the 'secret' is out.

[LittleDove]

OMG.

I have a friend who knows my x and his gf... they dont get along..

 

Today he called to tell me he had seen her, and she was tired from climbing 'our mountain' I seriously couldnt believe it. I had spoken of doing that with him on Thursday!!!...

 

I flipped, that was special to us, and I was told 2 days after being WITH me, he took the gf up it...

 

I lost it, and spat out..'but he slept with me' .... something id kept to myself for fear of X getting in trouble, and to save grace...i knew the minute it left my mouth, id made a mistake.

 

well my 'friend' told her everything.

 

The X just rang me to abuse me...

I just got a call from the X saying they have broken up and its my fault!!

 

GRRRR I said nothing to her...

 

GRRR its his fault, he should not have done it.

 

The most AMAZING part was the call he just gave me, asking if I 'still wanted to move up there'

 

In other words pick up the pieces again.

 

Im shaking. I dont want him back! ever. hes nasty, even now hes abusing me, he just called and asked me to call her and deny it. WTF? he actually said that to me.

 

im not answering anymore calls, from anyone. God I feel like crap. I didnt want this.

[bubblegum]

Oh dear, the drama. The nerve of him to inquire about you moving up there. He doesn't care about anyone's feelings here, but his own.

[Island Girl]

okay well you really opened the can of worms when you agreed to still see your ex after you were broken up.

And especially if you knew he has another gf now.

 

And how can you think this guy would have "special" things he'd save to do with you or for you -- um - those are girlfriend things usually but to a jerk like he is there is no such thing as "special".

 

You shouldn't be surprised. There are a lot of hurt feelings flying around. Imagine how she feels right now!

The drama created will die down - but stay away from toxic people and do not put yourself in situations like this.

 

Don't you have any friends who would have steered you clear of all of this by encouraging the break up to be just that? Or have you been keeping the secret of seeing him and sleeping with him from them as well?

[LittleDove]

Well, the phone is quiet again, and I dont know whats going on. I dont want to know..I have asked he not contact me at all, ever again. I would assume hes talking his way out of it.

 

I have not been seeing him on a regular basis, it happened last week, the first contact after 6 months. There is 1000kms between us- thank god.

Why did I do it? sleep with him?

who can say?? for a moment there, I got swept away in the talk of 'our love' and 'passion' and the good memories...(he is a great manipulator)

or maybe it was some sick validation need in me?? He even spoke of the great memories of our climbing!! So this touched a nerve.. YES IM HURT, AND I WISH I DIDNT SAY IT. But as my 'friend' has said, he cant go around doing this to people and get away with it....oh well, whats out is out, and whats done is done.

 

I know I shouldnt have told this friend, because hes the only mutual contact... he rang to antagonise me because he had seen the gf, looking all happy, beaming that hed taken her mountain climbing...

 

 

Hes a gutless heartless **** who cares for no one except himself.

 

I was already at the point of NC and today has just sealed the deal, 100%

 

He cant 100% blame me for this, yes I told someone, I am hurting, and for a moment there, I thought, why am I protecting him...stuff him.

 

But that doesnt stop the awful drama BS feeling in the pit of my tummy. Butterflies..more like bulls.

why does he still have a pysical effect on me??

when he calls me tummy drops. and its not a good feeling.

I HATE it.

 

oh and spot on about the friends thing! I wouldnt want to admit this to anyone! id get slapped! IF I ever went back, or people knew.

[Island Girl]

Well, the phone is quiet again, and I dont know whats going on. I dont want to know..I have asked he not contact me at all, ever again. I would assume hes talking his way out of it.

 

Here's where he is lucky it isn't ME -- I'd lead him on that I'd smooth it over for her and then answer every question truthfully so he couldn't snow her either! Yeah - I am vicious.

 

I have not been seeing him on a regular basis, it happened last week, the first contact after 6 months. There is 1000kms between us- thank god.

 

Yes - thank god or fate or whatever. Because from the tone of your post you are vulnerable to this ass but I do not know why -- he is a scumbag and a cheater.

