ChaseYng2005 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I've been seeing this guy since about August. I totally love him. I told him everything. I felt like I could lean on him even though he had no way of supporting me if something bad happened. We had our ups and downs as far as staying together went. But we mainly just had a really good time together because neither one of us was really ready to settle down. We fooled around, but never had sex. We'd spend all day together in bed at times. We were both very attracted to each other. He called me one in a million and Ive never met a guy who could make me melt like he could. The problem was that he was and still is toxic. He has no ambition, no license, no car, and really no direction. He told me he wasn't going to try and get his life together until he was 30, and that he had his family's inheritance to fall back on. I was so secretly pissed when he said that. When Im around him I drink more and do things I otherwise wouldnt do, like smoke cigarettes and other things. When Im with him I also start to neglect other things in my life because we spend so much time together. I'd be perfectly willing to let responsibilities go if it would mean spending just a few more moments with him. He also likes to play games. He likes to see me jealous and get me riled up at times. We aren't in a relationship, but we both get upset when we see the other with someone else. He once locked me out of his bedroom and then let me back in after I sat in his hallway upset for about an hour. He then would cuddle with me but when I would touch his hand he would pull away, only to later cuddle back on me. He says he does these things to break down my walls, but it's hard to break them down when he starts to play games. We went to the fair together and he barely spoke to me until we went to bed and I turned my back on him in frustration. He likes to argue with me and I can't stand that. Sometimes I feel like he just uses me to help him pay for beer or other bad habits because he knows I have money. So early on this month I let him go completely. No calls, no texts, no visits. I even started going to different nightclubs to avoid him. He sends me texts and has called my friends. He called me 3 times Sunday, and once yesterday. Am I wrong to reject him like this? He was a good friend in some respects and I still love him. When the phone rings every day and I see his name and I don't answer, it's like taking a bullet. I need advice. . . Damn, hadn't realized I wrote a novel . . .
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