Mino Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Ask yourself this. If anyone is willing to cheat on their spouse. To instead of facing the problem avoid it and complicate it by bring other hearts into the marriage. Are they really looking out for anyone? And another thing to ask yourself, if he is not really considering his wife's and/or kids feelings, those who rightful deserve them...Why should he treat your feelings any better? I am glad your think about this. But, you can't blame him for his selfishness alone. You right now should not be thinking about him anymore, but think about that wife and/or kids if he has them. How would you feel if you were that wife? How would you feel if you were that/those kid/kids? Or if you have already experienced it, then, remember how you felt. And think about some of these things... Is this the woman I really want to be? Is this the woman my parents or other person/people who loved me raised me to be? Don't I deserve more than some else's scraps? Aren't I worth more than what I get from him? If this got out to my friends and/or family, could I stand up proudly on this issue? Am I truly the only one he has slept with or has he had other women besides me or am I even his only one now? What if something happens and I get pregnant? What risks and downfalls am I setting myself up for? Could the spouse be one of those people who would harm me if I got caught? You need to start thinking about the woman you are now and what you want her to be tomorrow. Think about the golden rule. Is this what I would want someone else to do to me? If not, why am I doing it to someone else? It is good that you are questioning yourself and wondering about things. I hope you really think about things and that you find the answers you need to make the right decision for your life. Just remember, for every thought and action, there is a consequence, be it good or bad. And sometimes consequences won't show up until way down the line when we think we are free and clear. OMG..What is wrong with you dude? Go do your preaching somewhere eles... like a therapist couch and get some zooloft while your at it...Did your wife cheat on you so now you have to come here and preach ?? There are other topics out there onmthe other boards, You know "coping" board for instance, that may help you get your anxiety and anger under control and get you to your path of healing
Author Shannon2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 Brimstone, thanks for your reply, it's exactly those questions that I ask myself that has helped me stay away from him. It's actually getting easier with time. I know he won't stop at me...I know that he will find an affair partner after he accepts that it won't be me. It's really all about him....I will not ever be with him again...I'm more certain in my conviction now than I ever was... I unblocked him a few weeks ago..that was MY mistake...as he's been blocked for at least 2 years...I presumed I was off his buddylist...but I was wrong...the FIRST night I unblocked him,he IM'd me and asked where I've been....(I unblocked everyone...i had not been on AIM in a long time...he was the last person on my mind when I did that) I thought it was harmless at first...untill I realized he's just up to his old game again. Back on block he goes.
Author Shannon2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 OMG..What is wrong with you dude? Go do your preaching somewhere eles... like a therapist couch and get some zooloft while your at it...Did your wife cheat on you so now you have to come here and preach ?? There are other topics out there onmthe other boards, You know "coping" board for instance, that may help you get your anxiety and anger under control and get you to your path of healing LOL..actually she/he had some good point in that post....
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Good for you Shannon! You sound more than on your way to recovery. Now remember what you have learned for this, and use it as a measure for the man, the life, and love you deserve. Good luck out there and blessings to you.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 OMG..What is wrong with you dude? Go do your preaching somewhere eles... like a therapist couch and get some zooloft while your at it...Did your wife cheat on you so now you have to come here and preach ?? There are other topics out there onmthe other boards, You know "coping" board for instance, that may help you get your anxiety and anger under control and get you to your path of healing Are you okay Mino? You seem awfully angry and hyper. Is something troubling you? Is there something about me that interest you? You seem to hang on every word I say. If you really want to talk, and where it is not disruptive to the thread, please, feel free to PM me. I have no problem dealing with whatever issues you think you have with me. Something I learned from here...If you really don't like what someone says, don't comment. Not everything is about you or for you. Just some words of wisdom. <Politely bows and smiles.>
bentnotbroken Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Are you okay Mino? You seem awfully angry and hyper. Is something troubling you? Is there something about me that interest you? You seem to hang on every word I say. If you really want to talk, and where it is not disruptive to the thread, please, feel free to PM me. I have no problem dealing with whatever issues you think you have with me. Something I learned from here...If you really don't like what someone says, don't comment. Not everything is about you or for you. Just some words of wisdom. <Politely bows and smiles.> :DNice, advice that is often thrown at BS:D
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