complication Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I am setting up a lunch date with a girl who I really haven't spoken to much, but had a mutual friend hook us up (both thought cute). I know it's a "get to know" date, but I'm typically used to rushing kino (hold hands and kiss a few times on the 1st date). This is atypical, so I should slow it down. After lunch, I plan on taking a nice walk or maybe heading to a lake. Either way, to maximize attraction, are there any rules that a male should always follow?
hindsfeet Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 just be yourself. if she likes you, you'll know. dont be a fake guy who acts or puts on a certain act just to impress. if she digs you for you, you got something. rules? i dont think so. just keep it real man. better not be my sister lol
amaysngrace Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Exactly. Just relax and be yourself. There is nothing worse than a date who can't relax because he's trying too hard. It may seem like a good idea but it will be read the wrong way by her. And she won't get to like "you".
Author complication Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 just be yourself. if she likes you, you'll know. dont be a fake guy who acts or puts on a certain act just to impress. if she digs you for you, you got something. rules? i dont think so. just keep it real man. better not be my sister lol haha. I understand, you're right. Although, what about letting her talk most of the time?
alphamale Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Either way, to maximize attraction, are there any rules that a male should always follow? pay the check, give her a few compliments (but not on her looks), gaze deeply into her eyes, make her laugh, be confident and make the decisions, tell her you don't beleive in sex before you get to know each other well (even if you do), talk about stuff women like (psychology, relationships, drama, tv, movie stars, shopping), only check out other women when she's in the bathroom, don't talk on your cell, don't bring up religion or politics or any controversial subjects, if you disagree with her on something then say so, be nice to the wait staff and leave a good tip, tell her interesting things about yourself, don't boast about your ferrari and 22 room mansion, wear nice clothes and shoes, put on a bit of cologne, tell her shes so smart (even if she isn't), don't make a move until she gives the non-verbal "green light".... good luck
Author complication Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 What...randomly bring up "no sex before we know each other well"? That...waht?
Ocean-Blue Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 What...randomly bring up "no sex before we know each other well"? That...waht? Don't do that. It's presumptuous and makes you look like a desperate moron who isn't saying what he means. She'll see through it... Unless she's a total bimbo. Don't lie. What's the point? Be sure not to put her on any kind of pedestal. Even if she's looking insanely hot or says the cutest things, think of her like any other girl and proceed accordingly. Treat her with respect and engage in sincere discussion and you should be OK.
hindsfeet Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 if she is comfortable talking. by all means let her have it man. i've found that if your quiet , people will think your smart. they only know your dumb when you show them by opening your mouth. lol again though just be yourself man. no worries
alphamale Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 if she is comfortable talking. by all means let her have it man. i've found that if your quiet , people will think your smart. they only know your dumb when you show them by opening your mouth. i find quiet people to be boring and/or introverted. women like men who can hold a good conversation
Trialbyfire Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Be yourself. If you're normally courteous, do so. If you're not, then don't. While courtesy is wonderful to experience, you can always tell when someone's faking it. They embellish or are uncomfortable doing it. Guaranteed though, if you're rude or too familiar, you won't impress her!
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