hel Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 Me & this girl were into each other, but we never ended up dating. We recently reached closure & decided to stay just as friends due to the long distance between us. But now, I’m not sure how she feels. read on... -when we spoke about our relationship, she said things like “friends for now”, as if leaving things open -since then, she called me her lover. After calling me her lover, she said “anyways…” how is that important? Well, I once asked her on msn about stuff that was going on in her life & she said something like “thanks for asking! my ex was never interested in anything” & then she wrote “ANYWAYS!” in big capital letters, so I feel like she may be giving me hints. -when I say bye to her on msn, she always says love you or something sweet (other than just “bye”) & she often uses hearts when she talks to me (not always, but alot). -we’ve had long talks since then, often about not that much, just hanging out - talks that can go up to 2 or 3 hours of just casual talk -she told me she had a dream where she came with her family to see my family. While our siblings went to go get pizza, we went to the basement to watch a DVD of our favourite show. We eventually ended up kissing. In reality, we never kissed, but her dream holds many parallels to reality. We do love the same show & we had pizza in my basement the day that I met her. I asked her what she thought it meant & she said that she thought it confirmed her feelings for me & that she could trust me. - she’s written on my facebook wall late at night how she’s thinking of me & that she misses "her boy" (a couple occasions only, but i'm just writing whatever may bear signifigance) -she told me I’m a special boy in her life -she jokingly implied that she’d give me a lapdance next time I saw her (like a one out of a thousand chance). Then she said there'd be 100 out of that thousand, there’d be a chance that we were dating. - went to go see her at a party, she seemed happy to see me, we hugged, spoke, she asked me about my relationship status & took an interest in why i was still single. she introduced me to a good chunk of her friends, who seemed to be looking at me as if they had heard all about me. - we had a moment where we just stared at each other smiling, there was times when our hands & arms would brush against each other casually, she even touched my arm (supposed to be a good sign). basically, she seemed to have no problem being physical, but still subtle. there was even a moment where we were sitting next to each other on a bench & she leaned into me as if she wanted me to put my arm around her (i did) - i still didn't spend that much time with her, though, because her recent ex showed up to talk to her. she never told me she had a boyfriend, but she explained to me later that she wasn't really telling anybody (seemed to be telling the truth). she also told me how he would neglect her & put her off for his friends. i was sitting with her & her friends at one point in the night & she got a text from him. she showed her friends & they teased her about it. then she showed me - it was basically stuff like "i love you, i'm sorry, you're beautiful". she didn't seem too impressed by it. - when she was talking to her ex, i was alone with her friends. they were all talking about what was going on & i was just sitting there watching. then, one of them suggested that i should've pretended to be her boyfriend & put my arm around her when her ex came. later that night, i told her about what they said just to see how she'd react. she said that would've been a great idea & we joked about it. - i spent most of the night with her friends, but it wasn't so bad. her friends seemed to like me & i know there was at least one instance where i know two of them were looking at me from a different side of the room & talking low. - spoke to her recently & she told me she's going on a date with this guy on friday (and she even said they had already went on 2 dates). i dunno if she's lying or if she's playing with me on purpose, but i definitely know that at one point she did like me (i'm certain). so what do you think of that? is she trying to make me jealous to ask her out? is she moving on? or is she just being mean & leading me on? AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, do you think she still likes me? i'm seeing her this week, so i need to know.
Charles1978 Posted November 14, 2008 Posted November 14, 2008 Seems to me that she has put you in the friend zone. Pretty much all of her actions... especially with the ex and sharing with you that she is going on dates are dead giveaways. My advice would be to pull back a bit, although the friend zone is almost unescapable. I've done it, but it requires drastic measures.
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