A few questions for women (men can answer too though)

[kashmir]

Just some thoughts I had all lumped into one thread. I'm totally serious with every question.

 

What makes a guy a creep? More importantly, what would you do in the presence of a creep? I'm talking about creepy guys you see around but have never met, not ones who you know from personal experience to be creepy.

 

How far will the average girl go when she sees an attractive guy? Will take a few peeks and act otherwise oblivious towards him, or will she stay locked on him?

 

How can you differentiate between a girl who thinks you're creepy and a girl who thinks you're attractive?

 

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction? I'm 6' 2", taller than probably 95% of guys I'm around, I'm pretty well built, and I don't have a very inviting look to me (I have strong male features, not "cute" boyish features). I'm usually grinning or giving a light smile though, so I can't look that evil!

 

Finally, this one isn't related to the questions above, but is there any reason for a female friend to clearly NOT help a guy friend with girls? I have a few female friends (who all have boyfriends), and some of them just plain refuse to go out with me to a party or something. I find that weird, because we hang out on our own a lot, but when it comes to situations where I can meet other girls, they back out. I've been in situations before where I had a "wingwoman," and it really helped a lot.

[2sure]

What makes a guy a creep? More importantly, what would you do in the presence of a creep? A man who seems to present himself as something he is not. Creep = insincere. Also, a guy who lecherously looks at women when they dont know it. Creepy.

How far will the average girl go when she sees an attractive guy? Will take a few peeks and act otherwise oblivious towards him, or will she stay locked on him? If other women are already showing an obvious interest in the same guy - a girl may not feel like throwing her hat into that ring. But, if he seems otherwise not engaged - eye contact will let you know she is interested. Eye contact of this type cannot be mistaken.

 

How can you differentiate between a girl who thinks you're creepy and a girl who thinks you're attractive? Great question! But really - a woman will have zero contact with a creep. However, she may find you interesting and intriguing, but not quite attractive. She may be hanging out to see if you become attractive.

 

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction?

You are a musician right? Possibly have a bad boy image or an ego stereotype mistakenly attached to you. Is this your picture on your icon?? Your looks are not a problem.

 

I've been in situations before where I had a "wingwoman," and it really helped a lot.

Having a woman friend when you go out is a huge advantage, . Ive done it for several friends. The fact that they refuse....could mean that although they don't/can't have you - they don't want anyone else too either. Women are competitive that way.

[elaina]

Just some thoughts I had all lumped into one thread. I'm totally serious with every question.

 

What makes a guy a creep? More importantly, what would you do in the presence of a creep? I'm talking about creepy guys you see around but have never met, not ones who you know from personal experience to be creepy.

 

All these questions are very interesting! I'm at home today cause I'm sick so Ihave a lot of time to answer!

 

What makes a guy a creep according to my friends and me are the following:

 

1.) He is over 40 years old and is leering at girls that he's old enough to be their Dad or even Grandpa. That's sickenly creepy...

 

2.) He (any age any characteristic) is staring at you and you smile and say hi or you try to ignore him, and he just keeps staring rudely without doing anything to make you feel comfortable. That's creepy and weird.

 

3.) He tries to flirt but is crude. That's creepy and rude.

 

4.) He is mean somehow... saying mean things or making fun of others or cussing way too much for no apparent good reason or yelling at people (which is totally different than yelling support for your team at a football game which is cool and not creepy at all) or threatening to hurt somebody or crashing mirrors or hitting one's head into the wall,... that's creepy and scary.

 

There are others too...

 

I try to avoid creeps. Why do you ask this? What do you think a creep is?

 

How far will the average girl go when she sees an attractive guy?

Will take a few peeks and act otherwise oblivious towards him, or will she stay locked on him?

 

It depends on her personality. If she is shy she will probably avoid showing she likes him. If she is outgoing she will proabably be all over him. If she wants him to pursue she will probably be waiting for him to and wondering why he isn't. It also depends on how long she has known him and her trust level of him.

 

How can you differentiate between a girl who thinks you're creepy and a girl who thinks you're attractive?

