Lizzyb6938 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 ok well i think my situation is a little different. you might have already read my story- we dated 2.5 years, i exploded at him over stupid things like how other guys want me more than he wants me, he finally cracked and wanted a break. we have a break for a week, see one another and everything is fine again. Then i see him again the following week and say something stupid again. It's not mentioned for two weeks. then he comes over, starts crying and says he wants a proper break. i ask him why- he says self defence. I have never before seen him cry like that, he never cries. so I agree and reasssure him. speak to him later in the week- he's decided that he wants to break up. he's starting medicine next year (which is supposed to be hell on earth first year) and says that he's confused and just feels like he needs to be alone. So i'm like fine- i change my facebook status, change my profile picture etc etc. we agreed to see one another to discuss it so it wasn't over the phone. he comes over and we have the BEST day ever. little awkward at first but he keeps touching me, trying to hold my hand, takes me out to lunch. he told me how much he loves me and suggests we get back together. i know how worried he is about next year and how stressed he is so i said 'no babe you're in such a weird place right now I agree you need to be alone for a while.' we spent the day just holding one another, laughing and crying and just having fun. when he elaves he writes me a message saying 'i love you and want to be the man of your dreams.' he's gone to europe for 2 months so I said we'd have the same day when he gets back. But i'm really worried that I made the wrong decision. He wanted to get back together but I said no because I though that now wasn't a good time and that he just needs to sort himself out. I'm hoping that he'll go to Europe, just sort hmself out and what he wants, and then come home and be ok again but i don't know if it will happen. should i have said yes? i'm worries he'll never ask again. from this site it's so rare that an ex even asks to get back together and i'm scared i blew it.
MichiganMan222 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 How long has he been gone? Has he tried to contact you? I don't know, but from what I read, I think you might have a good chance regardless of any decision you made either way. He seems to really be into you. You were together 2.5 years? If he loves you now (and it sounds like he does), I doubt he'll NOT love you in 2 months. He might miss you like crazy. Maybe I'm reading that wrong.
Author Lizzyb6938 Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 he only left yesterday. he's been sending me smiley faces on facebook and we spoke on the phone before he left. I really hope so. I know how much he loves me, he's been the best boyfriend I could ever have imagined and I miss him like crazy. he said before he left that he has no idea why he's been pushing away the best thing that ever happened to him for the last month. hopefully this time apart will be really good for both of us. everytime we speak he says he loves me and asks about other boys lol. i don't want to get my hopes up though because things could be different when he gets home. he said he wanted to contact me when he was in Europe, so we'll see how that goes. thanks for the enouragement :-) you see everyone elses stories and think omg. but i think mines (hopefully) a bit different. but still hoping for the best, but preparing for the worst
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