Jamez123 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 why the f*ck do i deserve to be told 'We're never going to get back together again' by someone who once loved me 'more than anything' and would occasionally say to me 'please don't leave me' and stuff like that. I just feel at the lowest point of my f*cking life now and have done for the past month and a half and since, she's just acted as though the relationship never f*cking happened. How can she be like this when she always reminded me of how important i was to her, etc. Her reason for dumping me was because out of the whole year relationship; 'The last two months went downhill' simply that. I just got really jealous that she was starting college and meeting new people so i went a bit nasty. But the crime doesn't fit the punishment at all. I've been so depressed, considered seeing a doctor about it, my parents suggested it. Seriously though why would she say 'we'll never get back together' if her reason was that merely the 'last two months went downhill' ? And why this time of year when exactly this time last year we were absolutely inseperable as if nothing else mattered. Why won't she just give me another chance, or how can i get her too? I've tried living since the breakup, i've made a few more friends, i've started driving lessons i've done things to help take her off my mind but she won't go from it. In fact i want her more everyday. I honestly don't want anyone else. I'm trying no contact, i've managed it for a little bit now. Yeah if there were many problems and we didn't get along as well as we did, then of course i'd think about it all and forget about her, but it wasn't the case. It just doesn't seem right her being so happy and oblivious to the fact i'm so depressed. All i've got is Nick Cave to listen to, and old comedy's to watch on tv which helps a tiny bit & my friends are frankly sick of me talking about her. And as i suffer from depression anyway, aswell as living in England life sucks big COCK. F*ck this sadness
Peter_pan Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 how long has it been that you two havnt been together ?? have you asked her for another chance, what does she say? have you thought about giving her space, nothing is worse than someone going on at you to be with them, its not attractive. maybe she is seeing someone else or is in the process, she dosnt feel she needs to go back to you? i knows its ****e man, nc will help you heal but its hard
foxh1234 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 why the f*ck do i deserve to be told 'We're never going to get back together again' by someone who once loved me 'more than anything' and would occasionally say to me 'please don't leave me' and stuff like that. I just feel at the lowest point of my f*cking life now and have done for the past month and a half and since, she's just acted as though the relationship never f*cking happened. How can she be like this when she always reminded me of how important i was to her, etc. Her reason for dumping me was because out of the whole year relationship; 'The last two months went downhill' simply that. I just got really jealous that she was starting college and meeting new people so i went a bit nasty. But the crime doesn't fit the punishment at all. I've been so depressed, considered seeing a doctor about it, my parents suggested it. Seriously though why would she say 'we'll never get back together' if her reason was that merely the 'last two months went downhill' ? And why this time of year when exactly this time last year we were absolutely inseperable as if nothing else mattered. Why won't she just give me another chance, or how can i get her too? I've tried living since the breakup, i've made a few more friends, i've started driving lessons i've done things to help take her off my mind but she won't go from it. In fact i want her more everyday. I honestly don't want anyone else. I'm trying no contact, i've managed it for a little bit now. Yeah if there were many problems and we didn't get along as well as we did, then of course i'd think about it all and forget about her, but it wasn't the case. It just doesn't seem right her being so happy and oblivious to the fact i'm so depressed. All i've got is Nick Cave to listen to, and old comedy's to watch on tv which helps a tiny bit & my friends are frankly sick of me talking about her. And as i suffer from depression anyway, aswell as living in England life sucks big COCK. F*ck this sadness How can she do it ? this answer is simple but yet complicated. People change. I am not trying to oversimplify, but it is the truth. Nothing in life is forever and when a persons feelings change, they must do what they have to do to be happy. I have been there and it hurts like nothing I have experienced before. We can cry and whine and wonder what the hell happened but the reality is still the same. They didn't want to be with us anymore. It is a hard pill to swallow but it must be done. All we have left is memories and momentos. We can choose two paths, the first is to wallow in self pity and curse the gods for screwing us. The second is to accept what has happened and decide that life is short and we must accept what it throws at us. We then pick up the pieces and move on. If, and this is a big if, they choose to look us up down the road and sparks fly, then we see what happens then. The important thing is for us to not sit and wait for that but live life and enjoy what time we have on this crazy planet. One last thought, no matter how much to rethink and second guess yourself or her, nothing will change for you until you decide that enough is enough and you deserve better. make the decision and get on with living instead of living in the past and what if land. I know you can do it, take care.
