fromlonelytogreat Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 I'm interested to know how you view asian guys in general. I think we get stereotyped negatively, and that isn't a good thing. Does the fact that they are asian make them appear less/more attractive to you compared to other races?
alphamale Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 I'm interested to know how you view asian guys in general. I think we get stereotyped negatively, and that isn't a good thing. Does the fact that they are asian make them appear less/more attractive to you compared to other races? what is your definition of "asian"?? I'm asian indian, tall, educated, funny, confident & good looking and have few problems with women of any races. Although there are always some women who wouldn't be interested in me due to my ethnicity i've generally done ok...
Author fromlonelytogreat Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 what is your definition of "asian"?? I'm asian indian, tall, educated, funny, confident & good looking and have few problems with women of any races. Although there are always some women who wouldn't be interested in me due to my ethnicity i've generally done ok... Sorry, I guess I mean east asian. You south asians don't seem to have much of the same stereotypes thrown at you.
Trialbyfire Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 I've dated men who were attractive to me, be they asian or caucasian. Criteria #1: Intelligence. Someone trapped in their ways like neo or paleo-cons are so not attractive, because when you are, you're not intelligent, no matter what your IQ numbers are. Realistically speaking, dumber than a bag of hammers. That's my view on people. The more you personally differentiate, the more you're going to be differentiated for or against.
alphamale Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Sorry, I guess I mean east asian. You south asians don't seem to have much of the same stereotypes thrown at you. but we are still technically "asians". thats the box i tick for the census and job applications
Isolde Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 East Asian guys are very sexy when they are confident in themselves.
Author fromlonelytogreat Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 East Asian guys are very sexy when they are confident in themselves. See that alphamale?
kashmir Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 You mind if I expand to another region of Asia? How about Middle-Eastern guys? While I'm considered white, people know I've got something else in me. And about those stereotypes - if a girl seriously followed them, why would you want her ignorant butt anyway?
Isolde Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Sorry alpha, I didn't mean to exclude you (or Kashmir, either)--I think this thread should be devoted to East Asians because they are different races... West and South Asians are mainly Caucasian with some other races mixed in. Not to mention that, say, Lebanese culture and Chinese culture are RADICALLY different.
allina Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 I like Asian guys, though the ones I'm attracted to aren't the FOB guys. I guess I click with the "Americanized" ones. The college I went to had a large Asian population, as does the city I live in so mixed couples where one partner is Asian are very common here. My SO of 2.5 years is Indian and we couldn't be happier :love:
monkey00 Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 While I agree that there are many negative stereotypes out there for asians, many wrought on by Hollywood and media...there are equally many positive ones as well. I think when it comes to interracial dating, be comfortable with you are and be proud of your roots no matter what race. Confidence and intelligence shines through any skin color. If someone isn't going to accept you for you, then find someone that does.
You'reasian Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I'm interested to know how you view asian guys in general. I think we get stereotyped negatively, and that isn't a good thing. Does the fact that they are asian make them appear less/more attractive to you compared to other races? You see alot more Asian male/Caucasian female couples in the west coast and in college towns, but nation wide its an extreme rareity. I've dated mostly caucasian women - granted I'm not your typical Asian male, but to simplify this discussion and make it easier to understand, I'll speak from the eyes of an Asian I would imagine the usual stereotypes: Asians are short, unfashionable, not strong communicators, not confident etc. However, I'll state that any Asian guy that can distinguish himself, adapt more to western culture/fashion and pick up on communication can have better experiences with dating. Humor is a skill that Asian men have huge potential to leverage (if its in them). Why? Because Asian appearances stand out and having that brings them over the top. It gets them noticed. Whose gonna forget Long Duck Dong? Passion is yet another one. In some circles passion about anything is considered gay - especially in areas like art, science or cooking - however I think these are areas that requre fine-motor skills to appreciate. The same kind of skill required to send 5.56 rounds 500 yards down range into a paper plate sized target - fine motor skills. Think of Mr. Miyagi... Cleanliness. Asians have the stereotypes of either being obsessively clean or the exact opposite - you want to be on the clean side.
jayOG Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Slap a label on yourself and you cease being an individual.
Trialbyfire Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 Slap a label on yourself and you cease being an individual. In a nutshell! People limit themselves. Avoid the bigots and remain true to your core.
