ale_sprite Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Hello All, I'm happy to be a part of Love Shack and looking forward to your advice. I'll try not to get into every detail but tell the story in as quick of a manner as possible... I'd been interested in this guy for a few months and suddenly he seemed interested in me. I didn't realize this however until he directly texted me asking to come join him for a drink one night about a month ago. I did and after we left he kissed me out on the street and escorted me home. I asked him if he wanted to come up, but he is a gentlemen (more so than I am a lady! ha!) and we both had to work the next day anyway. That weekend however we went out again and everything seemed sweet..we spent the night together but no sex or anything like that..just very playful and fun. We started texting and talking a bit on the phone and everything was very casual and sweet. Let me also add now that back when I was really interested in this guy I solicited advice from one of his good friends who warned me that he has backed away from a lot of girls who come on too strong...so I was trying to stay really laid back and take everything slowly as it seems he likes to do. I even wonder if he is a little afraid of dating someone for real... Anyway, the following weekend was Halloween and we went out again and had another great night together (again, no sex..but close!). However, here is where I begin not to understand what happened...The following week (after Halloween), I tried to make plans to see him and each time he seemed interested...but would back out at the last minute. I did see him on election night--a lot of people were out and he came out to meet us--and we shared a cab ride in the same direction and he kissed me goodnight when I left. Anyway, I really wanted to see him that weekend after election night because I knew he was leaving that Sunday for a work trip. But again, he kind of flaked and I never ended up getting to see him. We did talk on the phone and text a few times though. Eventually, on Saturday, I texted him saying I was a llittle frustrated that I'd been trying to see him and that it hadn't worked out...He apologized and said he'd had a long week and didn't know how to process all that had gone on. To his credit, he did have a big week at work and his brother had a baby, etc. Still, I couldn't shake the feeling that if he really wanted to see me before he left on his trip, he would have tried to see me. Anyway, he said he'd call when he came back (he went to another country for a conference). I think he gets back sometime around today. ... I'm not really sure because it was possible he was going to travel for a few days after the conference. So I'm stuck wondering whether I should text or call or email to see if he's back. I also feel like I DON"T want to come on too strong since I feel like that's what I did in the week before he left, and maybe I freaked him out. Anyway, I really like this guy and don't want to screw anything up. If you guys have any thoughts, let me know. Is there a day when it's legitimiate to call him or should I straight out wait for him to call me?
casanovacorner Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Maybe he's gay and hasn't come out to anyone yet? Maybe he's an actual gentleman that's scared of commitment. Either way, that's not too good for you. Wait a few more days to see if he calls. If not, you probably don't need to be with him anyway.
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