wonderinwhatsup Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Hey guys, its been a while since i posted here. Things have been a lot better but over the past few weeks my ex has sent me texts saying she misses me and stuff like that. I hung out over at her place for a while last night. She still has a boyfriend and she was telling me how they were going to spend the weekend in the mountains together. She knows that I hate hearing about their plans because I have told her. I really don't get why she says things like that while still saying things like I miss you. I cannot lie, I do miss her too but I'm afraid she just misses me as a friend. It does bother me that I'm thinking about her and after just seeing her its hard to get her out of my head. I don't know what to do, because I want to spend time with her and see where things go, but since she's still with her bf I don't really see a point do yall? I would really appreciate some advice on what to do and what yall think shes thinking. You can check my previous posts if you want to know the whole background, but we had been going out for over a year and have remained in contact although and some points very lightly. Thanks for the help everyone it really makes it easier on me.
trueblue72ny Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 i dont know dude, me personally, and i dont know your entire situation, but i would just tell her your not interested in just being her chat buddy. because you're not? are you? it sounds like you want to be her man, but your not going to do that unless you set some boundaries. like im not interested in being your chat buddy. or hearing about your bf. you dont have to be mean about it, just tell her nicely in your own way. that is my advice.
WiseOne1 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 I know exactly how you feel, I dont know why ex's gf's call there ex bf's and talk about there new BF like its ok, like its all good or something, it hurts to hear about the new bf. I've been thru the exact same thing about telling the ex "dont tell me about your new bf" but sooner or later shes gonna tell you anyway, she gonna start doing it all over again and your gonna be back to step 1. Sooner or later you might start stuff much worser ya know? My advice is to tell her you'll contact her or even go NC, but I dont wanna be a hyprocrit because I had a hard time going NC with my ex after she kept mentioning her new bf to me to. I told my ex that I wont stand to let someone disrespect me, and left it at that. But you dont wanna be a friend, you seem to want more, so therefore her calling you will do you no good unlest shes talking about being more than friends.
Sysyphus28 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 She is acting like an illogical selfish person. She is trying to manipulate you into being her chat buddy. She is bring rude and self-centered. SHe is being immature. *** SHE should be proving to you through her actions THAT she is NOT the woman for you..... WHo wants to be with a selfish Bi***.
WiseOne1 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 She is acting like an illogical selfish person. She is trying to manipulate you into being her chat buddy. She is bring rude and self-centered. SHe is being immature. *** SHE should be proving to you through her actions THAT she is NOT the woman for you..... WHo wants to be with a selfish Bi***. I Agree and shes trying to manipulate you. She wanted to be with this new guy, im pretty sure he can take care all of her needs just like you did.
Geishawhelk Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Wonderin', the more you keep in contact with her, the more she'll be happy to carry on under the assumption that hey! You're cool with this! Isn't this cosy, all hangin' out together, jus' like really cool buddies?" No. Actually, it stinks. It sucks. It's painful and you don't want to do it any more. So, you know what? Don't do it. Be the guy you know you are and the next time she contacts you by 'phone, just say - "I'm sorry, I'm unavailable - to you. Don't call me again." Hang up. Knowing her, she'll be right back on the 'phone in an instant. At which point, you pull out that sports referee whistle you have in your pocket...... Cut her off from your mobile, don't text, don't IM, don't MSN, don't e-mail, don't phone, don't write, don't give in. If you give in then you're giving your 'Power' and control over to someone else to do with as they wish. This is your choice. If you don't like what's happening, it is your right - and within your power - and in your control - to change it. Get a grip of yourself, and make it happen for yourself. Or your heart will stay broken, and you will stay sad, and she will - stay.
jolly718 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Sounds like shes trying to make you a little jealous- Does her new BF know she is still calling you telling you she misses you?? Hows that going to make him feel- see how long that relationship last- I wouldnt even talk to the B****!
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