alwayssme Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I don't know what to with all this hurt/anger inside of me...I made the mistake to check his myspace and it says " I know there are better things in my future although lately it has been tough.A new begining and I'm so glad to start fresh." We know a lot of the same people. He hurt me soOOOOOOO bad and acts as though I was poison in his life. I had my moments but I was good to him, he even said it. Is it necessary to talk like that? Even I don't do that, and he broke my heart into a millon pieces. I have done NC with him. Our break-up was so sudden and so shocking but the worst part is that he wanted me out of his life so bad as if I was something to get rid of. It is SO hurtful to hear stuff like that from the person you loved and claimed to love you at one point. I feel heartless, why are people like this? One minute they tell you they would die for you and the next is as if you don't even exist. He said he wanted to be with me forever but I'm guessing in his mind forever was limited. I'm accepting everything, I just hate how he handled this situation. But God sees everything and hopefully someday I will look back at this and see him for the cruel, cold person he truly is. Just venting. I need somebody to cheer me up. Sorry this post doesn't clarify alot of things. But he said and did alot of hurtful things after our break-up. I just don't understand how can people change so drastically.
EmperorR Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 that's what exes do, go from the nicest sweetest person you ever knew to the most callous, disgusting human beings.
UnamedSeven Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 The same exact thing happened to me my ex broke up with me and lied to me about why she broke up with me. When she called to break up (because she didn't have the guts to tell me in person) she said that she still loved me. I learned just about an hour ago, how she truly feels about me even after 3 months of NC. We never faught, and always held hands. I honestly thought that i was in love with her.
darnay Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 My ex did a similar thing. After he dumped me he wrote some stuff on a gay dating website that just killed me. He said how he'd had the worst two years of his life and had been to hell and back coming to terms with the break-up of (get this) the partner he had before me. He also said he was looking for honesty, sincerity and love.. That would be ALL of the things I gave him when i held his hand and helped him through those two hellish years he was talking about.. I was gutted. Take Caliguys advice, and DO NOT LOOK.
Geishawhelk Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 People break up with you for selfish reasons. Basically, their perceived happiness is more important to them than you are. And once broken up, they continue to be selfish, because it's a self-protection thing. When they break up with someone, inspite of having had good feelings for them all through the relationship, the safest and most logical thing to do is to just see the negative. Or make it up, because they need a reason. They need a reason to be selfish, and they need a reason to give others. So they'll come out with everything possible to get people on their sides. it's the sympathy vote. It stinks. But it happens.
Nikki Sahagin Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Don't check his myspace. Do whatever it takes to not check it. It's like picking a scab, trust me it will only make things worse.
RecordProducer Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 It says " I know there are better things in my future although lately it has been tough. A new begining and I'm so glad to start fresh." This per se is not as bad as it seems to you. He says it's been tough, possibly talking about having a difficult time trying to get over you - which means he loves you. He seems hurt himself and that's why he wanted you out of his life so suddenly. People change their behavior when their feelings change. If you turned from sweet to poisoneous in his mind, then he turned from sweet to cruel to you. He said he wanted to be with me forever but I'm guessing in his mind forever was limited. He either got disappointed in you or - what's more likely - he got disappointed in himself. Often, being around someone makes us feel our own flaws very clearly. And people don't want to see how flawed they are.
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