Author Jamez123 Posted November 15, 2008 Author Posted November 15, 2008 how long has it been that you two havnt been together ?? have you asked her for another chance, what does she say? have you thought about giving her space, nothing is worse than someone going on at you to be with them, its not attractive. maybe she is seeing someone else or is in the process, she dosnt feel she needs to go back to you? i knows its ****e man, nc will help you heal but its hard well we broke up about a month and a half ago and i've literally asked for her back at least once a week ever since so i'm definately just gonna leave it now and maybe i'll be missed. I know she won't be seeing anyone at the moment i'm sure of it, but if she is she can f**k off because after a long term relationship with me "her first true love", it'd be so sluttish for her to do that. I'm going to ask her out in a couple of weeks to the cinema or something, i've nothing to lose by doing that surely. I have asked for another chance, but pathetically . . . everytime i've begged her and begged her and the first week she dumped me i was begging her for hours on the phone and she said to me 'you'll just push me further and further away' and after that she said 'no, we'll never be together again' so i guess by begging i've completely ballsed things up. Hopefully i'll get another shot one day who knows, if not then she's missing out on a lot.
Peter_pan Posted November 15, 2008 Posted November 15, 2008 well we broke up about a month and a half ago and i've literally asked for her back at least once a week ever since so i'm definately just gonna leave it now and maybe i'll be missed. I know she won't be seeing anyone at the moment i'm sure of it, but if she is she can f**k off because after a long term relationship with me "her first true love", it'd be so sluttish for her to do that. I'm going to ask her out in a couple of weeks to the cinema or something, i've nothing to lose by doing that surely. I have asked for another chance, but pathetically . . . everytime i've begged her and begged her and the first week she dumped me i was begging her for hours on the phone and she said to me 'you'll just push me further and further away' and after that she said 'no, we'll never be together again' so i guess by begging i've completely ballsed things up. Hopefully i'll get another shot one day who knows, if not then she's missing out on a lot. similar story to mine, how long where you with her for? i was with my ex 3 years and she said similar stuff if not identical things to your ex, then when i decided to go nc and HOPE she would contact, she never did and if she did it was just normal everyday stuff.. then when i went on my holiday right before her bday she finally replied to my email 2 weeks later (when i was on holiday!!!! the email i wrote her basically consisted of me reminding her of good times and BEGGING her back to give us another go etc), she then told me she was SEEING HIM NOW and didnt no if it was going to go anywhere BUT IT WAS NICE NOT KNOWING. i was devastated. i told myself if she was seeing him than balls to her, and i went solid nc ever since, even moved country. not heard a peep from her directly ever since and she is still with him a year on.... and yeah i do think of her and miss her. sorry to hear what your going through mate, but the best thing to do is go into nc and if she comes back your lucky, if not then it wasnt meant to be or whatever. it pure sucks tbh. nothing you or i or anyone can do. her fam loved me like there own, but nothing wud change her mind. i remember trying to change it, we went for a walk with her dog like the old days and i was crying trying to be strong talking to her to get answers as to why she wouldnt give us another go, she wouldnt look at me in the face she looked down at the ground and was grinning..... month later i got told bout him in the email as i already said. and i got told she wanted to be single just now thats all.... and "that who knows wat the future holds we mite be back together in months years, i cant give you a precise date can I, dont wait for me" anyway you know what needs to be done, i say you ditch this bitch and just move on. dont allow yourself to be the one begging for another chance. its what i would have changed, given another chance. or tell her straight. sad times. i hated the way my ex spoke to me when it was over, she really didnt give a toss about me
Author Jamez123 Posted November 16, 2008 Author Posted November 16, 2008 Cheers Mr. Pan =]. We were together a year and it was really strong, just the last two months were extremely dull. Since the breakup we've not actually spoken about our relationship, when we've actually been together. However, i've begged on the phone and i've texted her and e-mailed her and everything. . . And, of course it's been the same answer, again and again. I feel as though i may have pushed her away now, i think if it were i was her i'd do exactly the same because there's nothing less attractive. Anyway it's been over two weeks since i last saw her now and well we've not contacted for a week and before that it was just texting really to be honest, nothing more. I've decided to invite her over to watch a movie with me and properly talk to her next friday anyway and i'm going to just see what happens. I'll try and make the night as lovely as possible, and just see if i can at least get us to a kissing stage . . .
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