gwynieatpain Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Sorry I'm not meant to offend anyone. It just happened to me as well as my best friend at the same time. My runaway ex-fiance? Hell no, I'm over him now, don't wanna repeat my story once again. My best friend have had the worst 3 weeks of her life. Her ex broke up with her suddendly one night when she was not expecting it. The thing is that they had been going along so well lately and then he said that he wanted to break up because he was unhappy with his life. My friend didn't talk to him for a few weeks afterward and then she found out he quit his good job and went for a holiday then moved oversea a few days later. She was in shock but she saw her ex 2 days before he left and he kissed her and wrote her messages making her so confused. But he's gone now, nothing can be changed. It makes us wondering how could it happened, both our ex share the same behavioral pattern ... - They have been treated us so well, no fight, no sign of less communication or else. - Maybe they are trying hard to hide up their true feeling and problem and have been moved on secretly, just not sure how to tell us. I don't know. - They both said 'loving you forever', 'you are the most beautiful thing in my life' those creepy things during the break up. I can tell they are both very confusing but they just don't admit that - They both said they have grown up (another crap) - They put on happy face in front of people and pretend nothing happened, they let themselve go. - They jump to next relationship quickly. - My ex was trying to distance himself from his parent, I don't know if my friend's ex has done the same thing but since he was moving overseas, I guess he was trying to runaway from his closest ones. Hope someone can tell me.
Author gwynieatpain Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Sorry I'm not meant to offend anyone. It just happened to me as well as my best friend at the same time. My runaway ex-fiance? Hell no, I'm over him now, don't wanna repeat my story once again. My best friend have had the worst 3 weeks of her life. Her ex broke up with her suddendly one night when she was not expecting it. The thing is that they had been going along so well lately and then he said that he wanted to break up because he was unhappy with his life. My friend didn't talk to him for a few weeks afterward and then she found out he quit his good job and went for a holiday then moved oversea a few days later. She was in shock but she saw her ex 2 days before he left and he kissed her and wrote her messages making her so confused. But he's gone now, nothing can be changed. It makes us wondering how could it happened, both our ex share the same behavioral pattern ... - They have been treated us so well, no fight, no sign of less communication or else. - Maybe they are trying hard to hide up their true feeling and problem and have been moved on secretly, just not sure how to tell us. I don't know. - They both said 'loving you forever', 'you are the most beautiful thing in my life' those creepy things during the break up. I can tell they are both very confusing but they just don't admit that - They both said they have grown up (another crap) - They put on happy face in front of people and pretend nothing happened, they let themselve go. - They jump to next relationship quickly. - My ex was trying to distance himself from his parent, I don't know if my friend's ex has done the same thing but since he was moving overseas, I guess he was trying to runaway from his closest ones. Hope someone can tell me. Oh! One more thing. They settle the break up very very quickly. It's like shooting us straight to our heart and then ask us to move on, ask us to take the bullet out and letting us bleed.
UnamedSeven Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Thats not always the case. Everything you mentioned, a girl said to me. Felt a little too real, but i loved her for saying all of it. She ended everything based on a lie she told me, and the truth i still don't know of. A guy would tell a girl to get over him or it, because he wouldn't want to see her in pain. Not to mention, but by saying to get over it, there can be many different reasons as to why he says it. There is no one answer.
carhill Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Sounds like emotional detachment to me. Either they weren't ever attached, or detached well before the breakup. After detachment, it's just bla, bla and has no meaning.
Author gwynieatpain Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Sounds like emotional detachment to me. Either they weren't ever attached, or detached well before the breakup. After detachment, it's just bla, bla and has no meaning. Ya agreed. Guess they were detached long before the break up. That leads to the other question ... what keeps them doing so many nice things to us if they were so emotional detached from us? I don't think it's only a routine. Guys will not do things without a reason.
msjules Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I think my ex decided to break it off with me two weeks before it happened. I didn't see the warning signs, but when I looked back over my cell phone bill I can see where he stopped calling me and I started calling him. The strange part??? He did more things physically to me in those last two weeks than he ever did before when we were together. That makes NO SENSE to me. A woman is going to take that as a sign of more togetherness, which I did.
EmperorR Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 actions speak louder than words, on the friday my ex was telling me I love you so much you mean everything to me, i'll die if you ever leave me, your my everything, On the monday she was screwing some guy.
carhill Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Ya agreed. Guess they were detached long before the break up. That leads to the other question ... what keeps them doing so many nice things to us if they were so emotional detached from us? I don't think it's only a routine. Guys will not do things without a reason. Brutally honest response? For me, two reasons: #1: Fake it until you make it; leave no stone unturned to try to recover the M. #2: Get my legal ducks in a row without rancor.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Sometimes people may get too much of a good thing can frighten some people. Or even though one might think a person might have everything, but then they do something totally out of the blue to everything, because they are not feeling whole (almost like a mid-life crisis). I bet it can be confusing and aggravating as Hell, but there is something within that person that no one or thing else can fulfill. They have to discover that missing part of themselves on their own sometimes and that may mean putting things in their lives behind them. Expecting an answer from this person may not seem forth coming because they may honestly don't know what they are missing in their lives to make them whole or happy.
Author gwynieatpain Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 I think my ex decided to break it off with me two weeks before it happened. I didn't see the warning signs, but when I looked back over my cell phone bill I can see where he stopped calling me and I started calling him. The strange part??? He did more things physically to me in those last two weeks than he ever did before when we were together. That makes NO SENSE to me. A woman is going to take that as a sign of more togetherness, which I did. Exactly, my ex wrote me a travel schedule in excel while I went visiting him two month back. Weird isn't it. He even showed me the way from train station to his house, saying that I had to learn how to get home when I'm moving in at the end of this year. Tell me about it. What's the strange part and how can I pick it.
Author gwynieatpain Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Sometimes people may get too much of a good thing can frighten some people. Or even though one might think a person might have everything, but then they do something totally out of the blue to everything, because they are not feeling whole (almost like a mid-life crisis). I bet it can be confusing and aggravating as Hell, but there is something within that person that no one or thing else can fulfill. They have to discover that missing part of themselves on their own sometimes and that may mean putting things in their lives behind them. Expecting an answer from this person may not seem forth coming because they may honestly don't know what they are missing in their lives to make them whole or happy. It's worth thinking. I'm trying not to be mean but have to say that for wiser people they would seek help from friends or professionals if they got issues. Our ex chose to run away and let the problems live with them forever.
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