 

Lol, creepy in my opinion is not so much appearance. Appearance is more like "hot" = very attractive, handsome, cute = attractive and fun, nice, average, not cute, ugly. Creepy isn't really an appearance, or is it? I guess maybe it could be, but then that creepy would be if the guy has bright red fingernails with dried blood caked underneath them and has scorpion and skeleton bone tattoes all over his body then yeah ok that would be creepy lol. Never mind. I guess you can differente by her body language. If she backs away from you with horror etched on her face then yeah she probably thinks you are creepy lol.

 

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction? I'm 6' 2", taller than probably 95% of guys I'm around, I'm pretty well built, and I don't have a very inviting look to me (I have strong male features, not "cute" boyish features). I'm usually grinning or giving a light smile though, so I can't look that evil!

 

Sure a guy's appearance can definitely deter or encourage. Many girls like the guy to make a first move though.

 

Finally, this one isn't related to the questions above, but is there any reason for a female friend to clearly NOT help a guy friend with girls? I have a few female friends (who all have boyfriends), and some of them just plain refuse to go out with me to a party or something. I find that weird, because we hang out on our own a lot, but when it comes to situations where I can meet other girls, they back out. I've been in situations before where I had a "wingwoman," and it really helped a lot.

 

I don't know. ? There's tons of reasons why not. Why don't you ask them why?

[kashmir]

Thanks for the answers.

 

I ask the questions about creepiness because this phobia about being a creep that I got rid of a while ago is starting to come back. I'm not a creep. I know what I think and how I act and I don't do anything creepy or perverted. I just sometimes get the sense that girls act a certain way around me like they would act around a guy they thought was creepy. They'll appear uneasy - always looking around, a straight face, and now and then they'll turn their eyes towards me in a non-expressive way and then quickly look away.

 

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction? I'm 6' 2", taller than probably 95% of guys I'm around, I'm pretty well built, and I don't have a very inviting look to me (I have strong male features, not "cute" boyish features). I'm usually grinning or giving a light smile though, so I can't look that evil!

 

I didn't word this too well. What I'm asking is, can a guy look too unwelcoming or intimidating for a girl to look or smile at him? Like, she can maybe find him attractive, but she's too afraid or self-conscious to act on that attraction because he looks a bit intimidating? Girls will hardly ever look at me, and I figure it's either because I'm a) ugly or b) intimidating. Obviously, I'd like for b to be the answer, but I don't know if girls do that.

 

My avatar isn't me, btw.

[alphamale]

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction?

a man who is physically attractive will get disproportionate attention from most women. said male with learn very early on the non-verbal signals that women who like them are giving off. most women give off the same signals so it becomes like shooting fish in a barrel.

 

there are exceptions....i've met some good looking men who are shy or introverted or have zero confidence with women so they tend to lose out.

 

generally the way it works is women give off the invitation signals and the targeted males make the approach....it then proceeds from there and sometimes ends in a loveless marriage and a nasty divorce where the children are used as pawns in a sick game of relationship chess.

[elaina]

Thanks for the answers.

 

I ask the questions about creepiness because this phobia about being a creep that I got rid of a while ago is starting to come back. I'm not a creep. I know what I think and how I act and I don't do anything creepy or perverted. I just sometimes get the sense that girls act a certain way around me like they would act around a guy they thought was creepy. They'll appear uneasy - always looking around, a straight face, and now and then they'll turn their eyes towards me in a non-expressive way and then quickly look away.

 

Ahhh I see...why did you have this phobia about being a creep? I'm sorry about that. I'm sure that wasn't fun.

 

Maybe girls appear uneasy around you cause you are tall. 6'2'' is quite tall you know. Most girls are used to talking with guys around 5'8'' to 5'11'' so being towered over by a guy who is 6'2'' can be sort of unnerving. So maybe if you invite a lady to sit down with you and talk? That way she won't be thinking yikes you are tall the whole time instead of talking with you and getting to know you

 

I didn't word this too well. What I'm asking is, can a guy look too unwelcoming or intimidating for a girl to look or smile at him? Like, she can maybe find him attractive, but she's too afraid or self-conscious to act on that attraction because he looks a bit intimidating? Girls will hardly ever look at me, and I figure it's either because I'm a) ugly or b) intimidating. Obviously, I'd like for b to be the answer, but I don't know if girls do that.

