awesomeness43 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 You're very wrong. Men advertise all the time. You can tell a player when you see one. You can tell by the car he drives, the clothes he wears, and his overall swagger. Its all advertisement. The fact is, I've been a player for so long that its hard for me to change, and I really want to. the above somehow messed up, meant to quote cassanovas response. I definitely understand that part of it. I drive a bimmer, i have a very good fashion sense and splurge on clothes, and constantly get criticized for being egotistical or self centered. Honestly, it doesn't bother me because What i meant is that i don't brag about every woman i slept with. I also was never proud or advertised the fact that when the real estate and mortgage market was good that i would go out almost every night of the week with co workers and we would all leave with someone at the end of the night. But come the next work day, we would never really let it be known. Also, when women jokingly ask if i am or not i would always laugh it off or have a clever comeback. Never once have i ever referred to myself as a player as i think that term has negative connotations.
D-Lish Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 First off, men who really are players per se, would never advertise themselves like that and if anything would play down the fact that they are. Sex is completely normal, its part of the male instincts. If i were you, i wouldn't worry about it too much.... Nicely said! A real womanizer would never advertise it.
johan Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Personally, I think this thread was started as a way to get people to check out the original poster's website.
BubblyPopcorn Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Do you dress in a costume with a cape. WOW. Your g/f must be pretty cool to stay with you while your out biting peoples necks and sleeping with the undead. If you are a womanizer, and that is what makes you happy, you should paint your face white, get some plastic fangs, put up some fake cobwebs in your house, and just go batty! Watch out for the girls with the garlic panties. OMG that was funny.
D-Lish Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I'm going to be 1000% honest because people seem so fearful of getting an STD. We use protection, but its not a huge concern for me because I live life. Life is too short to worry about everything. I could get cancer, or fall and break my neck. I drive my car everyday, but I don't have sex with strange women everyday, so my chances of dying or getting hurt in a car accident are far greater. Good logic, because those STD's that only require skin to skin contact and aren't protected by latex will cross paths with you, if they haven't already. Oh, and heaven forbid that the condom breaks and a more serious virus like HIV comes into contact with you... Then you're right... Life WILL be too short.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Nicely said! A real womanizer would never advertise it. According to who? How can someone that's not a womanizer say what a womanizer does? That's like broke people talking about what people who have money actually do.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Good logic, because those STD's that only require skin to skin contact and aren't protected by latex will cross paths with you, if they haven't already. Oh, and heaven forbid that the condom breaks and a more serious virus like HIV comes into contact with you... Then you're right... Life WILL be too short. Yeah, just like the drunk driver in the speeding car, or the person on their cell phone driving a car. That only requires skin to car contact and life will be short. Again, I'm in the car A LOT more than I have sex. If you are so worried about an STD, maybe you should suggest not having sex at all? I choose not to let fear of something rule my life. I use protection and that's all I can do. Again, people here in Vegas recently went to the doctor for check ups and caught Hepatitis. They played it safe and got a check up like they were supposed to do, and the check up was the very thing that gave them what they were checking for.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Personally, I think this thread was started as a way to get people to check out the original poster's website. Not really, but if you want to believe that, you are welcome to your opinion no matter how ridiculous it is. Why wouldn't I add my site to my signature? Look around any forum on the net and then tell me how many people have links to their site in their sig. I believe you only posted to get your posting count up, especially since you didn't have any real input to offer.
johan Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Not really, but if you want to believe that, you are welcome to your opinion no matter how ridiculous it is. Why wouldn't I add my site to my signature? Look around any forum on the net and then tell me how many people have links to their site in their sig. I believe you only posted to get your posting count up, especially since you didn't have any real input to offer. ha ha. Yeah. One more post on your thread, and I get my LS badge of honor. Don't be so defensive. It makes it seem like you aren't being truthful. And the last thing I want is to get into a degrading slap fight with you.
MN randomguy Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I didn't post this to advertise. I put my website link in any signature I have on any site. Most people that have their own website do so. Its one of the things you learn in business, its called branding. It comes so natural now that I really don't even think much about it. This is my first actual post that I've initiated, so its definitely not for that reason. *Cough* Bullshyt *cough* First thing, take down the website. Maybe that is your identity. You're scared to be anyone else. Its all you know.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 ha ha. Yeah. One more post on your thread, and I get my LS badge of honor. Who knows? Some people are into having lots of posts, but I figured I'd just jump out there and accuse you just like you did to me. Don't be so defensive. It makes it seem like you aren't being truthful. And the last thing I want is to get into a degrading slap fight with you. LOL. I don't like being accused of something that isn't true. Nothing to do with being defensive and that's a totally separate issue from my post.
johan Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Who knows? Some people are into having lots of posts, but I figured I'd just jump out there and accuse you just like you did to me. LOL. I don't like being accused of something that isn't true. Nothing to do with being defensive and that's a totally separate issue from my post. Now you're being defensive about being defensive. All twisted up inside. It's ok, man. We're here for you.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 *Cough* Bullshyt *cough* Which part? If you're going to say it, please be specific. First thing, take down the website. For what reason? I have over 1,000 subscribers and growing. Maybe that is your identity. You're scared to be anyone else. Its all you know. Maybe you should read the OP again. I use to be a loving guy until I had my heart broke. Now the problem is, I don't know how to be 100% loving anymore. Nothing to do with scared.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Now you're being defensive about being defensive. All twisted up inside. It's ok, man. We're here for you. Wow, deflection and displacement of blame all at once. Still trying to get your post count up I see.
johan Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Now the problem is, I don't know how to be 100% loving anymore. Nothing to do with scared. Let's talk about this. I think you're suppressing a lot of pain and anger. How did you lose the ability to love? Have you ever gone to counseling?
