jinx55 Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 So here is the situation in a nutshell... My friend I have known since I was old enough to walk broke up with his girlfriend a little over 3 months ago. He lives a few hours away from me and over the last 5 years or so I have only seen him a few times. However I have been talking to his ex now online quite a bit who I have only met in person also a few times. It actually started after they broke up. I know the whole "bros before hoes" or whatever, but would it be wrong of me to pursue her in anything past friends? I never see him anymore and we hardly talk, yet I still feel somewhat guilty but at the same time I like her.
Geishawhelk Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 If he really is a good friend, and you've known him since knee-high, then you probably already know how he'd feel, which is perhaps why you're looking for our encouragement for validation and justification. If - inspite of this long friendship, you really Don't know how he'd feel - here's some novel advice - Why not call him up and clear it with him?
missdependant Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 It depends on how long they were together and how serious he feels the relationship was. Consider his feelings first, and think of how you would feel. If they were very serious for a long time, I definitely WOULDN'T do it. If what they had was a casual short-term relationship, I'd say go for it, but be honest with your friend. Friends usually outlast relationships. It's not worth losing someone over when there are millions of other girls out there.
Lucky_One Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I assume she lives in the same town that he does? Why in the world would you want to 1) possibly ruin a friendship and 2) start a long-distance romance?
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