 

Sure a guy can look too unwelcoming or intimidating that is true, and yeah it is true that girls can be too selfconscious. When you see a girl that you are interested in getting to know,do you go to her and introduce yourself and ask about her? Maybe yeah next time try to sit down somewhere so she can look in your eyes instead of having to look up to see you,unless she is tall herself. Being tall is cool, so don't worry about it. You are cool because you are you and it helps too if when you talk to a person, to let them know that you think they are cool too!

 

My avatar isn't me, btw.

 

lol ok now I'm curious what do you look like then? don't you dare say you have red fingernails and scorpion tattoes!!!

[PrincessPeach]

Just some thoughts I had all lumped into one thread. I'm totally serious with every question.

 

What makes a guy a creep? More importantly, what would you do in the presence of a creep? I'm talking about creepy guys you see around but have never met, not ones who you know from personal experience to be creepy.

A guy is a creeper if he sticks around after several hints that I'm clearly disinterested. I'll tell him to leave me alone or go away, but he keeps coming back. If he hangs around and is often "coincidentally" around more often than should normally happen.

 

Anyone who seems to know a lot about me who isn't a friend of a friend sort of thing, and even a friend of a friend can know too much. Basically a stalker sort would be creepy.

 

How far will the average girl go when she sees an attractive guy? Will take a few peeks and act otherwise oblivious towards him, or will she stay locked on him?

I am not going to approach a guy I don't know. They should at least have the confidence to approach a girl, otherwise they are just eye candy. But since I'm looking his way there is probably a good chance to make eye contact and give him a reason to come over. Once a guy approaches or has met me, then I feel okay with chasing him

 

Though I'll also regularly look toward someone I think looks funny or has an appearacne that I'm sort of making fun of with my friends. Horrible, I know, but it happens.

 

How can you differentiate between a girl who thinks you're creepy and a girl who thinks you're attractive?

If a girl thinks you are a creeper she will probably try to avoid you or seem very uncomfortable around you, maybe even to the point she actually mentions her dislike of you.

 

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction? I'm 6' 2", taller than probably 95% of guys I'm around, I'm pretty well built, and I don't have a very inviting look to me (I have strong male features, not "cute" boyish features). I'm usually grinning or giving a light smile though, so I can't look that evil!

Those all seem like good qualities to me!

 

Finally, this one isn't related to the questions above, but is there any reason for a female friend to clearly NOT help a guy friend with girls? I have a few female friends (who all have boyfriends), and some of them just plain refuse to go out with me to a party or something. I find that weird, because we hang out on our own a lot, but when it comes to situations where I can meet other girls, they back out. I've been in situations before where I had a "wingwoman," and it really helped a lot.

There are many reasons, but I'd guess that jealousy/competitiveness among us ladies is near the top for most common reasons. If I sort of liked a guy, but didn't want a relationship with him or visa versa, I probably wouldn't help him get any girls. The guys I would help are the ones I guess you'd say that I have in my "friend zone" because I won't have any feelings for them in that way.

[kashmir]

Ahhh I see...why did you have this phobia about being a creep? I'm sorry about that. I'm sure that wasn't fun.

 

Maybe girls appear uneasy around you cause you are tall. 6'2'' is quite tall you know. Most girls are used to talking with guys around 5'8'' to 5'11'' so being towered over by a guy who is 6'2'' can be sort of unnerving. So maybe if you invite a lady to sit down with you and talk? That way she won't be thinking yikes you are tall the whole time instead of talking with you and getting to know you

 

Sure a guy can look too unwelcoming or intimidating that is true, and yeah it is true that girls can be too selfconscious. When you see a girl that you are interested in getting to know,do you go to her and introduce yourself and ask about her? Maybe yeah next time try to sit down somewhere so she can look in your eyes instead of having to look up to see you,unless she is tall herself. Being tall is cool, so don't worry about it. You are cool because you are you and it helps too if when you talk to a person, to let them know that you think they are cool too!

