sid3 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Just wonder what is preffered by women. After chatting up a woman every couple of days for the last few weeks, should I ask for her number or just invite/ask her out instead. Knowing that I'll run into her in the near future has me thinking I don't need to call her. And it's no big secret why I'd be asking for her number, so wouldn't it make more sense to just invite her out instead. Or am I over looking some reasons why asking for the number is so often the norm. Just curious about the opinions of everyone. I'm leaning towards asking her out, unless there are compelling reasons why geting her number is more appropriate.
Geishawhelk Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 If you ask for her number, but don't invite her out, sher may think you're a player. If you invite her out but don't ask for her number, she may think you're dumb. How are you going to finalise plans? Ask her out AND get her number - of course!!
rod_in_gtown Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Ah yes! I made this mistake once, I met this really awesome woman and we spoke for a long time. at the end of the night I asked her for her number but didn't really asked her if she wanted to go for a drink on "x" day. Getting a date after that was brutal! Kill 2 birds with one stone I say! The reasoning is why do you need her number if you don't have a date?
prettybaby Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 I agree, it makes perfect sense to ask her out and then also ask for her number while you're at it. You want the number anyway, in case anything comes up and you need to reschedule. Exchanging both numbers would be ideal. And that way, neither of you are left waiting for a phone call, because plans have already been made. Plus, you then have each other's number on hand in case you wanna keep in touch afterwards or whatever. It makes things less awkward than asking for each other's number later on.
eric82 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 the way i see it, the reason you ask for her number isn't just about the number itself, it's for you to show your self-confidence and gauge her reaction to know where you stand with her. yeah it would be no secret why you would ask for her number, but that's all the more reason to ask: to take charge, confidently show your intentions, and go after who/what you want in your life. you can't have that if you don't know how to reach her when she's not around, so getting her number sooner than later just makes sense.
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