmatic.

 

I have the exact opposite view as you (of course I am male). I am turned off by women who are idealistic and not pragmatic.

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XXX Large PeePee! LOL

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Nothing against your bf, but I'm betting Allina would puke out her stomach lining...

 

:lmao::laugh: I'm just not in to man poetry, really poetry.

Though, that's not true either, I'm well versed in poetry, I suppose I just don't find poets f*ckable, I'll read it but I won't hit it?

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Emmmmo! Is his favorite movie Garden State? Does it make him cry?

Ok, I'm totally kidding, it's sweet.

 

It is sweet. I like this side of him. It's the only poem he ever wrote for me. But he's talented, well maybe not with this poem, but he carves tikis and draws pictures and writes and sings me songs. He does all kinds of cool stuff.

 

IMO anyway. :)

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1. Men who wear too much Diesel or Armani. Gross. There is only so much cheezy European fashion I can handle.

 

2. Men who wear WAY to much cologne.

 

3. Men who make stuff up to impress me - OR agree with everything I say to impress me. Ick! Be your own person!

 

4. Men who treat their parents badly.

 

5. Men who treat MY parents badly.

 

6. Men that cannot appreciate the good in their lives. ;p

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How about men who compliment you on your avatar?

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It doesn't really rhyme but I think it was sweet. I colored it with a red crayon and cut it out in the shape of a flower and cut out and colored a green stem with leaves and hung it on my bedroom wall with tape.

 

:love:

"With tape"! :laugh: I am laughing that you mentioned it, not that you used tape. I don't know why, but I get the feeling that you're not as madly in love with your boyfriend, as he is with you. But, I hope I am wrong. :)

 

Nothing against your bf, but I'm betting Allina would puke out her stomach lining...
Yeah! :D Well, for me writing poetry would be one of the deal makers. :o
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XXX Large PeePee! LOL

 

HAHAHA... small and large peepees.

 

How about men who compliment you on your avatar?

 

tokyovogue + touche

If those avatars are photos of you.... STUNNING !!! ;)

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"With tape"! :laugh: I am laughing that you mentioned it, not that you used tape. I don't know why, but I get the feeling that you're not as madly in love with your boyfriend, as he is with you. But, I hope I am wrong. :)

 

You are wrong. Do you know how long it took me to cut that out in the shape of a flower?

 

He typed it and printed that little phrase on this whole piece of paper and it looked like a tiny little box in the corner of the page. I wanted to keep it but the presentation was lacking big time.

 

Also do you know how hard it was to color in a skinny little stem with a crayon? I think I ripped it from pressing too hard and that is taped too.

 

:D

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Thanks for the compliment Chugster! Yes, it's me. Have you seen my Sarah Palin impression?:laugh:

 

OH and little peepees, big ones..it's all good.:p

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