lostromaim Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 hi everyone, as you can see, i'm new to these forums, but i would really appreciate some feedback for my situation. i'm a 19-year-old college student. the guy i like is a 30-year-old med student at the same campus. sort of a catch one, more likely from his side than mine. bigger catch, though, is the fact that he's a family friend. his mom has been great friends with my aunt (who lives in my hometown, not too far away) for more than twenty years. Just a couple things to keep in mind. Now on to the story: I only really started to get to know this guy, I'll call him A, when I got to campus last year. The college is also his own undergraduate alma mater. I'm following essentially his path b/c i'm majoring in biology as well, and i'm pre-med. A and I met a few times a month at the beginning of the last school year. Quieted down. Tried to meet up but both of us are extremely busy. Over the summer, I was working on campus, and he asked to go to a cafe opening with him, but I wasn't on campus that day. Fairly innocent things up until that point. This school year, however, things have gotten slightly more interesting. For example, I went out to dinner with him and his visiting brother. A and I were really the only ones who talked, even though I tried to get the brother to talk. We even went to A's house. Again, we watched TV, played video games for about 30 mins or so until the brother decides he's going to sleep (i.e. i have to leave). A then goes to drop me off back on campus. on the way back, i ask him to not mention my drinking to anyone in my family (there was a visit coming up). as the conversation is dwindling off, he suddenly says, "you know, for me not to tell anyone, you'll have to do something for me." I giggle a little, but don't respond with ideas because anything (even something like "dinner?" would be very awkward). So i just said, "like what?" His only response is silence. When we start talking again maybe half a minute later, we're on a completely different topic. As I'm leaving the car, I'm telling him an interesting story when he states, "well, you DID say that you have an overactive imagination." I might have already been too flustered, but that also hit me a bit weirdly. Next incident happens when the three of us end up going to my aunt's house the next weekend. mainly playful laughter and teasing as usual, but on the way back to campus (again) he asks me a few questions like, "oh, I didn't know you were vegetarian" etc. Mainly quiet for the rest of the trip (stupid brother was quiet, again, and ended up falling asleep). At one point, though, I looked in the mirror and noticed that A was looking at me, but he looked away quickly once we made eye contact. Anyways, I haven't seen him since then, but we've been facebooking a little. Again, we've really busy. The last communication I got from him was two weeks ago about making plans again for dinner (this time just the two of us, like it used to be last year). I figured he was just not interested, but then this weekend he messages me saying that we can meet up anytime this week "whenever want." I said Friday, and that's when we're meeting up. But I guess from these few scenes (i know, i know, lots of over analyzing on my part), what do you guys think? My cousin, whose known A his entire life, said it sounds like A is interested in me (or at least wished that he could have an older version of me). Oh, and last year, I did try to set up A with an older friend of mine (random detail, but perhaps important for someone out there?). Clearly didn't work out, but we've also still clearly been in touch. This guy is really amazing, and even when I didn't actually LIKE him, I always looked up to him. Upon meeting him last year, I literally told my friends that he is exactly the type of guy I would like to marry. We get along fabulously (my aunt always told me he was anti-social). We have SO many characteristics and qualities in common. Anyways, I'd love to hear your more objective feedback. Thanks everyone!!! Also, feel free to ask me anymore questions. i'll answer as best as I can.
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