 

Why did I do it? sleep with him?

who can say?? for a moment there, I got swept away in the talk of 'our love' and 'passion' and the good memories...(he is a great manipulator)

or maybe it was some sick validation need in me?? He even spoke of the great memories of our climbing!! So this touched a nerve..

 

Maybe you weren't "over" him. Or you wanted to believe the lie -- who knows. You should just remember this - ALL of it - especially the painful sick feeling and use it to remind yourself never to put yourself willingly in this position again. Ever.

 

YES IM HURT, AND I WISH I DIDNT SAY IT. But as my 'friend' has said, he cant go around doing this to people and get away with it....oh well, whats out is out, and whats done is done.

 

I'm glad you DID. He can just go around doing this to people as long as everyone keeps their mouths shut and then how many others are hurt or get STDs in the process. I am GLAD you blurted that out and got him in deep hot water. It is of his own doing!

 

I know I shouldnt have told this friend, because hes the only mutual contact... he rang to antagonise me because he had seen the gf, looking all happy, beaming that hed taken her mountain climbing...

 

You shouldn't have slept with your ex - allowing him to devalue you and cheat on his girlfriend as well.

You did the RIGHT thing in telling the mutual friend. In a way that let him know he can't play you and then get you to be quiet about it. That just protects HIM and why should he be protected?! Scumbag.

 

Hes a gutless heartless **** who cares for no one except himself.

 

There you go!!!! More of that!!!! Now there is TRUTH in all its glory!!

 

I was already at the point of NC and today has just sealed the deal, 100%

 

GOOD. Don't waste another second on the pissy cheater crying and upset that he was caught.

 

He cant 100% blame me for this, yes I told someone, I am hurting, and for a moment there, I thought, why am I protecting him...stuff him.

 

He can't blame you AT ALL for this! He only has HIMSELF to blame. HE is the one who slept with you - HE is the one who has a commitment to someone else. NOT YOU. You just put yourself in a bad position and compromised yourself. Just don't do that again and you are golden.

 

But that doesnt stop the awful drama BS feeling in the pit of my tummy. Butterflies..more like bulls.

why does he still have a pysical effect on me??

when he calls me tummy drops. and its not a good feeling.

I HATE it.

 

I know it is just because of the drama -- don't worry. It is normal that all of that BLAH would make you feel gross. Just go take a hot relaxing bath and drink a glass of really good wine and tell yourself that is all behind you now.

 

oh and spot on about the friends thing! I wouldnt want to admit this to anyone! id get slapped! IF I ever went back, or people knew.

 

Word to the wise: if you wouldn't tell your best friend about it - probably shouldn't do it.

[LittleDove]

Island Girl, you are AMAZING.

Thank you for taking the time to write, and your thoughts are very much appreiciated!!!

 

Yes I still had feelings, I dont know why, hes a scumbag and has been sub human towards me, prior to this...

See post by cashley my former name.. my 1st post ever describes the awful mess. I will find it and post the link.

 

He called me again, and asked if 'i had a good day' and, 'was I happy now id ruined his life'... i was silent.

He asked me why id done it, and let it out. I told him I was so hurt by these most recent lies, i had nothing to loose, and was done protecting his sorry ass.

He says hes got no where to go..(his fault, nor did I when we split, he kept the house, and invited his gf to live there)

he says he cant see his kids? (again HIS deal, i supported that for long enough.)

He says hes got no job, 'because 'she' has taken her computer'

He said, "go on, hang up on me, and then i will be totally alone".... so I DID.

 

I HAD hope...until he messed with me just a few days ago. Unfortunatley for him, I also have feelings.. and when I heard what he had done with a woman he 'claimed' he didnt get along with or like...

 

at the end of the day hes a cheating scumbag, and I have to thank you for helping me not feel quite so bad. Yeah believe it or not, I didnt 'want' this...I didnt want to hurt him, or her, and figured she had her own fate to deal with.. dammit I helped her.

 

Hey island, can you PLEASE pick apart my posts?? I LOVE your clarity.

 

When we saw eachother, it was intence, there was the man id loved, and had missed for 6 months.Together 2, 1/2 years. I Wept for what we had lost, the trust, the bond....part of it was still there, I most probably 'could have' forgiven him.

