JackJack Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Some of you may have read my other thread in marriage called, "What would you think?" Here is the latest update. It doesn't look as if my sister in laws husband is coming back, or willing to work things out. She wants to work it out with him and suggested counseling. He told her he didn't think it would work out. He is still sticking with the excuse about his past catching up with him but yet wont go in any detail about what that might be. He also told her he wasn't real happy with her spending habits. To my knowledge the bills get paid, she works full time and goes to school at night. I will agree she likes nice things but not sure how much overboard she may go on things. I still say even if it were a money/spending thing, its something that could be fixable, most couples to have money issues from time to time, and no real reason to just walk out. The job he has, he recently changed again and no one knows why, it seemed to be a sudden thing. I still say there is more to the story than just his past and the money thing although I may be wrong. My question is she has been giving her kids these excuses about there dad being out of town, which is true at times because his job did require that. They still think he has that job, and she is tired of lying and making up excuses. I know this is hard on her, and her family is here for her, but I think at some point she needs to tell those kids. They are 8,5 and 3. I know it would be difficult. She did say she has a meeting set up Monday with a lawyer. I guess there is never a good time to tell kids about their parents seperating/divorcing. I also think she keeps putting it off in hopes he will change his mind.
blair08 Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 IMO, I think she needs to tell the kids soon. You did say she has an appt with a lawyer Monday, so the lawyer might be best to advise her when the best time is, and how to approach the subject with them. There is never a good or right time to tell anyone espcially kids about their parents splitting up.
Author JackJack Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 Thanks blair. Yeah, I'm sure its never a good time. Wow 47 views and only one reply, guess it is true what is going on around here lately.
imagine Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 Hey I'm guilted to post.... Can you get your SIL to post directly. It's very difficult working via the middle man. We are waiting for her....
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