worth it Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Me and my boyfriend of 5 years broke up a little over a month ago. I don't call him but he always ends up calling me. He will call and then say some dumb excuse why he called me. He ended up showing up at my house and it went pretty bad. We tried to make eachother jealous and I ended up texting him that I still loved him and he did not reply. Then the next day I texted him that I would like to move on and it would be easier for me if he does not call me or text me anymore. After that he called me 5 times in a row and when I answered he made up another excuse why he called like (I need my mail) which I had given him all of it the day before. Then I went another few days without talking to him and he texted me in the middle of the night last night "huh" which I don't even know what that meant or why he would text me that. What is his deal. Does he want to get back together or not and if he doesn't why does he keep calling and texting even when I tell him not to. Should I keep trying to be in contact with him? I still love him.
Author worth it Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 I kicked him out because he lied to me and then before he moved out I told him that I loved him and that I didn't want him to leave. He said well I already told this other guy I was moving in. He calls or texts frequently so it is hard. If I keep ignoring him are the calls and texts going to stop. That is not what I want but he will not open up with me at all he just calls to say nothing.
BCCA Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Sounds to me like he's trying to call your no contact bluff. He's heard you say that you shouldnt talk, but you still eventually answered the phone. If he wanted to get back together, there would be no uncertainty. He would come right out with it (sounds like the split was his idea, no?). Basically, whether he wanted to break up or not, its hard to go from being with one person for 5 years to not seeing/talking to them at all, especially when you have no one to replace them with. People get lonely, and its nice to know that someone out there cares. What should you do? Ignore any and all contact from him. Unless he says he made a huge mistake and will do whatever it takes to get you back, nothing he has to say is worth listening to. He's just tossing you breadcrumbs in hopes that it will keep you in the hook if all else fails, but he certainly isnt making any legitimate attemtps to get back together. Cut him off for good, its the best thing to do. I was with a girl for 5 years and she did the same thing, but when I finally called her out on it, she dissapeared...never heard from her again.
BCCA Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 That is not what I want but he will not open up with me at all he just calls to say nothing. Those calls are a waste of time. He just wants to have someone there for him that wants to hear from him, nothing more. He doesnt want to talk about anything serious because its not worth it to him. Stop answering his calls and corresponding with him and he'll get the point that you dont want his minimal effort. Will he actually make a serious effort and want to work things out? Doubtful, but at least you wont have to deal with this madness. Stop the bleeding now, let it go.
Author worth it Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Is me not replying to him going to make he want me more or make him disappear completely? He blames the whole breakup on me because "I kicked him out." He called me one day and said he was moving out of the country to try to get to me. Then he called me another day accusing me of being with other guys and told me he slept with another girl. Why is he being so crazy especially if he is over it.
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