Bells Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Ever bumped into anyone in person that you had bumped into in person that you had seen online. Would it be a good idea to approach them and say "Hi, you look familiar, are you on Match.com?" I dunno, I get a sense of awkardness of approaching them, however, I'd feel silly to ignore someone whose profile I've seen on countless occassions when logging into a dating site. I would feel ashamed not to say anything. Anyone? Recently, I have been seeing women out in public, that I have seen online. Just haven't met in person yet, until I've just "Happened' across them in public.
Star Gazer Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Unless you've exchanged emails with her, I'd strongly advise against it.
Author Bells Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Unless you've exchanged emails with her, I'd strongly advise against it. LOL...last night, I had no choice....she was hanging with my group of friends....me and her were introduced, that's it. (At least....I think it was her) She was no a date with one of my friends LOL!
Star Gazer Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Wrong. You absolutely had the choice not to bring up where you recognized her from.
johan Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 The right thing to do now would be to look up her profile and try to get a date with her.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I would not be happy if someone did this. I would feel like they put me pon the spot. It sounds like you did it in front of people, too... Focus on yourself Bells!
Ronni_W Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I would feel ashamed not to say anything. Bells, are you SURE you're not just looking to take some (perverse?) pleasure in 'outing' these people? Er, and may I ask exactly how much time are you spending looking at each individual's pic, if you can recognize them IRL? (Do you need me to send the cookie truck over there, or something???)
Author Bells Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Wrong. You absolutely had the choice not to bring up where you recognized her from. I never did bring it up at the event. I just say "Hi , my name is..." and that's it. Believe it or not, there was another woman in our group that I had recognized from online as well , ....what do you expect me to do, be anti-social/ignore them?
Author Bells Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Bells, are you SURE you're not just looking to take some (perverse?) pleasure in 'outing' these people? Er, and may I ask exactly how much time are you spending looking at each individual's pic, if you can recognize them IRL? (Do you need me to send the cookie truck over there, or something???) Um.....no, I just have a good memory, plus they show up in "My Matches" everytime I get an email from the site with "My matches"
Author Bells Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 I would not be happy if someone did this. I would feel like they put me pon the spot. It sounds like you did it in front of people, too... Focus on yourself Bells! Never did that to her, funny that you're just assuming I did.....I started this post as a "What If..." or "Would you....?"
You'reasian Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 The right thing to do now would be to look up her profile and try to get a date with her. And signal the bartender for 4 more guinesses
confusedCA Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Not really on topic, but kinda! I actually walked up to someone. A little different circumstances though. We had emailed, even spoke on the phone and set up a date. It came time to confirm the date place and time and he never called me back. About a month later, I was out. I noticed a guy that looked familiar (which is weird because I am new to the area). Later in the night I noticed him looking at me, so I waited, thinking he would come up to me. As the night progressed (and the drinks) I walked right up to him and said, Hi, My name is______. He was soo surprised and he apologized the rest of the night. After the bar closed, I got a text from him that said he learned a valuable lesson. I think as long as you aren't creepy about it, it would be fine.
Author Bells Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Not really on topic, but kinda! I actually walked up to someone. A little different circumstances though. We had emailed, even spoke on the phone and set up a date. It came time to confirm the date place and time and he never called me back. About a month later, I was out. I noticed a guy that looked familiar (which is weird because I am new to the area). Later in the night I noticed him looking at me, so I waited, thinking he would come up to me. As the night progressed (and the drinks) I walked right up to him and said, Hi, My name is______. He was soo surprised and he apologized the rest of the night. After the bar closed, I got a text from him that said he learned a valuable lesson. I think as long as you aren't creepy about it, it would be fine. There ya go....!!
edinsvet Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 You must live in a small town or small city. I live in a really small city and that happens to me and my friends here all of the time. If you are writing each other you can say hi. If not I would not bring it up.
sunshinegirl Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I was at an art gallery event thingie 2 weeks ago and thought I recognized a match guy that I had been emailing. We were about 20 feet apart and we each sort of did a double take, half-recognizing each other, but neither of us said anything. Later he emailed me to ask if I had been out that night so I got my confirmation that it was him after all.
Shygirl15 Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 I never did bring it up at the event. I just say "Hi , my name is..." and that's it. No need to mention your name really, you can just say 'Hi, It's Me'.
AnonyMOUSE18 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 This has actually happened to me a bunch of times - in both directions. Sometimes the person recognizes me, sometimes I recognize them. Honestly, my last relationship started when a guy I had "wooed" on ok cupid approached me because he recognized me. That was pretty awesome, to be honest! But I agree - that it's best to acknowledge recognizing them only if you've been in contact with them. If you've just "seen" them on there, they might not know you at all and think you're stalking them which is NOT cool!!!
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