Sunny00 Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I've been engaged for a year now, my fiance is about 8 years younger than I am and lately I've been feeling like we're at 2 different stages in our live's. He still likes to party and go out every weekend and I am more comfortable staying at home or maybe a jazz club once in a while. meanwhile.... I've started to develop a crush on my co-worker and the feeling seems to be mutual. So far, we're just talking on the phone and an occassional work lunch. I haven't done anything inapporiate, but I feel guilty for spending time with a man(other than my fiance) that I am strongly attracted to. He's older than me and has the maturity my fiance is lacking. Any advice?
alphamale Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 yes, if you're unhappy in your current relationship then you should jump ship
norajane Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 One relationship at a time. Anything else is cheating, either emotionally, physcially, or both. Figure out whether you want to marry your fiancee or not first, without consideration of your co-worker because that may not even work out AT ALL. If you end your engagement, end it because you can't see yourself married to him, not for someone else who is just a fantasy.
casanovacorner Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I agree with what they are saying. Why cheat? Either leave him alone or be with him. If you want to have sex with the other guy, just do it and break it off. I personally view cheating as spending time with someone else and developing feelings. If my girlfriend has sex with another guy, I'm not going to be mad, but that's something we have discussed. As long as she likes him and finds out if he has a girl that's interested, we can trade off. Maybe its something you can discuss with your partner. The more open things are, the better off you are in the end.
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