wierdmunky Posted November 16, 2008 Posted November 16, 2008 I'm interested to know how you view asian guys in general. I think we get stereotyped negatively, and that isn't a good thing. Does the fact that they are asian make them appear less/more attractive to you compared to other races? I know exactly where your coming from. I don't think the MAJORITY of non-asians think asians in general are less attractive, but I do run into the 'I hate asians' people occasionally, and it totally throws me off the wall, I hate them back. Sorry. They just don't get saying that almost says I hate YOU. I just have a million things to say about that, but I'm not going to spread the hate. Then there are the one's that love asians all together and can't get enough. I've never dated an asian guy, but I agree that it's the confidence, style, and knowing how to carry yourself that will get you far. Who doesn't love a confident person, who's not insecure about themselves? It makes ME feel better. And they're more entertaining because they're not afraid to step out of that shell and comfort zone were all used to. The American culture by comparison makes a bigger issue about teaching that to their kids since it's more of a individualistic society, and they know your going to need that. Which is cool. Some of us don't get the full dose of that at home because I don't think asian guys are less attractive - I think some of them could use a confidence boost, because it ads to the stereotype, but who cares about stereotypes, and you don't want a superficial GIRL anyway. The "fab" asians don't really care about being westernized, it's like emo ppl hating the normal ppl.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Haha! I LOVE ASIAN BOYS! Seriously. My ex was Vietnamese, and I'm SHAMELESS when it comes to crushing on Asian guys. There are a few things that turn me off, and these are not stereotypes so much as things I really can't see working out in the long term: -My ex's family (grandparents) HATED me for being white. Go figure my ex left me for another Viet girl. ;p So... I the minute I percieve a cute Asian boy as possibly being from a family like that, or just liking Asian girls over me out of convenience, I get completely put off. ALSO! For those who said they prefer more "Americanized" Asian guys, they're bang on! You'reAsian explains it pretty well: If an Asian guy feels like white girls just arn't going for him - it could very well be that he just hasn't adopted really Western fashion. And yeah, humor really helps! If you can make fun of negative stereotypes you can totally turn things around and come off as a cool and fun individual. I remember once my ex and I were looking for something, and I was like "argh! it was right in front of you, I can't believe you didn't see it!" and he wittily replied that he has squinty eyes, its not his fault. Of course, I never thought that about him, and I found him to be the best looking guy ever, but it still made me laugh. Little things like that can work wonders.
Ocean-Blue Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 One of my biggest crushes was on this Chinese guy back in grade 5. I also crushed on his friend. All the girls loved them. We used to chase after them during recess and coveted a spot on their teams.
You'reasian Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I remember once my ex and I were looking for something, and I was like "argh! it was right in front of you, I can't believe you didn't see it!" and he wittily replied that he has squinty eyes, its not his fault. Did it follow with something like... You: "Well then, I'll make sure that the dental floss never gets too close to your eyes then :lmao:" Him: "I didn't realize you were into activities like "blindfolding" but now that you've mentioned it you're giving me a stirring feeling down there :D" You: "LMAO...you're such a freak" Him: "You know you love it "....grabs you around the hips and starts making out with you. **The two of you whisk off to the bedroom**
monkey00 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 You'reAsian explains it pretty well: If an Asian guy feels like white girls just arn't going for him - it could very well be that he just hasn't adopted really Western fashion. And yeah, humor really helps! If you can make fun of negative stereotypes you can totally turn things around and come off as a cool and fun individual. I think dating in the US as a minority definitely has to do with adopting westernization and assimilating into the culture. Things are much easier and there is less of a culture gap. But I also think it's part of the other person's responsibility too to be considerate of their culture or at least be open-minded about it.
Angel1111 Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Maybe this is just isolated to where I live but the ones I've encountered seem to be very arrogant and ungentlemanly. They walk in front of you, don't open doors, and seem to make a point of being rude. As a race, I've never met so many men who behave so consistently the same way. It's a major turn-off.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 I think dating in the US as a minority definitely has to do with adopting westernization and assimilating into the culture. Things are much easier and there is less of a culture gap. But I also think it's part of the other person's responsibility too to be considerate of their culture or at least be open-minded about it. Oh yeah, I agree with you about being open to other cultures, do not get me wrong. I loved his parents (from Vietnam), and I appreciated the values his family had. I absolutely adore Asian culture, specifically Chinese. That being said! Its nice dating a guy who strikes a balance between his heritage and living in a western country. Too much to either side can be a turn off (for me).
lofi_tokyo Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Maybe this is just isolated to where I live but the ones I've encountered seem to be very arrogant and ungentlemanly. They walk in front of you, don't open doors, and seem to make a point of being rude. As a race, I've never met so many men who behave so consistently the same way. It's a major turn-off. Asian guy's here in Canada, and the ones I've met in the states behave like any one else - you get a whole mix of gentlemen, jerks, whatever. BUT! When I was in Japan? Thats another story! Man where those guys rude to women! I could not believe it! That I think is more of a cultural difference though than a racial difference. ;p
chugster Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 Haha! I LOVE ASIAN BOYS! Seriously. My ex was Vietnamese, and I'm SHAMELESS when it comes to crushing on Asian guys..... -My ex's family (grandparents) HATED me for being white. Go figure my ex left me for another Viet girl. What a lucky Vietnamese boy !!! Well, not anymore since he left you. I'm half Viet myself... and I could definitely relate to your situation.
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