I noticed some incongruency in his words...it didnt make sense, and I knew I was being lied to.

I was hopeful all week, as much as I HATE to admit it.

I missed his big arms, and the 'nice' things he did...his kids, the security, false security of a family. I saw my flaws and was ready to start freash!!

He told me his gf was nothing to him, just with her for a place to live, with no passion ect... told me how much he missed my body, and how sex with her was nothing..but great with me.

He told me what EVERY LYING CHEAT SAYS. I knew it deep down. We had sex, and you know what? SO WHAT.

I dont care. I can get over that real fast, infact I think I did it to see if hed cheat.

So I drove home,1000kms, and his calls stopped, he went quiet, and I began NC, and then got the news of happy mountain climbing.... and LOST IT.

 

This last LIE, is the last brick in the wall. That mountain...my first climb, and i bet they 'did it' at the top too. I was seething, he was not only still with her, but pissing all over any good memory I had.

 

He had his chance, and I saw exactly what it and I meant to him, NOTHING...now this sucks, but is nothing new, just a reality I didnt want to accept.

 

Im done being hurt by him, I begin a new job tomorrow, and I am not taking anymore of his calls.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t169149/?highlight=cashley the whole story, is there..read through the thread, there were missunderstandings and eventually I told the entire story, right at the end. It just bought a tear to my eye, because I even mentioned, how we climbed mountains....

 

Stuff HIS day, mines sucked as well!

 

and NO im NOT even thinking about any chance of 4th or 5th chances!

 

BUT I DO need help to feel okay... my head hurts...

[Island Girl]

Island Girl, you are AMAZING.

Thank you for taking the time to write, and your thoughts are very much appreiciated!!!

 

Thank you. That was very nice to hear - I am glad you get my intentions.

 

Yes I still had feelings, I dont know why, hes a scumbag and has been sub human towards me, prior to this...

See post by cashley my former name.. my 1st post ever describes the awful mess. I will find it and post the link.

 

Perhaps what the "dream" was is what you actually love and can't let go of. Even when reality is staring you in the face. One of my friends was like that with her "first love" - but she really found it wasn't love at all. Now she HAS real love and in her words "it is nothing compared to the fairy tale". It is harder but better in every way.

 

He called me again, and asked if 'i had a good day' and, 'was I happy now id ruined his life'... i was silent.

He asked me why id done it, and let it out. I told him I was so hurt by these most recent lies, i had nothing to loose, and was done protecting his sorry ass.

He says hes got no where to go..(his fault, nor did I when we split, he kept the house, and invited his gf to live there)

he says he cant see his kids? (again HIS deal, i supported that for long enough.)

He says hes got no job, 'because 'she' has taken her computer'

He said, "go on, hang up on me, and then i will be totally alone".... so I DID.

 

OMG what a self pity douche bag. That is his game huh? The "poor me, no one understands me (except you), I feel abandoned, all this wrong is always done TO me and I am such a good guy" Give me a frickin' break. If that is the kind of guy you have been attracted to in the past --- change THAT. If you weren't in the past but can see how he sucked you in by that --- LEARN FROM IT and do NOT be that girl again.

 

YUCK. That whole conversation revolts me.

"was I happy I'd ruined his life" -- I'd answer: "what was that? You made choices that ruined your life? oh that sucks. my advice is don't do that again."

 

I HAD hope...until he messed with me just a few days ago. Unfortunatley for him, I also have feelings.. and when I heard what he had done with a woman he 'claimed' he didnt get along with or like...

 

That is the demon you must wrestle and conquer. WHY? Why would you even want a man like that - (to me he lacks the qualities that make up a man) - and that is a big ruse. Anytime a guy claims he doesn't get along with a girl or doesn't like her it is a situation to be watched for sure. Sometimes - the guy really just can't stand the girl. But usually there is sexual tension there and it is someone he'd sleep with. Just an FYI

 

at the end of the day hes a cheating scumbag, and I have to thank you for helping me not feel quite so bad. Yeah believe it or not, I didnt 'want' this...I didnt want to hurt him, or her, and figured she had her own fate to deal with.. dammit I helped her.

