wigglewiggle Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 There are two girls that im involved with right now. When i say involved the first girl I work with (now now, let me explain) and the second girl i met at a party. So the situation is, the first girl i work with. We have been pretty good friends for a couple months now. There was a bit of attraction from the very start but she was dating someone else. Then that kind of came to an end and at the same time we ended up having some drinks and kissing. A little while later i went to a friends party as im new to the area and am interested in meeting new people. Got to talking to a cute girl there and then at the end of the night she gave me her number. Those are the beginning points for both these situations. Since then I have continued to be attracted to the first girl. We've kissed and she knows all about the other girl. At first I thought id go cold on the first girl for the second because i had it in my head that that was the "right" thing to do. But as time goes on i find it really hard (really really hard) not to think about the first girl. She is amazing, talented, cute and drives me nuts how sexy she can be with her personality. She an artist and has a strong sense of self as well as the ability to really bring out the best in people. Im really attracted to her success and abilities to acheive greatness. Im also attracted to her physically. The reservations i have are first i work with her, second why would i cross paths with another girl, and third id hate to loose her as a friend if we broke up (she is still friends with her ex boyfriends). Its like i want to be with her but im scared. Im scared of where that will take us. Im scared that if it becomes more formalized things might change. I love how casual we are about the whole thing while still remaining respectful and trusting. She is a really god friend that i just so happen to also be attracted to physically (as well as emotionally) So over all the the intensity of the situation with the first girl is increasing. The second girl ive seen twice since the party. We talk and drink tea. She seems real nice. We are really slowly getting to know each other. There is some physical attraction there. Shes cute for sure. The attraction to her personality is something that would need time as I dont know her that well and she needs time to get to know me and loosen up, be herself. Shes interested in me, but im kind of like its hard to really be clear and interested when there is something else going on. The first girl knows all about what im going through with this whole situation. Im tense about this whole thing because i dont want to mess with anyones feelings. The first girl is clear with whats going on. Shes open to any outcome (she is emotional but i think she controls it well). Do i try to make something of an unknown situation, put myself out there and put time into something with an unknow outcome. OR do i stop resisting the other situation (first girl) and move into that relationship how ever it may work out. Im kind of freaked out that i may be going with whats easiest and most convienent rather then some that could be wonderful This is probably something a lot of people go through in various forms. Its called difficult decision making and its something we all come across sooner or later. Im just struggling to find a clear enough mind space to make a decision. Maybe im making mountains out of mole hills. My reason for writing this here is for a couple reasons. Im interested in seeing what people think of this whole thing. I have friends to talk to about it too but im curious as to other perspectives. Also i just need to get these thoughts out there as they are just going in circles inside my head. Thanks for your thoughts.
casanovacorner Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 If you aren't in a relationship with either girl, why not keep them both? Personally, that's what I would do. I'm an honest guy and would let them both know. If you want a relationship with either of them, spend time with them both until one stands out more than the other.
Author wigglewiggle Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 Thats awesome. Something that in my tense state i didnt really consider. Thanks for taking the time.
SushiX Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Dude you're lucky. But yeah I would date them both and see where it goes.
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