Lucky555 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 The ex and I were not able to move forward together. Neither of us had our own place to be by ourselves. Now he has his place and it seems like hes trying to be extra flirty and friendly. I have not talked to him in about a week or so. Not being able to chill out at our places really strained what we had too however here are the details. His ex still contacts him. He responds to her when she does contact him because he wants to be able to be friends. SHE WANTS HIM still. He has not got back together with her for 2.5 years now. I know hes not dating her. I know in life men will get chased by women, even if they don't want them and even if they have a girlfriend. I know if its not his ex it would be some other girl that may want him. Last time when we broke up he said he was bad at relationships and his ex was haunting him. I clearly could see we were not WE it was OVER. I knew he was in a ltr for about 6 years and i backed off but i didn't want to hurt him or anything cuz we were friends even before everything started. I told him we should just be friends. This was not face to face it was via messaging. Now my question is I care about him still but i don't contact him often, i don't call him, i don't do anything like before when we were together. I really don't mind just being friends with him because we have a lot in common and i like talking to him. What if he out of the blue tells me that suggests he wants to "date again" I never liked the fact of EX's at all but i realize a lot of people are friends with their ex's. I am not going to raise the topic of dating again with him because I think its best to keep it casual. I am interested in other people right now i have an open mind about things. I know he wouldn't cheat on me and hes always been honest when i ask him things. If he wanted to date again i probably would say yes, however I would like other peoples opinions on this matter. Based upon what i said. Another thing is would it be fair if i ask him before even seeing him or going on a date "what he wants: a relationship, causal, ect." This will avoid me from taking a chance which may not be worth it. I want a relationship and since we had prior history it would be appropriate?
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