 

He deserves what he got -- and he got off easy as far as I am concerned. And her - well she is an inn0ocent victim of his stupid cheating azz. I feel sorry for her. Now if she stays with him after this -- she deserves what she gets which is more of the same. He will cheat again. What a role model for his children huh?

 

Hey island, can you PLEASE pick apart my posts?? I LOVE your clarity.

 

You mean the others?

 

When we saw eachother, it was intence, there was the man id loved, and had missed for 6 months.Together 2, 1/2 years. I Wept for what we had lost, the trust, the bond....part of it was still there, I most probably 'could have' forgiven him.

I noticed some incongruency in his words...it didnt make sense, and I knew I was being lied to.

I was hopeful all week, as much as I HATE to admit it.

I missed his big arms, and the 'nice' things he did...his kids, the security, false security of a family. I saw my flaws and was ready to start freash!!

He told me his gf was nothing to him, just with her for a place to live, with no passion ect... told me how much he missed my body, and how sex with her was nothing..but great with me.

He told me what EVERY LYING CHEAT SAYS. I knew it deep down. We had sex, and you know what? SO WHAT.

I dont care. I can get over that real fast, infact I think I did it to see if hed cheat.

So I drove home,1000kms, and his calls stopped, he went quiet, and I began NC, and then got the news of happy mountain climbing.... and LOST IT.

 

of course you missed what you had. But that first thought should have been that was then, this is now.

The second you found out he was seeing someone whether she meant something to him or not doesn't matter. It is the way he would treat another person. One whom he had a commitment to. The way to address that is "what are you doing here with me then?" A man has to be free to talk to me to be able to talk to me.

I was placed in that kind of a situation and immediately upon hearing of another involved I told the guy "we" had nothing to discuss until he wasn't part of another "we" anymore.

 

You just got lost in all of it at once. Big arms --- muscular huh? yeah those muscles can be intoxicating. I fall for the big ones myself.

 

But as you know now -- it didn't have to go alllll the way there. And it certainly was not worth THIS, was it?

 

This last LIE, is the last brick in the wall. That mountain...my first climb, and i bet they 'did it' at the top too. I was seething, he was not only still with her, but pissing all over any good memory I had.

 

Do not give him the power to do that. You had that first climb. You have that memory of YOUR accomplishment. Besides -- and I hate to say this because I feel for the poor girl -- she got seconds. You were up there first - before her.

 

He had his chance, and I saw exactly what it and I meant to him, NOTHING...now this sucks, but is nothing new, just a reality I didnt want to accept.

 

Im done being hurt by him, I begin a new job tomorrow, and I am not taking anymore of his calls.

 

He had his chance to rise up and be a MAN. And he couldn't do it. He is not in control of his life and is looking for women to pick up pieces of his life that he keeps f*cking up. He wants a maid.

 

You want a MAN. Someone YOU can lean on when times are hard. NOT someone who always has to lean on you. You want a MAN who takes care of his business and his woman.

 

And congrats on your new job. That means EVERYTHING can start fresh.

Do not EVER mention his name at your new job -- no anecdotal stories -- nothing -- it is as if he never existed. It is the best gift you can give yourself.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t169149/?highlight=cashley the whole story, is there..read through the thread, there were missunderstandings and eventually I told the entire story, right at the end. It just bought a tear to my eye, because I even mentioned, how we climbed mountains....

 

Stuff HIS day, mines sucked as well!

 

and NO im NOT even thinking about any chance of 4th or 5th chances!

 

BUT I DO need help to feel okay... my head hurts...

 

Okay I'll go read....

[Island Girl]

Tried to send you a Private Message but it won't let me.

 

Oh well. Just a funny comment anyway.

[LittleDove]

I cant work out how to PM either??

Its been a LONG day.

Island Girl, the way you put things, gets through, you have clarity im lacking!

I dont feel so bad about today now.

He jerked me around, and karma (with some assistance) bit him in his backside.

 

You are SO right, he is no MAN, and I knew that all along.

No real man does the crap he did.

There are some arms out there, that will hold me oneday, and I will feel truly safe there. No doubts.

 

I am damaged, and I can admit it... he took a girl with healthy self respect and turned me into a doormat.