 

lol ok now I'm curious what do you look like then? don't you dare say you have red fingernails and scorpion tattoes!!!

 

I rarely approach a girl in public, mostly because when I tried it in the past it turned out really bad. I've also gotten advice from girls my age that any guy to approach a girl in the day while sober is creepy. They don't want to be approached by new guys. Normally I wouldn't believe such advice, but after trying it myself I realized that it's not far from the truth.

 

Why was I afraid of being a creep? No idea, besides just being my own worst critic.

 

And I look fine and normal...nothing too out of the ordinary.

 

A guy is a creeper if he sticks around after several hints that I'm clearly disinterested. I'll tell him to leave me alone or go away, but he keeps coming back. If he hangs around and is often "coincidentally" around more often than should normally happen.

 

Anyone who seems to know a lot about me who isn't a friend of a friend sort of thing, and even a friend of a friend can know too much. Basically a stalker sort would be creepy.

 

If a girl thinks you are a creeper she will probably try to avoid you or seem very uncomfortable around you, maybe even to the point she actually mentions her dislike of you.

 

I don't do either of those things. I take hints easily, TOO easily actually. When I feel like a girl doesn't like me, the only times I'll see her again are by complete coincidence. I'll probably not think about her again until I happen to run into her.

 

 

There are many reasons, but I'd guess that jealousy/competitiveness among us ladies is near the top for most common reasons. If I sort of liked a guy, but didn't want a relationship with him or visa versa, I probably wouldn't help him get any girls. The guys I would help are the ones I guess you'd say that I have in my "friend zone" because I won't have any feelings for them in that way.

 

Well every one of my friendships with girls kind of started because of her attraction towards me (and sometimes my mutual attraction as well). I've had some girl friends actually tell me, "I wanted to know you because I thought you were really cool and attractive, but I'm in love with my long-time boyfriend so sorry..." I don't get why she would tempt herself if she had a boyfriend, but that's beyond me. Fact is, a lot of girls I know DO have at least a few feelings for me, but they're usually involved in something else that understandably means more. I easily accept that...it just seems like they're having their cake and eating it too when they won't help out with me meeting other girls. There's this one girl who I consider one of my best friends. She's awesome, but she has a boyfriend. I'll go out with her sometimes, but she'll get clearly annoyed when I start talking to other girls. Sometimes she'll even intrude. It really sucks because her roommate last year was a really hot volleyball player who I find really attractive, and because I know this girl so well, she could hook me up with her and put in a good word, but she obviously won't do that.

[tinogrrl]

Women overwhelmingly tend to be passive aggressive in both showing interest in and rejecting men... trying to decipher all of the nonverbal cues can be likened to attempting to solve a rubix cube... but I think you recognize some of the more universal ones.

 

It is entirely possible that your female friends are harboring some hidden affection for you, and do not want to see you with other women, much less hook you up with them.

 

You also mentioned that many of them have boyfriends; personally, if a guy friend asked me to go out with him (to the bars) to be his 'wingwoman' sans my boyfriend, I would be less inclined to do so. Do you invite the boyfriends as well? Or are you pretty confident that that is not the issue?

[kashmir]

Well I don't go to bars (too young), but the boyfriends usually don't go to this school. It's not like I'm trying to hook up with these girl friends when going out, and that fact should be obvious to them (as I've been alone with them many times, sometimes in their rooms, and never made any kind of advancement. We were just hanging out as friends).

 

But for example, one time there was this girl with a boyfriend who I knew pretty well (though she's currently single). She had a friend I kinda liked, so I asked her about her friend via facebook. Nothing too direct, just saying how it was cool that I saw her at some concert and was wondering who her friend was that was with her. No response. Never even spoke to that girl again. I've seen her, tried to make eye contact, but she avoided me.

 

Sometimes I have gone out with some of these girls, but like I said, many times when I was talking to other girls, they'd butt in and almost sabotage my attempts.