MN randomguy Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I'm going to be 1000% honest ...I drive my car everyday, but I don't have sex with strange women everyday, so my chances of dying or getting hurt in a car accident are far greater...... I also eat every day, multiple times per day, so my chances of choking to death are greater than me getting an STD. My boss that worked security with me at the community college caught crabs from the toilet seat at work. Does the SA group meet at the Community college too? You could do your rent-a-cop job, go to SA and then get some remedial statistics and probabilities class. Its late and I'm not going to delve into the flaws in your logic.
carhill Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I use to be a loving guy until I had my heart broke. Wow, only once? You must be young. Newsflash.... life goes on, love goes on; if you're lucky you'll get your heart broken many times before you die. From what I'm reading, I see you developing a serial repetition of convenient relationships in which you can remain emotionally and spiritually distant and safe. I hope that goes well, sincerely. Some people make a life of it. Now the problem is, I don't know how to be 100% loving anymore. So, is the real problem that you've lost the ability to love? That sounds like a much more realistic problem than being a womanizer. Much more meaty Are you talking love in general or love for a specific person? Tell me about one person in your life that you love completely. It doesn't have to be a romantic interest.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Does the SA group meet at the Community college too? How would I know? You might want to ask the person that posted the link You could do your rent-a-cop job, go to SA and then get some remedial statistics and probabilities class. Haven't done security since 04. Its late and I'm not going to delve into the flaws in your logic. Please do, I'd be interested in hearing the profound flaws about a real life situation. You must be one of those people that get paid to make up mental diseases in order to scam people out of their money? I think they are psychiatrists.
johan Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I honestly think guys who respond to heartbreak like this carry around incredible amounts of anger and sadness. It's hard to say what the underlying cause of such a response is. It could be the result of being extremely sensitive by nature. Or it could be due to some kind of childhood experience. The behavior is not necessarily unhealthy. It's the inability to connect that hurts. It's not a natural state to be incapable of love. I'm sure this all rings true for the original poster. This thread was really a cry for help. And, of course, for website hits.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Let's talk about this. I think you're suppressing a lot of pain and anger. How did you lose the ability to love? Have you ever gone to counseling? Ok, at first there was pain and anger. After that, I shut down my emotions and never let myself get too involved. That was in 2000. For the last 8 years, I've pretty much just been bouncing from girl to girl. I have a few that have been around since 2001, but never been serious with them.
johan Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Ok, at first there was pain and anger. After that, I shut down my emotions and never let myself get too involved. That was in 2000. For the last 8 years, I've pretty much just been bouncing from girl to girl. I have a few that have been around since 2001, but never been serious with them. Do you consider that a healthy way to be? Shutting down your emotions isn't a really great way to live life, is it? I mean, you don't really shut them down. You just suppress them. Then they come out in other ways that you can't control.
D-Lish Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Ok, at first there was pain and anger. After that, I shut down my emotions and never let myself get too involved. That was in 2000. For the last 8 years, I've pretty much just been bouncing from girl to girl. I have a few that have been around since 2001, but never been serious with them. SO what about the current gf? She doesn't mean anything to you?
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Wow, only once? You must be young. Newsflash.... life goes on, love goes on; if you're lucky you'll get your heart broken many times before you die. I'm 26. I know life goes on, and when I feel myself getting too involved, I break it off. I must admit that my new girlfriend is the closest I've been to anyone. I love her, but it feels different than all the rest of my random girlfriends. I can't really figure out what it is, but it's different. From what I'm reading, I see you developing a serial repetition of convenient relationships in which you can remain emotionally and spiritually distant and safe. I hope that goes well, sincerely. Some people make a life of it. I think you just might be right. I've never really thought about that part of it much until recently. So, is the real problem that you've lost the ability to love? That sounds like a much more realistic problem than being a womanizer. Much more meaty I'm not sure if I'm incapable of loving, I just haven't done it since my first heart break. I hated the feeling and really don't want to go through it again. I don't like putting my emotional well being into the hands of another person. Are you talking love in general or love for a specific person? Tell me about one person in your life that you love completely. It doesn't have to be a romantic interest. I'm referring to loving a partner in a relationship. I'd have to say my mom and my brother are the only 2 people that I've truly loved since then. Maybe my new girlfriend, but I'm not entirely sure yet.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 I honestly think guys who respond to heartbreak like this carry around incredible amounts of anger and sadness. It's hard to say what the underlying cause of such a response is. It could be the result of being extremely sensitive by nature. Or it could be due to some kind of childhood experience. The behavior is not necessarily unhealthy. It's the inability to connect that hurts. It's not a natural state to be incapable of love. Again, it was anger and sadness at first, now its just my normal day to day mode of thinking. I'm impartial, and as some of my female friends refer to me, an a-hole. They may be right, but that's another thing too. I have girls I've been sleeping with since 2001, that are still around, know about every girl in my life, call me an a-hole, but still want me around. I'm not sure if that subconsciously encourages my behavior or not.
Author casanovacorner Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Do you consider that a healthy way to be? Shutting down your emotions isn't a really great way to live life, is it? I mean, you don't really shut them down. You just suppress them. Then they come out in other ways that you can't control. I can't say its healthy, but then again, I can't say its unhealthy either. True its only suppression, but its to the point that I have to dig to care about certain things. What are some ways they can manifest? I was trying to think back if I had any out bursts or incidents, but I can't think of any off the top of my head yet.
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