Its taken me 6 months to get this far.... and luckily I am strong...(sometimes) I left didnt i?? I was crippled, in everyway.

 

I allowed him to walk all over me- and betrayed myself by doing that.

 

What a day. I have whats called a migrane now.

(might be that wine and cheese!)

 

Thank you for such a great help today, i really really needed it.

[Peter_pan]

pm only works after 50 post count or something like that.

[LittleDove]

I cannot believe this.

Just now, I peeked at facebook, and the X has sent me gifts...

WTF?

hes trying to mess with my head again.

I just deleted the friends for sale application, thats the only way a blocked person can still contact you.

Cricky, will it EVER end???

 

Ive been feeling really good, and so over it, and then I see that hes been thinking of me, and it makes me fustrated, and brings back the stupid emotions, and I know in my heart, I really dont like the leech at all, never want him back, so why does my tummy drop when I see hes sent me virtual gifts???

and then I saw his 'pets' and hes begun to buy blonde ones..(story here is he was keeping pets who looked like me, dark petite and cute, and he told me he did it so id notice if i looked... now hes keeping pets that resemble his new chick.)

 

 

IKKY. I wish I had no feelings. Hes an awful creature. how can I stop the urge to look at the facebook page?

Now im thinking maybe I should delete any mutual friends...theres 2.

[Federica]

I cant work out how to PM either??

 

You recently re-registered as 'LittleDove' and even though you were a long-time member under another pseudonym, your 'new' account is too new to send/receive PMs. It's like you're a brand new member.....You have to be here a little while before it's activated.

 

Either PM under your old account, or else, unfortunately, you'll have a little while longer to wait.

 

Sorry guys.

[LittleDove]

Thanks for that info, I will keep posting... and im not planning on changing my name again..

[Island Girl]

I cannot believe this.

Just now, I peeked at facebook, and the X has sent me gifts...

WTF?

hes trying to mess with my head again.

 

Yes, he is. He wants to see if there would still be a chance to lean on you or GAWD forbid get you to support him in any way he would need. He just wants to see if he can tug at your heart strings. My guess is that over the years there have been a couple of times when you looked like you were "done" and possibly even declared it so but then he was able to smooth talk it through.

 

He is hoping that even after all that has happened you still look at him with "rose colored" glasses and will overlook the fact that he has betrayed you, her, left you in debt, strung you along, played poor me, and will settle for what he is willing to give (which isn't much).

 

I just deleted the friends for sale application, thats the only way a blocked person can still contact you.

Cricky, will it EVER end???

 

Only if you do not respond. Sometimes there can be a contact even years later - again - it only stops when you don't respond and get sucked back in to the sickness.

 

Ive been feeling really good, and so over it, and then I see that hes been thinking of me, and it makes me fustrated, and brings back the stupid emotions, and I know in my heart, I really dont like the leech at all, never want him back, so why does my tummy drop when I see hes sent me virtual gifts???

 

Of course you will have good days and bad days. ENJOY the good days and if there IS a bad day just realize they are going to happen, it is a natural part of the process. There ARE still feelings there. You shared a lot of time and memories. You can't expect that to go away overnight and in time hopefully you can enjoy what you did have and that you learned A LOT about what you DON'T want.

 

If it were me - but again I am the devil (lol)- I would be GLAD he is thinking of what he can't have. I would be reveling in the fact that he still thinks he can manipulate me when I am soooooooooo long gone. Happy is still stuck being a confused pathetic scumbag when I have moved on to greener pastures! HA HA!

 

and then I saw his 'pets' and hes begun to buy blonde ones..(story here is he was keeping pets who looked like me, dark petite and cute, and he told me he did it so id notice if i looked... now hes keeping pets that resemble his new chick.)

 

More game playing. On your side I am sure he hopes you'll notice and be upset enough to give some kind of a response. That just gets the door open again so he can use manipulative tactics to reel you back in.

 

For her, he is using the same lines he did with you. She probably thinks it's cute like you did. And he has to try to score points with her right now in light of the fact that he is in the dog house. I am surprised she stayed - ah but then again, not. Too many women just keep lowering their standards gain and again. It makes me sad. *sigh*.

