Capricciosa Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 It was supposed to be lunch, and then became shopping and a coffee, and then turned into a movie and a post-movie drink and chat. And it seemed ok while it lasted, fun, we covered a lot of ground, but now I'm home and I feel like I should have cut it shorter, perhaps after the coffee, and that we're going to wear it out before it even begins. I don't know, I feel weird about it, not because anything weird happened, but perhaps because I had to run off at the last minute to catch a bus--it wasn't a proper goodbye. It might be my abandonment stuff kicking in. I like him, we got along easily and happily all day, but nonetheless I feel awkward now, like it was too much too soon. Am I being paranoid? Would he have cut it short if he wanted to? It was his idea to sit and talk after the movie... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 Yes, you're being paranoid. Stop with that kind of thinking. If he didn't want to be with you, he would have found an excuse to dash. Enjoy it! I've had longer dates that didn't end up in bed together so don't feel it's that unusual. If a guy enjoys your company, he's going to want to spend time with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Capricciosa Posted November 16, 2008 Author Share Posted November 16, 2008 Yes, you're being paranoid. Stop with that kind of thinking. If he didn't want to be with you, he would have found an excuse to dash. Enjoy it! I've had longer dates that didn't end up in bed together so don't feel it's that unusual. If a guy enjoys your company, he's going to want to spend time with you. Thanks TBF. I had no intention of getting into bed with him. It's not that. I guess I just couldn't gauge what his intentions were--he has a lot of female friends. He did put his arm around me when we shared an umbrella, and there are things we've said we would get in touch about--as early as tomorrow. So I'll try not to be too paranoid. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 My 12 hour date wich started out as lunch ended with her back in my bed Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 Thanks TBF. I had no intention of getting into bed with him. It's not that. I guess I just couldn't gauge what his intentions were--he has a lot of female friends. He did put his arm around me when we shared an umbrella, and there are things we've said we would get in touch about--as early as tomorrow. So I'll try not to be too paranoid. Guys will dash if they're not having a good time. Think about when you've been in a relationship and couples get together. The girls chat, the guys glaze over and then they wander off outside to have cigars and scotch or go watch a game on TV. I think he's sweet. Did he put his arm around you and hold the umbrella? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Capricciosa Posted November 16, 2008 Author Share Posted November 16, 2008 I think he's sweet. Did he put his arm around you and hold the umbrella? Yes--his umbrella broke in the wind and we ended up using mine. When it stopped raining, we did the arm in arm thing. He is sweet. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 Yes--his umbrella broke in the wind and we ended up using mine. When it stopped raining, we did the arm in arm thing. He is sweet. I always find it so courteous when men hold the umbrella. Arm in arm is adorable. Sounds to me like you had a wonderful date. Now do stop worrying and enjoy it. You'll be talking to him again tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Capricciosa Posted November 16, 2008 Author Share Posted November 16, 2008 I always find it so courteous when men hold the umbrella. Arm in arm is adorable. Sounds to me like you had a wonderful date. Now do stop worrying and enjoy it. You'll be talking to him again tomorrow. Ok, ok. I'm going to bed now. Thanks for the pep talk. Tomorrow is another day... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 Ok, ok. I'm going to bed now. Thanks for the pep talk. Tomorrow is another day... You're welcome and yes, tomorrow is Sunday, another weekend day. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 Correction my 12 hour date ended with me kicking her out of my bed when I wanted to go to sleep... alone Link to post Share on other sites
Nemo Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 And it seemed ok while it lasted, fun, we covered a lot of ground, Sounds like the sex was good. His control will probably improve as you get more "in tune" with each other's bodies. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 Thanks TBF. I had no intention of getting into bed with him. It's not that. I guess I just couldn't gauge what his intentions were--......there are things we've said we would get in touch about--as early as tomorrow. Let the first thing you say to him, be - "I had such a great time yesterday - how 'bout you?!" Big smile...! Link to post Share on other sites
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 16, 2008 Share Posted November 16, 2008 I dated a guy a couple of years ago for about 3 or so months. It didn't work out because there were too many areas of incompatibility, but we are still friends. On our first "official" date we had a bite to eat in a cafe, then we saw a movie, then we had dinner, then we had drinks....we talked a lot and laughed a lot, got to know each other a bit, and developed a comfort level with each other. It did not end up in bed. It was a great start to a nice relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Capricciosa Posted November 16, 2008 Author Share Posted November 16, 2008 I dated a guy a couple of years ago for about 3 or so months. It didn't work out because there were too many areas of incompatibility, but we are still friends. On our first "official" date we had a bite to eat in a cafe, then we saw a movie, then we had dinner, then we had drinks....we talked a lot and laughed a lot, got to know each other a bit, and developed a comfort level with each other. It did not end up in bed. It was a great start to a nice relationship. Thanks for the perspective. We do have a lot in common--or so it seems thus far. It would be a really nice friendship if nothing else Let the first thing you say to him, be - "I had such a great time yesterday - how 'bout you?!" Big smile...! Very good advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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