Love_Forest Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I was meeting this guy and we text each other and today he sent to me this email. "I do feel that maybe, not everything I am looking for in a relationship is there at the moment. ------text----text------- I have enjoyed meeting you, and spending some time together, and getting to know you a little. It really has been a pleasure learning about all the things you've done. All the best" Does this mean he is willing to meet again or it is over? what does mean "at the moment" and "maybe" here in the context? Thank you!
torranceshipman Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 No, he doesnt want to meet again. He was politely ending it... Sucks when that happens but it means theres a better one out there for you somewhere
Chinook Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Yep, it was a polite 'it's over' note. Sorry
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 "maybe" and "at the moment" are his ways of letting you down gently.
Star Gazer Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Sounds like you met him and he didn't feel any chemistry. He's definitely not interested in seeing you again, and is instead trying to let you down gently by complimenting the nice things he learned about you. I'm sorry.
Author Love_Forest Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 should I sent a reply to him? I was meeting him 3 times and this because he was very insistent about this
Storyrider Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Are you translating from another language or is he a non-native speaker?
Author Love_Forest Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 Are you translating from another language or is he a non-native speaker? myself I am non-native speaker, but he is native enghlish speaker. I am living in a country where the english is national language. why your question? what is in "" is he email.
Storyrider Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 myself I am non-native speaker, but he is native enghlish speaker. I am living in a country where the english is national language. why your question? what is in "" is he email. Because if he said it in another language the meaning might not be as clear cut. But since it is a direct quote, this is not an issue. Thanks for the clarification. The "maybe" and "at the moment" seem to be included to soften what he's saying and make it more polite, less direct.
Touche Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 should I sent a reply to him? I was meeting him 3 times and this because he was very insistent about this I wouldn't reply. He was pretty clear that he doesn't want to continue even though he was insistent before. Sorry..it happens that way sometimes.
Author Love_Forest Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 I am so scary to meet someone again, it is like i did not learn anything from my past experience and I am meeting only the wrong persons. we were meeting through a online dating site. and then 3 times in real, having dinner.
2sure Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 OK - so you are out there. Wanting to date, and being proactive about it by using a dating service. You will get better at selecting to meet those who are more to your liking - it just takes practice. So, this guy decided you were nice - just not for him. Not a big deal! In fact, it took him 3 dates to decide this. Be glad you didnt waste any more time, and be glad you had ( I hope) a nice 3 dates. Keep moving forward. It will get less scary.
Author Love_Forest Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 when we were talking by phone few hrs before this message, he ended the conversation keep in touch. also i was looking at our emails and he was always ended his email with all the best or nothing
Author Love_Forest Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 Do you think if I make the clarification that I want to have sx in a exclusive relation is good?
D-Lish Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Do you think if I make the clarification that I want to have sx in a exclusive relation is good? Do you mean offer sex to him??? That would be a big resounding "NO"... don't do that. The e-mail was a break up letter. Believe me- it's much better when someone is straight up with their feelings rather than string you along. It says good things about his character. He could have just gone missing in action- or even used you for sex.... but he was honest that he didn't feel the chemistry. This is just one to move on from. Don't disrespect yourself by offering sex... That's a really quick way to lose the respect of another person.
Author Love_Forest Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 no I do not want to offer sex to him. previous he told to me want to married but we did noit discuss about this to much in details because it was at the second time we meet, and myself I propose to him to do things together to get to know him better. and he became silent, he told to me I do not look like my priority is to marry. I want to said to him that he want the relation then he has the sx because i really like him . i wanted to recall that discussion.
RecordProducer Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 not everything I am looking for in a relationship is there All the best" this is very obvious. Sorry you got this message, hon. If he were interested, he wouldn't have sent you a message like this.
prettybaby Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I get the feeling communication wasn't happening very smoothly and he just wasn't feeling it. He was nice and honest by sending you that e-mail. Don't respond and move on.
Author Love_Forest Posted January 4, 2009 Author Posted January 4, 2009 a letter form one of my dates He was writing me this email and I cannot figure out if he likes me or not. he used there the word "perhaps". I like him so much and I would like to meet with him again but I do not know how to proceed. "Thank you for taking me to...... it was very nice and the food was good. I appreciate it very much. I hope you had a good time also. I hope you have a good Christmas and perhaps we can chat again sometime soon." Please advice, Is he into me? Thank you!
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Is this a different guy? Because if it is the same one, you have been advised. He is not interested. He sounds like a decent guy because he sent you a nice message instead of just disappearing. Don't put too much stress on yourself about picking the wrong ones. Online dating is all about the wrong ones. There will be many, many wrong ones before you find a right one. That is the name of the game.
Touche Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 Cherry is right. And if that's a different guy, he's also not interested. Let me make this very simple for you: Men are not that complicated. When they're really interested, you will have NO doubt, whatsoever. So if ever you feel that you have to post on here to ask if a guy is interested, then there's your answer, he's not. The second one didn't even mention YOU or anything about your date..just the food and the restaurant. The "perhaps" was a dead give away. Someone interested would have said "I hope we can see each other again soon." Or "Are you free to do it again next week?" So see what I mean? If you are unsure whether a guy is interested or not, then 99% of the time he's not. But don't take it personally or give up. Cherry was right..that's the nature of dating. That's why (no offense to those dating) I'm sooooo glad I don't have to date anymore. You have to go through so many frogs before you find your prince. It stinks. But that's what you have to do in order to have a chance of finding the right one. Just get back out there and don't dwell on these other dates.
BCCA Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 His messages (if theyre both from him) are pretty clear that he isnt interested in dating you. You cant read anymore into it besides that. Touche is absolutely right, men are pretty simple creatures, and we dont generally try and hide it or be cryptic when we like someone. By the same token, these emails are also a pretty obvious clue that he isnt into you. Dont respond or contact him again. Dating has many of these frustrations, trust me, but thats just the way it is.
likestolaugh Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 it sounds like this could be a different guy. Nevertheless, while I don't think the message is quite as clear cut as the first guy's, I think it's still clear enough to say you should move on...
Author Love_Forest Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 yes, they were different persons. the person who sent to me the first message is still married !!!!! I am on strictly no "separately" persons, if they are not divorced it is like I am going out with a married man. here is another, from a new one "I would like to possibly working toward a long term relationship with you.......... No after saying that I am mature enough to accept that you may not have the same feelings and that is ok. " I wish to here this since long time and what i do not understand is why is telling to me the person actually i do not like to have such relationship I was out with him just to find out if I like him or not and I do no like him for this. and also i do not understand why he must tell to me and why those who I like and I tell to them i like them do not want me for a long term relationship. should I always wait the man to tell to if he wants or not to have a relationship with me?
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