Explorer Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Hello, When the family gets together, I have a problem. I assume that, individually, each member of my family has a slightly different perception of my personality. Again, at least I assume this. And when we're all together, I bottle-up because I cannot act out each of these different perceptive personalities. When I say 'different,' it's nothing drastically different. I just have a strong self-awareness and understand that my personality changes depending on the situation and who I'm with, which brings me to my questions: 1. Can anyone relate? 2. Any advice on how to break-free from this attitude and become your authentic self?
JoesGirl Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I think I can relate. When I am with my dad - Iam always wanting to look my best, be the best, and talk about the new things I am accomplishing in my career and life. When I am with my family on that side (my father and his relatives are very wealthy) I always feel like I need to look and act and talk a certain way. But it really is not comfortable completely for me. With my other side (mom and her relatives) everything is normal and laid back. But I grew up torn between two different lives...and never really able to feel like myself. Which is why I am the way I am now. I have a self worth/insecurity problem. Lately...I'm trying to research ways to conquer insecurities and gain more self worth in my personal life. When it comes to my career I'm queen of the world (haha) and I am always on my A game. Therefore I am very successful. but when it comes to my relationships ) i'm always waitiing for the sky to fall.... Does that sound like you at all? Or am I even more messed up haha!
wierdmunky Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Hello, When the family gets together, I have a problem. I assume that, individually, each member of my family has a slightly different perception of my personality. Again, at least I assume this. And when we're all together, I bottle-up because I cannot act out each of these different perceptive personalities. When I say 'different,' it's nothing drastically different. I just have a strong self-awareness and understand that my personality changes depending on the situation and who I'm with, which brings me to my questions: 1. Can anyone relate? 2. Any advice on how to break-free from this attitude and become your authentic self? You don't have to fully cater to their needs, you can know what they like and still be yourself.
Nikki Sahagin Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I myself have a very adaptive, multi-faceted personality but I am a Gemini and I do attribute some relevance to star signs I change how I am never intentionally but I always do depending on who I'm with. Different people/situations bring out a different side to me and the same as you if ever all these threads are drawn together at once, if i'm sat at a table with all of these people - I have no idea how to be. It's like all the different sides of me cancel each other out. I would say just say SOMETHING, ANYTHING. Open your mouth, go into general chit chat. Don't worry if you aren't 'performing'. You are you. Some people are not so black and white and fixed. Some people change up. So what - you might change personalities several times at the table? That's just you
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