openbook08 Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 love that story pushforward..thanks for posting WOW 21!! As if we needed an excuse for a party we've got the BEST one!! Breithlá Shona Duit (thats Irish for happy bday). you need to celebrate celebrate celebrate!! and treat yourself!!!!make some fab new memories. what have you planned?? great advice and very wise words thank you ps I really hope you meant turn 21 as in age & not that 21 days no contact has some significance or Im gonna look really stooooopid !!
pushforward Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Nope, I actually do turn 21 in birth years at midnight. I don't really have plans. We shared mutual friends. I cut ties with all of them. I have 1 close friend, that's about it. Not sure what I'm going to do. She was already planning it and the break up happened out of no where. Plus I'm working the next day. Don't want to get drunk and have a hang over while working. Thank you for wishing me a happy bday. Means a lot! I do have plans to meet a few acquaintances and just go shopping. That's about it. Trying to stay away from anything with alcohol. Don't want to drunk dial. Last Saturday at my friend's bday. I had ALOT to drink. I had to give my phone to somebody because the urge to break NC was so great. But, less of my story, pm me, I want to know more about your story!
openbook08 Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 21 is the best!! I was single for my 21st WOW have great memories (mostly of drinking too much & puking!!) Im slowly gettin back to that girl!! - the fun one I mean, not the drunken sickbag!! . Youre so right handin over the fone Ive done that a few times too. maybe you could do somethin at the weekend?? and listen here pal youve more friends than you realise... I thought similar when we broke up and Ive never been as busy!! join a club take up a new hobby!! work your way thru all the cliches!! hee hee youre gonna laugh now but Im fairly new to msg boards so Ive no idea how to pm someone!! I barely know what pm is!! but feel free to pm me maybe I just click reply or somethin.
Author Eyeofthoth Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 pushforward - I just want to say that you are very wise for only 21, and for this reason you definitely have a very bright future ahead of you . . . At 21 I still had to learn so much of what you clearly already know. So celebrate! Unlike many who are not ready for full adulthood at 21, you are not only ready, but well-deserving and mightily prepared.
openbook08 Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 how you feelin eyeofthoth? (kinda hogged your post with party talk sorry) what music would you like at the party we're throwing for you?? just cos virtually we can and realistically you sound great and deserve it! its hard innit?? your original post struck such a chord with me...Im right there with ya sweetheart. somedays wonder if Ill ever get thru this. LS is fab isnt it?
pushforward Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 pushforward - I just want to say that you are very wise for only 21, and for this reason you definitely have a very bright future ahead of you . . . At 21 I still had to learn so much of what you clearly already know. So celebrate! Unlike many who are not ready for full adulthood at 21, you are not only ready, but well-deserving and mightily prepared. Thank you, means a lot to me. I think I'm just too mature for my age. Only more things to learn and hopefully no more heartbreaks! Just giving people advice I tell myself. I can't believe I didn't listen to myself during the first 2.5 months. Never doubting my gut feeling ever again. I gave benefit of the doubt only to have my heart ripped out. Stomped on, set on fire, thrown in a blender and handed back to me. Now, I'm trying to superglue myself back together. I had a big heart then, now that it's damaged. I hope I will be able to give myself completely in my next relationship. I'm scared because I did my very best in my last relationship. She was my first and I am very innocent. I don't want to be tainted and think love is just a word. I'm very upset that somebody can behave like this. To go from the most loving person in a world to a monster. Have to avoid her like the plague! Everybody here is amazing! I hope we can all pull through this! I'll pull you up and you'll pull me up! Use hope as a tool for betterment. To a better tomorrow! openbook, i think you're going to have to post a thread if you haven't already. i don't think LS has private messaging here.
msjules Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Eye, it sounds as though on some level you are waiting for him to come back to you. Maybe I'm wrong, but if that's the case, that would explain why you are not getting over him as quickly as you would like. My ex still loves me and it makes it incredibly hard to move on. He broke up with me almost two months ago because he lost his job and had other life problems come up and said he couldn't handle it all and be with me. At first he said it was just a break and then later he said it was permanent. I know we would still be together if he hadn't lost his job. But I've decided that that doesn't matter. He got rid of me, period, and I have to accept that and move on. The fact that he still loves me isn't helping the loneliness and emptiness I feel. So big deal if he still loves me. It doesn't matter --- we are still not together and apparently never will be again. I hope you can put this man in your past and let go. I think it would help you immensely. Keep up the good work. This place is an awesome place for healing.
trex Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Eyeofthe - I know exactly how you feel! My girlfriend broke it off with me and it literally took me over a year to get over her. At the time, it was seriously excruciating but I eventually healed and came out a stronger person. You'll be okay, time will heal your wounds.
Author Eyeofthoth Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 "Eye, it sounds as though on some level you are waiting for him to come back to you. Maybe I'm wrong, but if that's the case, that would explain why you are not getting over him as quickly as you would like." You are not wrong. I have never had this much trouble getting over anyone before. That overwhelming feeling that he stills loves me has been keeping me somewhat stuck. I know though that on a realistic level, even if he did come back, we could never just pick up where we left off. There would be so much work to do. . . So my job, I think, is to let the relationship go completely. It is in the past, and whatever comes next, be it with him or another, that would have to be a completely new relationship. I do think that I am open to a relationship with someone else -- I just feel a little hopeless about meeting someone I can love that much, and also a little depressed about my life situation. All of that makes it harder.
Author Eyeofthoth Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Thanks trex -- As long as I can be in a much better place in something like a year, I think I will be okay.
L-FUZZ Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 hey pushforward,, i just wanted to say Happy birthday!!for some reason i thought it was T laurence that said it was his bday... but anyways hope you had a good one... hope you arent to hung over tomorrow;) speaking of which... what the heck happened to all of T laurence post on here.. they seem to have disappeared..?? how does one make that happen? or maybe its just some wierd computer glitch because i've had drinks and it's way late at night...... can you guys explain that one to me... maybe it has somethin to do with posting pictures ?? oh and how do you get this PM thing working?
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