NotSureWhat2Do Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Ok so my husband & I have been together for about 4 yrs. We have a little boy. About a 1 1/2 to 2 yrs after we were together I found a charge on our credit card. When calling I found out it was a singles site. Of course he lied and said someone else did it not him. There were too many things about him to be someone else. I found messages from a girl who he said was from home. They talked about meeting up and everything else. He told her we were not together and he was raising our son. We worked things out so I thought. Then one night at dinner his phone rang and he said it was a friend from Iraq. He went to talk and hung up when I walked up on him. Later I knew something was wrong so I text the person asking who they were. Sure enough I was right, it was a girl from his hometown. When I asked why he lied he said "I don't know". That is the only answer I could get from him. He still talks to this girl all the time and says they are only friends. He erases all the messages from her. I do get the phone bill I see who he calls. Then about a month ago I went out of town. When I came home he was acting weird. A friend talked me into looking at his email. Sure enough there was a message from "a friend" asking if he had yahoo. He told her yes and there was a user name i had never seen. So I tried signing in and it was his password. In that email address I found emails from where he put himself on 3 different singles sites and listed himself on craigslist. (I personally think that is as low as it gets). He also used a pic I took of him. I know getting in his email isn't right but I knew my instincts were right on. I have not said anything about finding it yet. I am not sure what to do. We do have a son but I can't even trust him anymore. I know I need to think about my sons future. He has also emailed his friend asking what he should do b/c he has thought about cheating on me. (This friend is a single female). She is known of getting around herself. Should I pack my stuff and move home or what????????????
soconfused01 Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 seriously, what a scum bag. he's not devoted to you. you deserve better.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 What he's doing is unforgivable, at least to me. You have to decide if you can live with him as he is OR live with him IF he changes his ways. Is this what you want for yourself?
lady_door Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I think you should confront him directly and see how he reacts. If he gets defensive or keeps lying, it's a sure thing and you should kick him out. If he admits it and is honest with you there might be a way to work things out, though it definitely will take a lot of time. The question is whether you could ever trust him again... and that is something you have to figure out for yourself.
Author NotSureWhat2Do Posted November 17, 2008 Author Posted November 17, 2008 Thanks for ur input. I did confront him the first time and he lied. Then when I showed him proof he said it was my fault. That I never do anything around the house he raises our son. Which is all BS, he is just looking for a reason to b**ch. I work fulltime and some overtime. I admit my house is not perfect but by the time I get home, cook dinner, run errands, give my son a bath, and put him to bed. Who has time to jump to his every command. All I ever ask for is a little help picking up every now and then.
Author NotSureWhat2Do Posted November 18, 2008 Author Posted November 18, 2008 The only problem me kicking him out is the fact he is in the military. So I would have to move out anyways. Plus if I was to go home atleast I would have family to help me out. I am just not sure when to do it. I thought about waiting until I get my income taxes so I have extra money. Then show him the print outs and see what he has to say. Then move back w/ my family...
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