kashmir Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Kind of a shallow question, but I'd say it's a bit relevant. I'm going to this party thing tonight, and while thinking about it I realized that I don't have many stylish or appealing clothes. Mostly just jeans, torn up sneakers, goofy or music t-shirts, sweatshirts, and flannel shirts. I do happen to have a shirt or two in my closet that I've never worn...an american eagle and a&f button up shirt. I don't wear those because so many d-bag guys wear them (I got the shirts from relatives for certain holidays). I don't want to blend in with them. So I have two questions, one for the short-term and one for the long-term. First, for any girl with substance out there, if you talked with a guy who seemed decent but was wearing those stylish teenage boy clothes, would that be a turn-off? There's just so much crap associated with those brands. Honestly, I like the way they look, but like I said, I don't wanna be thought of as the standard tool. Second, in the future, what kind of clothes could a young guy like me get that might be a bit more stylish than what I have now? Anything unique that's not within the brands that every guy seems to wear, 3-sizes too small?
Trialbyfire Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 It's not what you wear but how you wear it, although torn up sneakers have GOT to go!
Author kashmir Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 What does that exactly mean, if I may ask?
Trialbyfire Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 One guy can look like a d-bag in a flannel shirt, while another guy can look the height of fashionable comfort. It's how you put it together, how comfortable you are in your own skin and what your body type is. Wear what gives you confidence.
lovestruck818 Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 conformity sucks I hear ya but if ya gets ya girls, then I say do it. Honestly, I would not approach someone who was wearing a band t-shirt, sneakers or any other goofy thing to a bar. I want someone put together and classy. Gap & Express for Men (used to be Structure) has nice stuff that isn't too abercrombie-ish.
Author kashmir Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 One guy can look like a d-bag in a flannel shirt, while another guy can look the height of fashionable comfort. It's how you put it together, how comfortable you are in your own skin and what your body type is. Wear what gives you confidence. I see what you mean. Clothes were never that big of a deal to me, so I never gave much thought to what my fashionable comfort is. I'm just beginning to think about it. I can honestly say, though, that I feel good in just about anything. conformity sucks I hear ya but if ya gets ya girls, then I say do it. Honestly, I would not approach someone who was wearing a band t-shirt, sneakers or any other goofy thing to a bar. I want someone put together and classy. Gap & Express for Men (used to be Structure) has nice stuff that isn't too abercrombie-ish. Ha, well I never expect to be APPROACHED. But if a guy wearing old sneakers and a band t-shirt approached you, would his clothes put you off? Or would it only be his personality and approach that would sway you? One time I remember going out to a party wearing this rage against the machine t-shirt that just has a black and white photo of 5 nuns holding rifles. I got a number of, "that's so creepy" comments, to my face and behind my back. I obviously didn't care though...but...I think it might be a good idea to NOT wear that for a night when I'm going out and might meet some girls.
lovestruck818 Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 I see what you mean. Clothes were never that big of a deal to me, so I never gave much thought to what my fashionable comfort is. I'm just beginning to think about it. I can honestly say, though, that I feel good in just about anything. Ha, well I never expect to be APPROACHED. But if a guy wearing old sneakers and a band t-shirt approached you, would his clothes put you off? Or would it only be his personality and approach that would sway you? One time I remember going out to a party wearing this rage against the machine t-shirt that just has a black and white photo of 5 nuns holding rifles. I got a number of, "that's so creepy" comments, to my face and behind my back. I obviously didn't care though...but...I think it might be a good idea to NOT wear that for a night when I'm going out and might meet some girls. If a guy approached me wearing old sneakers and a band shirt...I would be completely turned-off, yes...but that's me...everyone is different. I'm also into designers and labels and brands and things. Some girls don't care. I'm kind of high-maintenance. I guess it depends on which kind of girls you're looking to meet.
Isolde Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 I've always gone for a clean cut, preppy (NOT popped collar though!) style. However, you'll see that the preferences are really quite varied. Why not try wearing a button down shirt sometime and making it your own? I feel like you worry too much about little things.
Trialbyfire Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Suggestion: Flannel shirt buttoned one or two buttons in the front, plain logoless t-shirt, cotton casual pants like khakis...not emo tight. Running shoes, no rips or tears. What kinds of coats or jackets do you have?
Author kashmir Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Eh, well, I'm more looking to replace my flannel shirts. They're really big on me and pretty old looking...essentially, one of my flannel shirts is like the antithesis of neatness. I don't wear them too often though, only when it's cold. I also have relatively long hair...not really long, but if I took a loch and pushed it straight down it would reach my mouth. I keep it neat and pushed back though. But the long hair would probably just add more to that look with the band shirts and torn shoes. As far as the type of girl I want to meet...hmm, don't know. I don't really think about girls as a 'type,' if they're fun to be around and at least a bit smart then I don't care whether they spend a lot of their time in the mall or alone listening to emo music. I've liked girls of all different types, from athletes to drama girls to girls to nerd-esque girls, kinda because I hang out with all those different groups at different times. Isolde, I would go to hell before I popped my collar, lol! And I'm not really worrying about this...I admit that I worry about other stuff, but not so much this. Just getting some input on something I'm relatively oblivious about. TBF, I have a leather jacket that I rarely wear and a black wool one that I wear a lot (it actually looks kinda cool). Too hot for a coat tonight, though.
