vince1128 Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 This girl I like a lot who ive been dating but am not officially "dating" (but kissing and normal dating behavior) likes to play the game. She is the game player type, and likes to play hard to get. I feel like she might lose attraction in me because she knows i really like her and am readily available. if she calls or txts, ill respond. but when i call or txt her, shell respond 90% of the time.. Last night I texted her a msg that wasnt supposed to go to her but i did on purpose and it was talking to this other girl coming to my house real late last night. The girl came over to do math, but It worked, and she was begging to hang with me all day. She is really good at the game, and likes it, it keeps things "more interesting".. i disagree but what ever. How can I continue to keep her on the edge instead of letting her control the relationship?
4dviceJunki3 Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 Simple, don't always be available for her.. The fear of her losing attraction in you is normal; I've had it happen to me before. However, you cant let yourself move forward that way or else you'll end up getting paranoid. Just be normal with her, show limited interest, and don't always be available. IMO, girls who like to play games are the ones you stay away from but if you're a bit caught up, then go at it! =)
Author vince1128 Posted November 13, 2008 Author Posted November 13, 2008 Simple, don't always be available for her.. The fear of her losing attraction in you is normal; I've had it happen to me before. However, you cant let yourself move forward that way or else you'll end up getting paranoid. Just be normal with her, show limited interest, and don't always be available. IMO, girls who like to play games are the ones you stay away from but if you're a bit caught up, then go at it! =) yeah, i am kinda caught up at this point...you think i should just stop worrying about her or what shes thinking and not show her as much attention?
4dviceJunki3 Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 yeah, i am kinda caught up at this point...you think i should just stop worrying about her or what shes thinking and not show her as much attention? Well for the sake of your own sanity, you should always keep her at a distance until both of you have completely established a strong relationship and you can then open yourself up to her completely and trust her 100%. Right now, if you let yourself get too caught up in her and things don't work out, you'll be right back here posting your heartbroken story, trust me. Pursue it but keep your distance. If you hit her up to hang out and she says she cant, say "Okay that's fine, i'll talk to you later" or something. Also, and this is a big one that a lot of guys do, but if she hits you up and you actually have other plans, DON'T CANCEL FOR HER. In other words, yes don't give her that much attention and make it seem like you're not always there. This sort of creates, for her, a "high demand" for you, so to say.
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