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I'm having a problem with my friend, who I've developed stronger feelings for. I've thought he was into me too because of the way he would act around me (staring, shy, blushing, looking down most of the time, etc). I've asked him to hang out twice and he said yes. But, because of our busy schedules, we haven't hung out. Today, I was talking to him on IM. I asked if he wanted to do lunch Fri and he didnt answer until a little while later apologizing and saying he was doing something. He mentioned he was working on a lab report. So we talked for a little while and then I asked again if he wanted to do something perhaps over Thanksgiving break. And he never answered! He set his status to 'Away'.

 

Does his non-responsiveness mean he doesn't want to hang out with me?

 

Please help.

Thank you!

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Phone. It's an amazing device invented by a really cool guy back in the 19th century. Use it :)

 

OTOH, even a shy guy will respond if he's interested. I know this :)

 

I would call him once to "hang out", gauge the tone of his response and let that guide my actions.

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Hmmm... Maybe he is not into you as you thought he is, but dont take my word for it.. iono

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No, I think he's too sensitive to tell you he's not into dating you.

 

He likes you, a lot.

 

But he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, because I don't think he has the kind of feelings for you, that you have for him.

 

And how to tell you that without hurting you?

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I'm having a problem with my friend, who I've developed stronger feelings for. I've thought he was into me too because of the way he would act around me (staring, shy, blushing, looking down most of the time, etc). I've asked him to hang out twice and he said yes. But, because of our busy schedules, we haven't hung out. Today, I was talking to him on IM. I asked if he wanted to do lunch Fri and he didnt answer until a little while later apologizing and saying he was doing something. He mentioned he was working on a lab report. So we talked for a little while and then I asked again if he wanted to do something perhaps over Thanksgiving break. And he never answered! He set his status to 'Away'.

 

Does his non-responsiveness mean he doesn't want to hang out with me?

 

Please help.

Thank you!

 

His non-responsiveness could mean that he's just not sure what to do, not necessarily whether he likes you or not. I suggest you push forth a little more instead of giving up on him and see where it'll take you.

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no, i think he's too sensitive to tell you he's not into dating you.

 

He likes you, a lot.

 

But he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, because i don't think he has the kind of feelings for you, that you have for him.

 

And how to tell you that without hurting you?

 

bingo ! ..................... :)

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well, as a guy, all i can say is that he probably doesn't know what to do.

 

what u described, there is really no way to know if he is not interested or he is and he is nt sure how to go about making the next move. (some guys prefer to be the one making the moves instead)

 

u only can keep trying. or sit back and let him chase you.

 

at this point i think the most important thing is to do something that doesn't make you regret and not finding out which way will make him like you.

 

 

 

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