[tinogrrl]

I assumed that you had no ulterior motives in wanting your female friends to help you look for other women, I was just wondering if you had considered the boyfriends as being a reason for their unwillingness to help you out. For some women, not hanging out with alone with men other than their boyfriends is a respect thing, or to avoid creating jealousy.

 

Since this is not the case, I suspect some of these girl friends are likely harboring feelings for you, especially if you have previously dated some of them. Usually when you ask a friend if they can hook you up with a friend of theirs that you find attrative and you receive no response, it means that said person is not interested in you, and your friend is trying to avoid an awkward third-party rejection conversation. But the fact that your friend won't talk to you at all now is just plain odd.

 

but like I said, many times when I was talking to other girls, they'd butt in and almost sabotage my attempts.

Sounds like the female equivalent to cock-blocking!

[Isolde]

What makes a guy a creep?

 

It's complex. Generally I look to behavioral cues--do they walk close behind girls, do they yell out catcalls, do they whisper to friends about girls walking around, do they shift their eyes around furtively? But there are also physical cues--dress, cleanliness, and so on and so forth. Unfortunately, dirty guys with rumpled hair tend to give off a creepy guy vibe, but so could an overdressed businessman if he made lewd expressions and gestures (actually, that's almost worse!)

 

What would you do in the presence of a creep?

 

I'd just continue on my way and ignore him.

 

How far will the average girl go when she sees an attractive guy?

 

It depends on what kind of attractive. There are model like men that I won't look twice at for some reason, and then there are guys that are only semi cute that have something extra to them. Mostly, what draws my eye is a combination of charm and attractiveness, but again, it has to be a certain type of aura that he exudes or I won't be interested. Confidence and friendliness definitely would encourage me to smile and make eye contact, if not actually initiate a conversation.

 

How can you differentiate between a girl who thinks you're creepy and a girl who thinks you're attractive?

 

She'll smile, or she'll go all shy, but in a cute way, not a scared way.

Don't overthink this.

 

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction?

 

Yes, as could any other aspect of him. Attraction is a very complex thing. It's not unheard of to be attracted mainly to one physical type but then find a guy who doesn't fit that who blows all the others out of the water.

 

Is there any reason for a female friend to clearly NOT help a guy friend with girls?

 

She likes him and wants him all to herself; or she's a complete bitch.

[ipetree]

What makes a guy a creep?

 

It's complex. Generally I look to behavioral cues--do they walk close behind girls, do they yell out catcalls, do they whisper to friends about girls walking around, do they shift their eyes around furtively?

 

 

I have yet to meet a guy that will pass a hot girl and not whisper something to someone else.

 

Guys, do not worry about what women find "creepy". Basically they are jealous if you are looking at attractive women.

 

It seems women today want to "neuter" male behavior and thought. Soon, just looking at a female will make you "creepy". You should just want one woman your age or older, let her spend your money, never cheat, and then you will not be "creepy".

[fral945]

You're creepy if a chick doesn't find you attractive and you hit on her or stare at her constantly and don't hit on her.

 

Therefore, all men are creeps. It just depends on the time of day.

[Isolde]

I have yet to meet a guy that will pass a hot girl and not whisper something to someone else.

 

Guys, do not worry about what women find "creepy". Basically they are jealous if you are looking at attractive women.

 

It seems women today want to "neuter" male behavior and thought. Soon, just looking at a female will make you "creepy". You should just want one woman your age or older, let her spend your money, never cheat, and then you will not be "creepy".

 

You need to calm down. I never said I didn't enjoy occasional creepiness. I'm not jealous and I don't mind being looked at. There are varying degrees of creepiness, some of it is natural, and girls will enjoy it, other levels of creepiness are, well, creepy.

 

Walking away from someone who's following you doesn't mean you want to neuter men, it means you're either honestly a bit scared of the guy or you're in a hurry to get somewhere and don't have time to chat.

[Isolde]

BTW when I said whispering to friends about girls was creepy, I didn't mean a simple "she's hot" was creepy. I wish I could go and re-edit my previous post. Catcalling and whispering is creepy but not necessarily bad creepy.

