The more s!ht together I have, the LESS interest I receive

[spookie]

Now, I don't really care, but this is interesting.

Then:

 

Profession: sustenance stripper

 

In the mornings I: woke up at noon, got high, and spent the afternoon drinking

 

In the evenings I: smoked pot and cried

 

Interests: drugs

 

My weight: see-sawing between coked-out skinny-fat and ...average

 

My hair: dirty and had obviously been cut by a drunk friend in a bathtub

 

My clothes: unidentifiably stained and typically someone else's

 

Now:

 

Profession: I have an actual career

 

In the mornings I: wake up at 5 to work out

 

In the evenings I: study, clean, hang out with friends

 

Interests: rock-climbing, rock band, my job

 

I am objectively fit.

 

I smell good, look clean, and appear well-put-together.

 

And yet... back then, I was getting asked out constantly. And not just at "work", and not just by losers.

 

And now... zilch. No one even approaches me, ever.

 

What gives?

 

Is this proof guys like fcvked-up chicks? That strippers really are hot? Or is this the "intimdation" effect, which I personally don't believe in, in action?

[sb129]

No, I think its the "over-analysis" effect.

[IrishCarBomb]

Maybe you don't see them because you're fixated on your boss? I think you're being too dramatic.

[monkey00]

You'll find happiness when you aren't looking for it.

[chugster]

Maybe it's b/c you were more "open" to the world back then... physically.

 

It's the opportunity. Be the way you currently are and give yourself others more opportunities to get to know you.

[carhill]

And now... zilch. No one even approaches me, ever.

 

What gives?

 

Perhaps before they thought you might be taken and still f*cked around; now they figure you're just taken.

 

It's a male thing

[johan]

Before you didn't have it together, and it showed. So you were clearly in need of someone to help straighten out your life. And you weren't intimidating. They didn't respect you. Easy target. If you rejected them it's more a matter of your screwed up values and circumstances.

 

Now you have it together, and it shows. Guys don't feel needed by you, and they also feel more intimidated by you. They respect you. Long shot and a threat to their egos if you reject them.

[Isolde]

Guess which version of you is closer to having a really good, healthy relationship though. Not being needed is closer to making someone feel wanted.

[DollWelch]

What gives?

 

Hmmm. Here's how it is.

 

Then: You needed to be rescued. Men wanted to rescue you.

 

Now: You don't need to be rescued. Men aren't rescuing you.

 

That's about it. There is no chase.

[xpaperxcutx]

Gosh Spooky, there is no comparison. Back then you were an easy target, you were high and probably men thought easier to get into bed. Now you're clean, and men could see you have higher standards than before.

 

The men that used to hit on you were all the party club scene ones with the only one philosophy- bed as many women as they can. You shouldn't even be jealous of your former self, now you're actually on par to get yourself a successful guy.