cherryade Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I'm having a not-so-good day today. I'm obsessively trauling the internet for "ways to get your ex back." The sad thing is I know I deserve better, that he never loved me as much as I loved him, and that it would never be the same again anyway. And yet I still can't drop it.
Geishawhelk Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Ways to get your ex back. cast a spell using lovebane, nettle and lovage, and the fragment from the tip of a unicorn all simmered for two centuries in the cascading waters of the streams from the snow-capped mountains in Tibet. This is the easiest remedy. The alternative is to look at a photo of them, think "you ahrs-wipe, you do not realise what you've thrown away! Your loss, fookwit!" laugh like a maniac, just loud enough for the neighbours to hear and wonder if you've totally lost it. Then, make yourself a good cup of strong coffee, grab a cushion and watch a DVD of "It's a wonderful Life" and cry your eyes out. No, I don't know if it will help, but it will fill a couple of hours. ((hugs))
autumnsweater Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I know I'm going to be having the phase you are going through sometime soon, cherryade ,but I think all these things out there which offer "ways to get your ex back" are exploitative and mostly by people who have no qualms with exploiting vulnerable people. Everybody and every relationship is different and there aren't any guaranteed techniques you can do to win someone back, as much as we'dall love to believe there are. Everyone wants to believe there's some kind of love potion, metaphorical or otherwise, that could sort everything out for us. But there isn't. The hard fact is you can't make somebody love you and it is really down to them to make up their mind. I'm only on the first day of my break-up but I know the only way of getting her back is just to let her get on with her life and if she decides she misses me, she'll get in touch. If not, then that's fine - it's not something I can control. I'm probably not the best person to give you advice considering how raw my own wounds still are but, honestly, you just have to find a way of accepting it in your mind and moving on. Hope you're ok - just know you're not alone!
Author cherryade Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 Thanks Geisha and Autumn. I just find it so frustrating that he can't see what I see (saw?) in our relationship. Or maybe I'm deluded. I know nothing I can do or say can change anything. But it's impossible to move on when part of you is still hoping.
autumnsweater Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I know how you feel. I really tried to fight it at first when she told me she was unhappy and couldn't believe she wanted to end it. However, she gave it thought and decided she wanted to. I have to respect that decision. You don't have to force yourself to move on if that's not where you are but you need to make steps to get you there. Trawling the net for "how to" guides is the opposite of this. It's all about accepting the fact that if he wants to get you back he will let you know but in the meantime you need to try and move on. You deserve to be with somebody who can appreciate you properly.
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