[ipetree]

Look, lol..

 

Men think of sex hundreds of times a day. Why do you think women are covered in certain cultures?

 

So you go to the store, and you see some married woman with breasts hanging out with a short skirt. It would be hard not to look or "stare". I guess the only guys whom are creepy are the ones you catch staring?

 

If you do not want men to be "creepy" then wear a burkha. You won't change male behavior by calling them "creepy" for cat calling, whispering, or staring.

 

Creepy would be stalking. Not just looking, whispering, or trying to get her attention.

[kashmir]

I have yet to meet a guy that will pass a hot girl and not whisper something to someone else.

 

Meet me then.

 

I do it sometimes, mostly to be light-hearted, but it's not like I do it with every hot girl I see. Maybe 1 in every 50.

 

As far as creepiness, I'm talking about not engaging in any creepy behavior like following a girl, stalking her, staring at her and licking your chops, etc. I mean if you just see a guy, and by his look or facial expressions, not necessarily directed at you, you can tell if he's creepy. I've had girls call me creepy in the past when I hardly even noticed them.

[ipetree]

Ok..

 

You are "creepy" if a woman does not find you attractive.

 

An ugly man can be in a bar and say "Hi, can I buy you a drink".. And she will tell her girlfriends "Wow he is creepy"

 

An attractive man can say "Hey why don't YOU buy me a drink", and he will be hot, funny, charming.

 

It is like trying to define "sexy". I know what it is when I see it, but I cannot explain it. Same for "creepy"

[MusicChick24]

Just some thoughts I had all lumped into one thread. I'm totally serious with every question.

 

What makes a guy a creep? More importantly, what would you do in the presence of a creep? I'm talking about creepy guys you see around but have never met, not ones who you know from personal experience to be creepy.

 

How far will the average girl go when she sees an attractive guy? Will take a few peeks and act otherwise oblivious towards him, or will she stay locked on him?

 

How can you differentiate between a girl who thinks you're creepy and a girl who thinks you're attractive?

 

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction? I'm 6' 2", taller than probably 95% of guys I'm around, I'm pretty well built, and I don't have a very inviting look to me (I have strong male features, not "cute" boyish features). I'm usually grinning or giving a light smile though, so I can't look that evil!

 

Finally, this one isn't related to the questions above, but is there any reason for a female friend to clearly NOT help a guy friend with girls? I have a few female friends (who all have boyfriends), and some of them just plain refuse to go out with me to a party or something. I find that weird, because we hang out on our own a lot, but when it comes to situations where I can meet other girls, they back out. I've been in situations before where I had a "wingwoman," and it really helped a lot.

 

1. Older guys preying on younger women. Staring at a woman without blinking like he's about to drool in his drink or fall off his chair. Stalking. 2. For me, I would say that if I see an attractive man I might send a few looks his way, and then pretend he doesn't exist. If he returns interest I want him to persue me, however if he doesn't I don't want him to think I'm ruffled by it, and for him to realize, there are other guys in the room who catch my attention. 3. GOOD QUESTION! A girl who is diggin you will return your glances, make hard, continuous eye contact with you. A girl who thinks you are creepy will most likely walk away or turn away from you as a signal for you to go away. 4. It depends on the woman really. Some women are shallow and will dissect each part of you...others have bigger hearts and will be more interested in getting to know you. 5. Some women just don't want to be a wingwoman. Is it possible that your friend has/had feelings for you? If she does or did in the past that could be the reason she isn't comfortable helping you meet other girls.

[kashmir]

I always have trouble maintaining eye contact.

 

I feel like if I see a girl, she sees me, and we make eye contact, then she'll think I'm creepy if I keep looking or smile. That's why I ask these questions about creepiness. If a girl found a guy creepy, would she keep looking at him? I always hear that when a girl keeps looking away and looking back at a guy, she's attracted, but I feel like she'd do the same thing if she was totally creeped out. You know, it'd be a curiosity thing like, "That guy looking at me was so creepy! I wonder if he still is...*looks and then turns her head again*" and the cycle repeats.