 

IKKY. I wish I had no feelings. Hes an awful creature. how can I stop the urge to look at the facebook page?

Now im thinking maybe I should delete any mutual friends...theres 2.

 

I would delete the friends. Resist any and all temptation to look at what he is doing or saying etc. These mutual friends, can you explain to them that you are blocking them on facebook but you would still like contact by e-mail or phone? (That is, if they are really your friends and not just aquaintances through him). I would also change the subject immediately if he comes up in conversation and you do not need to explain why.

 

Have a happy day today! With everything you have been through, you really are doing great!:bunny:

[Sysyphus28]

OMG.

I have a friend who knows my x and his gf... they dont get along..

 

Today he called to tell me he had seen her, and she was tired from climbing 'our mountain' I seriously couldnt believe it. I had spoken of doing that with him on Thursday!!!...

 

I flipped, that was special to us, and I was told 2 days after being WITH me, he took the gf up it...

 

I lost it, and spat out..'but he slept with me' .... something id kept to myself for fear of X getting in trouble, and to save grace...i knew the minute it left my mouth, id made a mistake.

 

well my 'friend' told her everything.

 

The X just rang me to abuse me...

I just got a call from the X saying they have broken up and its my fault!!

 

GRRRR I said nothing to her...

 

GRRR its his fault, he should not have done it.

 

The most AMAZING part was the call he just gave me, asking if I 'still wanted to move up there'

 

In other words pick up the pieces again.

 

Im shaking. I dont want him back! ever. hes nasty, even now hes abusing me, he just called and asked me to call her and deny it. WTF? he actually said that to me.

 

im not answering anymore calls, from anyone. God I feel like crap. I didnt want this.

 

After a relationship it can get so ugly and abusive...........

Just know, you really don't have to deal with it. You just don't It's over................yay.

 

I have forgotten that in the last 2-3 months when I am in a texting battle or in some bull**** convo with her. She is not thier.......and just because anger bubbles up and things get emotional..........

 

You got to say to yourself, "This conversation doesn't matter-----these negative words don't matter----------this is over---why am I even involved in your life?"

 

Why? Your situation sounds so unnecessary, just place this person in the archives...........DO not involve yourself with them.

 

Look how upset it got you and how it disrupted your week. Like you are really going to call this "new" girl to win her back for him.....He is mentally on another planet. That's some stupid sh** on his part.

 

My ex is thinks I am going to go thanksgiving dinner with all our friends and "make nice" with her...

 

I am not going.

[LittleDove]

hey thanks guys, im ignoring it all.

 

he IS trying to mess with me, and I am not going to bite his bait. He is just trying to keep me on a string, hes cruel infact I think I told him sub human.

 

Hes a sociopath with no emotions.... hes sick, he will not change, hes got problems.

 

Last night it shocked me to see a 'gift' and to see he isnt 'suffering' at all.

 

And about 30mins after I went to bed, phone rang, private number.. guess who called???

"are you awake" "can we talk"...I said 'whos this', "its me" ..'whos me?', "me!"... i said,**** off and hung up..

 

Island, ive lived with this drama for 6 months, and prior to leaving 2 and a bit years of it, so im more 'over it' than I knew. and yes I did take him back a few times during the relationship, he would have every reason to believe I would again. There is NO chance of that.

 

Sure I miss the loving days back in the beginining- and thats what memories I keep, I dont miss him one bit. What hes done to me is so vile twisted and evil, I absolutley never want to see his face again.

 

Ater this last BS drama episode I have found im at peace with it all.

 

My eyes are open to all thats GOOD in my life right now. I dont want to keep re-visiting the past and all its BS.

 

Im re-reading a book called 'Living In The Now', by Eckhart Tolle, it helps to break the thought cycles about the past or future and just be, right now.

 

I shouldnt care. I dont get 'why' I do sometimes I hate it. I want to switch off and just forget... he did.. kind of.

[LittleDove]

OMG. Im REALLY glad im done caring, because what he did today would have really upset me...but I was able to have a laugh. I got the butteflies in the tummy feeling..not in a good way.

