alwayssme Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I cried after 2 weeks of not crying... I don't know why I'm crying, but I feel sad Just wanted to write in here... How is everybody?
emmanuel Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Hey, I am crying also, in fact I cried all night last night, my cat came to me to lick me and cheers me up.....why are u crying for?
Dmoney28 Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 i know it still hurts. I got hit today..hard. I just had a good cry. Its like you're good most of the day, then....BAM. You're hit with sorrow. Last time you posted you asked about a psychologist...did you see one?
replicator Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I've had some rough days lately too.. It's normal to recycle your feelings as you grieve the loss of a relationship. I never understood why people took break-ups so hard until it happened to me. It's a pain like no other, and it's okay if it takes some time to get over it. After the storm, there is sunshine.
hereandnow Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 As you can see if you read my SERIOUSLY messed up post. I feel for you. I just heard something secondhand about my ex that is really tearing me up. It's been 3 weeks since my breakup.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I have amazing days and I have terrible days. Its okay to feel this way Always, it shows you are coping, and letting your emotions happen. I haven't gotten totally far enough to say this with certainty, but I think that as time passes, that wave of sadness will come less often, once a day, once a week, once a month, once a year etc etc. Its kind of like when you drop a stone into still water. At first there are tons of really quick ripples, but after a while they get slower and slower, until they're barely noticeable. I'm hoping I get to the slow waves of sadness sooner than later.
autumnsweater Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Managed to get some sleep last night but woke up at 5:40am and knew I wouldn't be able to get anymore so I just watched South Park. Even though our breakup was only yesterday I decided to go to work to keep my mind off things and I'm really struggling. Her mum just sent me a text saying how she's going to miss me and how she thinks I'm lovely and knows I will find someone great and now I'm finding it hard not to start crying in the middle of the office.
EmperorR Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I don't cry aNymore but I always wake up in the middle of night.
Author alwayssme Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 i know it still hurts. I got hit today..hard. I just had a good cry. Its like you're good most of the day, then....BAM. You're hit with sorrow. Last time you posted you asked about a psychologist...did you see one? no i have been doing much better lately, i don't think there is a need for one. It just hurts sometimes. I miss him.
Author alwayssme Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 Managed to get some sleep last night but woke up at 5:40am and knew I wouldn't be able to get anymore so I just watched South Park. Even though our breakup was only yesterday I decided to go to work to keep my mind off things and I'm really struggling. Her mum just sent me a text saying how she's going to miss me and how she thinks I'm lovely and knows I will find someone great and now I'm finding it hard not to start crying in the middle of the office. aww..the first day of my break-up i was still in shock...i was numb..i had no idea the pain that was going to come after that once i realized it was really over this time. I wish you the best and hope you don't go through what I went through.
Sysyphus28 Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I had a great weekend! I had a bad night last night. A mutual friend from another state came down to visit. I called my ex to say she was here. My ex went off on me and told she "has a man now". We argued about some nonsense. Texted a bunch of ugly texts back and forth. I can't believe I participated in that exchange of negativity. But I did like a moron. Now I am thinking about it. It SUCKS! It's hard to break this cycle of feeling.
Nikki Sahagin Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 You are mourning the relationship. My therapist told me the ending of any significant relationship is like a death but in some ways worse because there's no clear finality, no end. You can't be part of this persons life anyone but not because they are truly gone, but because they have made the decision that they don't want to be with you. It is incredibly difficult. You grief someone that you know is still alive, it's not like they've disapeared off the face off the earth...but they have disapeared in your life. It's one of the hardest struggles to come to terms with but to look back one day and see you've survived it will fill you with pride. Like climbing a mountain. It seems impossible but once you've done it - the view is worth it.
electriclove Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I'm doing ok today I think. This last weekend was bad though, they always are for me because that was when we spent the majority of our time together - like most couples I guess. I woke up both saturday and sunday crying and cried myself to sleep too. Today there have been no tears, just this overwhelming sadness that never seems to go away. I want to get off of this rollercoaster of emotions
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