[ipetree]

Well you have to simply not care at all if they think you are "creepy". In the big scheme of things, does it really matter? Some will think you are creepy, some will not.

 

So is Michale Douglas creepy? He married a much younger woman.. Bill Clinton creepy? Are older women who check out younger men "creepy"? What man in his 40's would not look at younger women?

[Yamaha]

Ok..

 

You are "creepy" if a woman does not find you attractive.

 

An ugly man can be in a bar and say "Hi, can I buy you a drink".. And she will tell her girlfriends "Wow he is creepy"

 

An attractive man can say "Hey why don't YOU buy me a drink", and he will be hot, funny, charming.

 

It is like trying to define "sexy". I know what it is when I see it, but I cannot explain it. Same for "creepy"

 

I agree. Creepy, for women, is any guy who they do not find attractive. I had a friend who was offended that a guy who she felt was creepy asked her to dance. She felt it insulting that he would think she would accept.

You should know your station so you don't get called creepy....

[SoulSearch_CO]

What makes a guy a creep? More importantly, what would you do in the presence of a creep? I'm talking about creepy guys you see around but have never met, not ones who you know from personal experience to be creepy.

 

Looking at me up and down like I'm a piece of meat and a leer on his face *shivers*. Staring at my ass or other body parts very obviously even when I catch their eye. Saying nasty things in Spanish that *surprise, surprise*, I actually understand because I know some Spanish and then laughing with their buddies.

 

In these cases, I actually ignore as much as possible and as soon as I can, I walk away. Avoid, avoid, avoid. I'm not one for confrontation - I can't do the dirty look thing. If one tried to talk to me, he'd get clipped answers with zero eye contact.

 

How far will the average girl go when she sees an attractive guy? Will take a few peeks and act otherwise oblivious towards him, or will she stay locked on him?

 

Stare at his ass. Seriously - I only stare if he can't see me. I think it's impolite to be OBVIOUS. But when he DOES look at me, it's a demure smile. That's pretty much it. I'm shy. I make eye contact and am open to questions if he talks to me.

 

How can you differentiate between a girl who thinks you're creepy and a girl who thinks you're attractive?

 

I guess the big thing for me is eye contact. I don't know many women that if they think a guy is a creep, they'd be making eyes at him.

 

I had to add this because I saw your most recent post. No...I would not keep looking at a guy that I thought was a creep. I can see him in my peripheral vision so that I can keep tabs on how close creepy is getting to me. I do NOT look at him or he might think it's some kind of invitation.

 

Can a guy's physical appearance (face, height, build, etc) deter or encourage a woman to give obvious signs of attraction? I'm 6' 2", taller than probably 95% of guys I'm around, I'm pretty well built, and I don't have a very inviting look to me (I have strong male features, not "cute" boyish features). I'm usually grinning or giving a light smile though, so I can't look that evil!

 

It's possible. You know, they did a study with women when it comes to faces. When they are ovulating, they prefer a stronger male face - presumably because it indicates strong genes. When they're close to menstruation, they prefer softer "boyish" faces because presumably it indicates that they'd be good at raising the kids. LOL Maybe you're just catching these women at the wrong time of their cycles. But anyway...I can't say I've seen a male that was just TOO male and it scared me off. I think masculinity is very sexy. You just gotta find the right woman - there are plenty out there that don't LIKE "boyish" at all.

 

Finally, this one isn't related to the questions above, but is there any reason for a female friend to clearly NOT help a guy friend with girls? I have a few female friends (who all have boyfriends), and some of them just plain refuse to go out with me to a party or something. I find that weird, because we hang out on our own a lot, but when it comes to situations where I can meet other girls, they back out. I've been in situations before where I had a "wingwoman," and it really helped a lot.

 

This one's confusing. I have no idea. Other than them possibly being nervous that their boyfriend will get suspicious that she's either trying to date you and claim it's not that. Or that they're going to the bar to pick up another guy on the premise that they're just going to support you.