 

I get a call from him.."why are you doing this"....umm what?

 

"why did you tell xyz we had sex" ...it isnt true!!

 

I said, who are you trying to convince??? me?, you did it with me, as much as I regret it now.....and I laughed...

then I realised shes sitting beside him.Listening...

 

So I laughed even harder- hes somehow won her back, good, I dont care...poor woman.

BUT, then he said something really hurtful...(as I said, lucky im over caring) he said...and it made no sense..

"i know who I love, and its not you, I love this beautiful woman here in my arms" I said 'thats great you are certain of that, today, (giggle) maybe now you might keep your willy in his pants, and show her you love her.

 

He began ranting at me, and I heard a scream, and the phone cut out.I am NOT part of his life, leave me alone!!!! then sent a txt message reminding him theres a court order protecting me against this type of harrasment.

 

I was with my guy, and he wasnt impressed at all. He thought this was all over, and so did I.

 

My egox has made it SO EASY to despise him, theres no way I can feel any love towards him. Hes been so nasty, I have had a huge reminder of why I left, and what a flake I left.

What hes done has freed me.

Sure I have memories of his kids and some happy days, but HE IS A ROTTON FOOL and I know in everyway, im better off without him.

 

I never missed HIM, I missed being 'secure, and had forgotton that I felt trapped. There was a VALID reason I left. He is an idiot, sociopathic, righteous user. *i could go on, and on.

 

I just cannot believe this absolute rubbish, and how dare he call me, lying to me?? WTF?

If he lived closer, and if I was a big guy, i would have gone and hit the coward.

 

Okay, I think im finished venting.

[Island Girl]

I ended reading your last post with a smile on my face.

 

That you are DONE - and that you can now see so clearly what a manipulator he is -- that is FANTASTIC!

 

He will say whatever to whomever to get what he is trying to accomplish at the moment (i.e. the "I know who I love" comment which is in fact complete bull****) and then weave another manipulation if there are repercussions from that. -- ugh I don't think that makes sense when reading it but I think YOU understand what I mean.

 

What a major AZZhole.

 

I am soooooooooooo glad you have moved on. You are rid of this leach who was sucking the life out of you and the money out of your bank account.

 

THANK GAWD!!!

 

Hope you are having a WONDERFUL day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

{{{hugs}}}

[LittleDove]

Island girl!! hello, and YES EVERYDAY WITHOUT HIM IN MY LIFE IS A GOOD DAY!!!!

 

Im OKAY, I just cant stand those damm butterfly feelings I get when he calls to stir me... its YUK. I shake, and feel like my nerves a GONE.

Kinda like when I was trapped..but worse.

 

Anyway, hes been such a weezle I cant get sad, even if I wanted to. No more tears, no more wasted energy.

 

I have a feeling he will take his revenge AGAIN and try to get another court order against me.... if he does, I will go back to court, and front the judge again. I will be honest and I will have it thrown out of court. Yes your honor, I came up for court, you threw the application out, and now im back...1000kms away. Hopefully he will get 'done' for wasting the courts time. IF that happens, im prepared for it.

 

Theres no mystery now- no wondering if hes happy, no jealousy towards the gf... hes the same turd I left, maybe worse.

 

Its made my time with him crystal clear...he DID cheat on me with his xwife. When he was caught out, he did EXACTLY what hes doing now...

" I met up with her, but we never had sex.." and although I knew better, I believed it, and stayed on....

 

Well no more mystery now eh!! and now im kinda GLAD I never forgave him, and bought it up SO many times for the last year we were together. LOL.

 

Island, you have him pegged, how do you know his type?? have you been with one too?? a turd i mean....

[Island Girl]

Island, you have him pegged, how do you know his type?? have you been with one too?? a turd i mean....

 

I have to tell the truth -- No. I wasn't with one of those -- or I was probably at one point or another -- in my life it has been the reverse. *hanging head down*

I just know men really well. I was the master manipulator of men and broke plenty of hearts playing plenty of games. But as my brother says, I now use my powers for good!

 

Hope you don't think less of me now! lol

[LittleDove]

Yeah I still love you plenty. You hear my cries!!! you listen!! you are GOLD.