edinsvet Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Hey everybody. Can you tell me your opinions and experiences with online vs. offline. I have been doing mostly online dating lately. But the few women I met offline were just much better than the ones I met online. I am thinking of deleting my profile and going all offline in 2009. How many of you here had better experiences offline or online?
Kukulkan Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Hey everybody. Can you tell me your opinions and experiences with online vs. offline. I have been doing mostly online dating lately. But the few women I met offline were just much better than the ones I met online. I am thinking of deleting my profile and going all offline in 2009. How many of you here had better experiences offline or online? Online is the worst, in my experience. Too many, "what if" variables at play: 1. What if they look nothing like their photo? 2. What if they are completely different in person? 3. What if they're secretly a psycho-stalker? The list goes on an on man, all I know is, I attempted it for a few months and had a couple of hits. I think I only ended up meeting one girl in person, and she ended up being waaay different looking than her photos. On the other hand, I just recently started going out a lot more lately with my friends - hitting concerts, parties, etc. and have already had a couple of decent prospects. I think ultimately the thing I like about meeting someone in real life is the chemistry, you know immediately whether or not you will click with the other person when you meet in a real life setting.
Adamagnet Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Online is the worst, in my experience. Too many, "what if" variables at play: 1. What if they look nothing like their photo? 2. What if they are completely different in person? 3. What if they're secretly a psycho-stalker? The list goes on an on man, all I know is, I attempted it for a few months and had a couple of hits. I think I only ended up meeting one girl in person, and she ended up being waaay different looking than her photos. 1. Have them send a pic of themselves with today's newspaper. 2. People you meet in person can also turn out differently. 3. See Above
Kukulkan Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 1. Have them send a pic of themselves with today's newspaper. 2. People you meet in person can also turn out differently. 3. See Above What exactly is the purpose of your post, to try to rebut my opinions or to say you prefer online dating?
D-Jam Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 Hey everybody. Can you tell me your opinions and experiences with online vs. offline. I have been doing mostly online dating lately. But the few women I met offline were just much better than the ones I met online. I am thinking of deleting my profile and going all offline in 2009. How many of you here had better experiences offline or online? My offline experiences have been better than online. I would tell anyone who uses online to make sure that it's not their ONLY means to meet people. Biggest issue I've seen are those who join 3-5 sites (both free and paid) and basically spend every evening (including weekends) searching, browsing, and emailing. How could anyone find such a person interesting if their only hobby right now is trying to land a date off a site? Plus most of the time these people tend to only have interests that aren't very sociable. So to the outside observer, they appear as antisocial, boring, and uninteresting. For anyone who uses online dating, they should keep it as a small side thing. If they choose to get off or just want more, then the answer would be to get involved with things that will be sociable...and not "singles oriented". I say that because joining singles groups or going to singles nights won't give them any better luck...but more end up with a room full of guys or a room full of the same people who rejected them on the dating sites. I also tell anyone (like I did in that nice guy topic) not to go in with expectations. Just go out, have fun, enjoy life, and be friendly and sociable...but don't go into an event, gathering, or some hobby-oriented thing with the expectation that you'll meet some people and score some numbers. More take on the "if it happens it happens" mentality. You'll have less pressure on yourself to make anything happen, and no disappointment if nothing happens.
D-Jam Posted November 12, 2008 Posted November 12, 2008 1. What if they look nothing like their photo? I'll get up and walk out immediately. Had one woman show me photos of herself when she was 50 lbs lighter, then when I showed up she was bigger. I didn't bother even trying to be nice or polite. I got up and told her we're done. She tried to play the "you're shallow" card on me, but I pointed out how she's trying to get men on dates by lying...so I can't trust someone who won't be honest with me. Same goes for women...if he shows you buff pics with a full head of hair and shows up bald and obese...walk. Don't be nice...just walk. 2. What if they are completely different in person? If you're talking in terms of looks, then same answer as #1. If you're talking in terms of personality, then finish the date, but when he/she makes talk of a second date, HONESTLY tell them you're not interested and felt no chemistry or you were not into them or something. Don't try to "protect someone's feelings". If someone has a bad personality, then lies and such won't help them grow and improve themselves. Maybe they won't like being rejected, but it might make them rethink how they act. 3. What if they're secretly a psycho-stalker? This is why you only give out a cell number at the most. I even understand why many women won't give that out and want to set it all up on the site. It's why I tell anyone to make the first date some dinner or coffee where you two meet up. Not the old tradition of one person being picked up at their home. As for the person trying to make a date and yet he/she won't give you a number or email, but wants it all set up on the site's PMs...bear in mind it's a crazy world out there, and just make the date, show up, live up to your word. If you get blown off, then send a nasty email back and cut contact. If you get through the date and he/she still won't give you any contact info, then you know they're not interested. If they show you interest, but still won't give you contact info...then you might want to wonder if this person is sane or if they have a spouse/SO and are cheating on them with you.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 I'm dead even. I have just as poor of a relationship status as I do from offline. However, I find that I am at more ease with meeting a woman AFTER I have met her online. But, I do admit that the online relationships have been long lasting.
flc Posted November 13, 2008 Posted November 13, 2008 Since the whole point of online is to meet someone offline if you have the time and inclination to start there I don't see why you wouldn't? As you said some of the if's about online are removed but then you also start with whole other list of if's when you meet someone offline. I have two kids I'm 50 and a business professional that travels a lot. I personally do not enjoy going to clubs to meet women and spend most of my free time with my kids. So online worked out for me and I am currently in a 4mos relationship with someone I met online and very happy with it.
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