JoesGirl Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Hi there! My name is Amy. I am in my 2nd LDR, which is only about 10 months long total. I had to move away for a job but will be moving back home come June. I have currently been gone for 4 months now, and no matter how much experience one has in LDRs, we can always use some help! I was in one in the past for 3 years...but it was military related. What are some of your best tips/ideas/insights on making LDRs work? What are some romantic things you have done? How do you not overanalyze everything?! I'd love some ideas!
Island Girl Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 real handwritten letters are great. care packages with favorite items -- the little things that they wouldn't even think they miss but do. also pack in things that will remind him/her of your shared moments together. postcards of places you went, bumper stickers from places you've eaten, get creative and these boxes are always surprises. They never know when they will come. Irregular and not around special occasions. They are just the everyday specialness others can do more than I can. We can't IM or "chat" -- we only have the phone on occasion (regularly twice a week but when we can it's more). So I have to stay really creative all the time --- speaking of which, I haven't written him a letter in a long long time so I guess I'll do that tonight. That means no sleep and 14 to 16 pages front and back...lucky him to get all that info from my head and heart! LOL
Maggs Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Hi there! My name is Amy. I am in my 2nd LDR, which is only about 10 months long total. I had to move away for a job but will be moving back home come June. I have currently been gone for 4 months now, and no matter how much experience one has in LDRs, we can always use some help! I was in one in the past for 3 years...but it was military related. What are some of your best tips/ideas/insights on making LDRs work? What are some romantic things you have done? How do you not overanalyze everything?! I'd love some ideas! First and foremost....patience is definitely a virtue in an LDR! And being able to trust your partner implicitly. Use everything at your access to be in communication--MSN, Skype, Webcam, Email, play games online, phone calls, Facebook, send pkgs/letters, etc. It helps to be on the same page in the way of communication. Most girls like to be in contact everyday, some guys are fine going every couple of days. Thankfully my BF and I get in contact in some form or another everyday. Hmmm...how not to overanalyze. Well I still struggle through that sometimes. Some days, things just go over your head and you don't give it another thought. On others, you go over the conversation again and again! It's so stressful. A friend of mine just recently gave me a book called 'You Can Be Happy, No Matter What' by Richard Carlson. He's the same guy who wrote the 'Don't Sweat the Small Stuff' books. He talks about not allowing the negative thoughts to dominate your life. And about how to avoid trying to solve problems in your relationship when you're in a 'low' mood. Really good book!! Romantic things--well let's see. We've send quite a few romantic emails over the last few months (mainly in the beginning on his part though! ) Everytime we had a visit together, we always brought little gifts for each other. Quite often I'd pack a card in his suitcase before he left. Or a letter--something for him to find when he unpacks. And he did the same for me, usually a favourite tshirt sprayed with his cologne so I could sleep in it : ) I've written letters and cards. He's sent cards and a couple of care pkgs. And when he was here a couple of weeks before my b'day, he brought all my gifts with me and secretly left them with my Mom so she could make sure I had them for my b'day. Well TBH, that's just cheered me up LOL Talking about all the nice stuff we've done for each other. Maybe we need a thread for this! Good luck in your relationship. Oh and having support among friends and to be able to talk to people on here is great too.
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