Alex_M Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 So I don't know if you've heard my long rants/story about my breakup a month a go but here's just a recap: Me and my GF have been together for two years. She went to uni in September. I didn't see her much right at the start because I didn't have the money to travel there (it wasn't a lot (£4) but I only just started my job and was just waiting it out. She meanwhile meets new friends. Single friends. The only people she knows that are in a relationship have their partners there. Now we did have a break a while ago because she wasn't happy that we didn't see each other enough, and that she was in a long term relationship at a young age. This is the same situation but she's broken up with me. She is still in constant contact with me, because we were really really close friends before we got together. I am happy being friends with her, because it's HER that I love not what tags are attached to the relationship. So now, she's still talking to me and I finally got her to spit out the reasons for the breakup. I confirmed that she wanted to be single, she didn't want to be with someone else. She just wanted to go and have some fun. I was totally fine with that, and I think all relationships need time apart. Now here's the thing. I want to spend time with her, hang out and whatnot but she is still pretty evasive. I'm sure she thinks that I am gonna be clingy and not get over her if I talk to her all the time. But she herself is finding it difficult to not talk to me at all (I went totally insane @ the breakup so that's why she thinks there's going to be a problem ). I know that I could just chill with her and be comfortable as long as she doesn't act weird. So here's my question, should I just leave her alone for a while or tell her something like; "Look there isn't going to be a problem I'm fine at the moment, I have my new job and new people to keep me busy. I just want to hang out some time, havn't seen you in ages and do miss talking to you properly. If you have any worries you won't know what it's like till you try. Trust me we'll just have some fun." I'm gonna try and meet some new people, don't feel like dating though to be honest so we'll just have to see what happens. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get this point across?: I really just need to reassure her that I agree with the breakup, it's time for us to spend some time apart (instead of talking every minute of every day ) but that I still do want to see her because we have a great time together and she shouldn't be feeling guilty. She says she wants to do a bunch of things with me, but usually at the end she says something like "one day". e.g. I will come over and bake you that cake one day
Author Alex_M Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 Sorry to double post. I know my questions are kinda dumb and hard to answer, but please. Any opinion is useful
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