quankanne Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 One time I remember going out to a party wearing this rage against the machine t-shirt that just has a black and white photo of 5 nuns holding rifles. I got a number of, "that's so creepy" comments obviously, they've never attended Catholic schools, or they'd have gotten it :laugh: your wardrobe doesn't sound too bad – from your pictures, we've seen that you wear levi's (a plus, IMO), so why not pair it with a button-down/Oxford shirt? Roll up the sleeves to bare your forearms, leave the top 2-3 buttons undone, and if you wear a shirt under it, make sure it's a solid color tshirt so it doesn't take away from the image of simplicity you're trying to project. My thought is that if you dress fussy, people think you're fussy ... the torn up shoes need to be put aside for those days you go fishing or head out to the lake/river and need something to protect your feet. Invest in a comfortable pair of shoes –*leather boots, hiking boots, leather sneakers, deck shoes, just something your feet feel good in, but that also project a simple classic line and that you can wear with just about anything in your closet. I've never ever seen a guy dress simply but comfortably look bad or shabby ... the button-down shirt worn casually suggests that you clean up nicely when you have to ...
Trialbyfire Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Good thoughts quank. Levis on the bottom, a&f shirt on the top with t-shirt. The reverse casual. As long as both pieces aren't dressy or too casual, you create a more balanced look.
BubblyPopcorn Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Kind of a shallow question, but I'd say it's a bit relevant. I'm going to this party thing tonight, and while thinking about it I realized that I don't have many stylish or appealing clothes. Mostly just jeans, torn up sneakers, goofy or music t-shirts, sweatshirts, and flannel shirts. I do happen to have a shirt or two in my closet that I've never worn...an american eagle and a&f button up shirt. I don't wear those because so many d-bag guys wear them (I got the shirts from relatives for certain holidays). I don't want to blend in with them. So I have two questions, one for the short-term and one for the long-term. First, for any girl with substance out there, if you talked with a guy who seemed decent but was wearing those stylish teenage boy clothes, would that be a turn-off? There's just so much crap associated with those brands. Honestly, I like the way they look, but like I said, I don't wanna be thought of as the standard tool. Second, in the future, what kind of clothes could a young guy like me get that might be a bit more stylish than what I have now? Anything unique that's not within the brands that every guy seems to wear, 3-sizes too small? What does "stylish teenage boy clothes" entail these days? Idk, I think jeans and a nice t-shirt looks good, I like a lot of the guy t-shirts Target has I went there a few months back with my male cousin and there were some really cool looking ones. Just wear what you like and what you think you look good in.
jayOG Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 "But with my ego, i can stand there in a speedo And be looked at like a ****in hero" Kanye West Some people are shallow though. Like I definitely have to fit in in certain places. Jeans and polo seem to work perfectly in any situation.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I consider myself the furthest thing from a fashion guru, but I tend to get props for my style. I am a simplistic dresser. I prefer a dark color (preferably black, dark blue, dark grey, or dark purple) for my pants and jackets, then I'll generally use another solid color that is a little lighter or white or black. But, to be honest, if I could have a closet full of nothing but black clothes, I would go do it, unfortunately, not really smiled upon in corporate society. Oh, and I tend to wear semi-business casual sets (long sleeve shirt (with or without collar) slacks or jeans) with boots or sneakers as for my feet. I am not really a sneakers person. I remember one of my females friends was kind of teasing and upset because I usually like to wear slacks, a dress shirt, a vest, and polished shoes even when I went to the movies and she wondered why I always dressed better than she did, even if just hanging out.
mrose2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 GQ look is a turn on ...I love the clean cut guys...Jeans and a nice polo is hot ...but that is just my opinion..Oh I did marry a guy like that.......Now when we are at home we are both bums ...
prettybaby Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 You basically have to ask yourself what kind of personality you want to reflect. Are you smart, neat, and ambitious? Are you laid back/artistic type of person? I always dress the way I want people to perceive me, because people build an opinion about you and your personality within seconds, before you even get a chance to open your mouth. Some people won't even approach you if you're not dressed a certain way, and you'll basically never even know. At the same time, it's also important to balance it out with what you love and feel comfortable wearing. It's crucial to wear things that boost your self-confidence to the max.
Author kashmir Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Hmm, the personality I'd like to reflect...not sure. I never really thought about "reflecting" a personality through clothes. I forgot that I also have a pair of leather shoes. They look similar to these, except they're a bit worn because I haven't polished them in a while: http://images.wolverineworldwide.com/is/image/bulk/2006/4/27/MRL-W43243-05y.psd.fpx?wid=260&hei=226&align=0,0&qlt=80&op_usm=0.5,1&fmt=jpeg I usually have my sneakers on, though, since I usually go straight from working out in the morning to my classes. I'm usually have my old sneakers and a sweatshirt when I'm out and about. I'm not that clean cut, but I've been told that I can pull facial hair and shaggy hair off really well. I also don't like to shave, heh. What I'm wearing doesn't really affect my self-confidence, because I hardly think about what I have on. I'm just trying to find ways to look good. A lot of people here said that they would be turned off by a guy wearing a band t-shirt. Well, most of my shirts are music t-shirts, and they usually have weird stuff on them. I never really thought that they might repel people, though. I'll still wear them when I feel like it, but I'd like to expand and wear stuff that might not be a turn-off to women.
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